--- description: And why some scars stay with us title: Amanda Gorman and the Art of Being Unfinished and Imperfect image: https://static.time.com/v3/assets/bltea6093859af6183b/blt0439362bfff81da0/698a16b8929fad06c0bf70a5/GettyImages-INJY-Lead-BrokenMIrror.jpg?branch=production&width=3840&quality=75&auto=webp&crop=16:9 ---  * [Ideas](/section/ideas/) ## Ideas Update your preferences in [Account Settings](/account/preferences/) Close * [It's Not Just You](/tag/its-not-just-you/) ## It's Not Just You Update your preferences in [Account Settings](/account/preferences/) Close # Amanda Gorman and the Art of Being Unfinished and Imperfect  by [Susanna Schrobsdorff](/author/susanna-schrobsdorff/)  ## Susanna Schrobsdorff Update your preferences in [Account Settings](/account/preferences/) Close Jan 24, 2021 6:36 AM CUT  Sunrise through a broken mirror. Sunrise through a broken mirror.Getty Images  by [Susanna Schrobsdorff](/author/susanna-schrobsdorff/)  ## Susanna Schrobsdorff Update your preferences in [Account Settings](/account/preferences/) Close Jan 24, 2021 6:36 AM CUT _A version of this article appeared in this week’s It’s Not Just You newsletter._ [_SUBSCRIBE HERE_](https://ti.me/3jD4Hwo "undefined") _to have It’s Not Just You_ _delivered to your inbox every Sunday._ --- > “” --- **I am one of those people whose scars are visible**—both physical and emotional ones. The scar you notice first when you meet me is on my upper lip. It’s not a surface mark; it’s an intractable knot that bunches the skin like an imperfectly mended hem. (My less tangible scars show up in other ways; just ask my family.) Over the years, that old wound of mine, that vulnerability, has given people permission to share their own less-visible vulnerabilities with me. And I’m not the first to make this observation, but I’ve learned that no matter how together someone may seem, most of us have a private list of broken bits—the things we think we need to conceal or erase. If only we could fix those asymmetries, we tell ourselves, or fill that gap and find that missing ingredient—whether it’s a title, a certain weight, the cure for some anxiety or acceptance in a group we covet—we’ll finally feel whole. When I heard the line in [Amanda Gorman’s](https://time.com/5930015/poet-amanda-gorman-biden-inauguration/ "undefined") dazzling inaugural poem where she describes the United States as “a nation that is not broken, but simply unfinished,” I thought of all those things that make us feel unworthy, unfinished, or broken. **How transformative would it be** if we could embrace the idea that _unfinished_ is our natural and permanent state? Is it possible for us to accept that there is no seamless fix for what ails us individually or as a community? Our path, if we’re lucky, is evolution without an end. We’ll carry with us the scars of this long year, and of all our history. And as someone who’s spent years trying to paper over, distract from or excise a deep scar, I can tell you: even if no one else sees it, _you_ never forget it’s there. **So as we go about mending a nation, and ourselves,** perhaps we can take inspiration from [Kintsugi](https://www.artsy.net/article/artsy-editorial-centuries-old-japanese-tradition-mending-broken-ceramics-gold "undefined"), a very old Japanese tradition in which broken pottery pieces are put together with gold lacquer. You don’t hide the cracks; you celebrate the repairs. Golden rivulets bind shards of a bowl or cup. Scars become art. And the result is something more beautiful than perfect: something visibly resilient. 💌  Kintsugi, a traditional Japanese restoration technique uses gold to mend broken pottery. Getty Images/iStockphoto **If you’re new to** **_It’s Not Just You,_**[**SUBSCRIBE HERE** ](https://ti.me/2TwyJHH "undefined")**to get a weekly dose delivered to your inbox for free. (Send comments and suggestions to me at Susanna@time.com )**  [**SUBSCRIBE HERE**](https://ti.me/2TwyJHH "undefined") ## COPING KIT ⛱️ We’re heading toward the first anniversary of the stay-at-home orders wrought by the coronavirus pandemic, and for those without nearby family, it’s been tough. And it’s not over yet, so here are a few thoughts on dealing with isolation: [**How to Combat Pandemic Loneliness** ](https://www.nytimes.com/2020/12/18/well/pandemic-loneliness-isolation-coronavirus.html "undefined")From making an old-fashioned voice call to a friend, to helping a stranger or walking outside and finding opportunities for ad-hoc interactions in the neighborhood or town, maintaining social connections is essential for mental health. [**Loneliness Is a Modern Invention.**](https://time.com/5828736/loneliness-coronavirus-history/ "undefined") How understanding that history can help us get through this pandemic.  Amanda Gorman, delivers a poem during the inauguration of President Joe Biden in Washington, D.C. on Jan 20. Erin Schaf—Pool/Getty Images National Youth Poet Laureate, **A word about Amanda Gorman,** the luminous 22-year-old poet who lifted a bruised and not so united United States with her stunning inaugural poem, [“The Hill We Climb.”](https://time.com/5930015/poet-amanda-gorman-biden-inauguration/ "undefined") In that poem, Gorman challenged us to become the generous and resilient people she sees with those wise young eyes. --- > “” --- Gorman, who is the first National Youth Poet Laureate of the United States also wrote a poem in April in response to the pandemic. It’s called “The Miracle of Morning,” and you can [hear her read it here](https://www.pbs.org/newshour/arts/amanda-gormans-poetic-answer-to-pandemic-grief-do-not-ignore-the-pain "undefined"), This is just one of the inspiring passages: --- > “” --- ## **EVIDENCE OF HUMAN KINDNESS ❤️** Here’s your weekly reminder that creating a community of generosity elevates us all.  Zoel Zohnnie, founder of Water Warriors United Courtesy of Zoel Zohnnie—Water Warriors United/Pandemic of Love [**Zoel Zohnnie,**](https://www.collectivemedicine.net/about-us "undefined") **is a Navajo Native from Arizona**, but calls the [Four Corners](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Four%5FCorners "undefined") region his home. At the onset of the pandemic, when his community issued a shelter-in-home order, Zoel, raised by his native elders to serve those in need, began to deliver safe, clean drinking water to families in the most remote areas of the Navajo Reservation. A significant percentage of that population does not have access to running water or clean water in their homes, a deficit that is particularly problematic during a pandemic when hand washing is critical. With his own pickup truck and a few barrels of water, Zoel (pictured above) began doing daily deliveries, and soon, word of his efforts spread throughout the Tribe. He was getting more requests on a daily basis than he could meet. He had to purchase another truck and a flatbed, and eventually two and then three, and more. **Zoel needed funding** to continue his grassroots efforts, which he formalized into the non-profit, [_Water Warriors United_](https://www.collectivemedicine.net/water-warriors-united "undefined")_._ Then he was introduced to [_Pandemic of Love_](https://www.pandemicoflove.com/ "undefined") through a mutual friend of the organization’s founder. Pivoting from its normal course of 1:1 matches between families in need and donors, [_Pandemic of Love_ designed a way for donors](https://forms.gle/ziEnSWxPft9xsgL69 "undefined") to “adopt a Navajo household” and purchase a delivered and installed barrel of water on an on-going basis for families on the reservation.  Water Warriors United delivers clean water to families in the Navajo Nation. Courtesy Zoel Zohnnie —Water Warriors United/Pandemic of Love Since their partnership began in late April, _Water Warriors United_ has delivered over 325,000 gallons of water to families in need, and Zoel says the program has made his mother proud: “When I told my mom about the water campaign, she cried, and said: ‘That is how we are raised—we were taught to be there for one another when we need to be.’” He also says he’s been inspired by the spirit of his ancestors, especially his father: _“_God has always put someone in my life who has helped me…I want to be that for others—I am a vessel for His work and I strongly believe that.” Zoel pledges that the grassroots Navajo Nation Water Campaign will continue as long as he has requests for water. _This story is courtesy of_ [_Shelly Tygielski_](https://www.instagram.com/mindfulskatergirl/ "undefined")_, founder of_ [_Pandemic of Love, a grassroots organization_ ](https://www.pandemicoflove.com/ "undefined")_that matches those who want to become donors or volunteers directly with those who’ve asked for help with essential needs. Visit_ [_Pandemic of Love to give or apply for assistance._](https://www.pandemicoflove.com/ "undefined") ## COMFORT CREATURES 🐕 🐈 Our weekly acknowledgment of the animals that help us make it through the storm. (Send your comfort creature photos, or other comments and suggestions to me at Susanna@time.com ) Meet **MAX** and **MIMI**, rescue kittens born at the start of the pandemic and adopted in June by **EMILY**. And here’s **PHOEBE** who has become very affectionate in her old age, shared by **SUSAN** in Eugene, OR.  Max and Mimi Courtesy Susanna Schrobsdorff  Phoebe (left) and Susan Courtesy Susanna Schrobsdorff 🌺 **Did someone forward you this newsletter?** [**SUBSCRIBE to** **_It’s Not Just You_** **here.**](https://ti.me/3jD4Hwo "undefined") _Editor’s Note: An earlier version of this article had one instance where Amanda Gorman’s name was misspelled as Gordon._ ```json [{"@context":"https://schema.org","@type":"OpinionNewsArticle","@id":"https://time.com/5932994/amanda-gorman-and-the-art-of-being-unfinished-and-imperfect/","mainEntityOfPage":{"@type":"WebPage","@id":"https://time.com/5932994/amanda-gorman-and-the-art-of-being-unfinished-and-imperfect/"},"headline":"Amanda Gorman and the Art of Being Unfinished and Imperfect","datePublished":"2021-01-24T06:36:51.000Z","dateModified":"2026-05-11T04:42:07.724Z","description":"And why some scars stay with us","url":"https://time.com/5932994/amanda-gorman-and-the-art-of-being-unfinished-and-imperfect/","keywords":["It's Not Just You","Living","Evergreen"],"thumbnailUrl":"https://static.time.com/v3/assets/bltea6093859af6183b/blt0439362bfff81da0/698a16b8929fad06c0bf70a5/GettyImages-INJY-Lead-BrokenMIrror.jpg?branch=production&width=1200&quality=75&auto=webp&crop=1200:675&height=675","author":[{"@type":"Person","name":"Susanna Schrobsdorff","jobTitle":null,"url":"https://time.com/author/susanna-schrobsdorff/"}],"articleSection":"Ideas","image":[{"@type":"ImageObject","url":"https://static.time.com/v3/assets/bltea6093859af6183b/blt0439362bfff81da0/698a16b8929fad06c0bf70a5/GettyImages-INJY-Lead-BrokenMIrror.jpg?branch=production&width=1200&quality=75&auto=webp&crop=1200:675&height=675","width":1200,"height":675,"headline":"Mystic picture of guy playing with sunlight during sunrise in the nature seen through a broken mirror.","caption":"INJY-Mirror-Mystic picture of guy playing with sunlight during sunrise in the nature seen through a broken mirror.","creditText":"Getty Images","representativeOfPage":true}],"publisher":{"@type":"Organization","name":"Time","url":"https://time.com/","logo":{"@type":"ImageObject","url":"https://time.com/images/logo.png","width":528,"height":156},"foundingDate":"March 3, 1923","sameAs":["https://www.facebook.com/time","https://www.instagram.com/time/?hl=en","https://twitter.com/time","https://www.pinterest.com/timemagazine"]}},{"@context":"https://schema.org","@type":"BreadcrumbList","itemListElement":[{"@type":"ListItem","position":1,"item":{"@id":"/section/ideas/","name":"Ideas"}},{"@type":"ListItem","position":2,"item":{"@id":"/tag/its-not-just-you/","name":"It's Not Just You"}},{"@type":"ListItem","position":3,"item":{"@id":"https://time.com/5932994/amanda-gorman-and-the-art-of-being-unfinished-and-imperfect/","name":"Amanda Gorman and the Art of Being Unfinished and Imperfect"}}]}] ```