Maria Shriver’s annual report on Women in America came out Sunday, and the findings are bleak.
“These are not women trying to ‘have it all,'” Shriver wrote in the introduction to the report, which was co-sponsored by the Center for American Progress. “These are women who are already doing it all — working hard, providing, parenting, and care-giving. They’re doing it all, yet they and their families can’t prosper, and that’s weighing the U.S. economy down.”
Here’s what we learned from the in-depth report on how women are doing in post-recession America.
The report also included a piece about the other side of the equation: men. For more on how low-income fathers think about fatherhood and their relationships with their children’s mothers, check out this piece by Kathryn Eden who interviewed over 100 low-income dads who don’t live with their kids for her 2013 book, Doing The Best I Can: Fatherhood In The Inner City. She found that since condoms are usually seen as disease-preventing safeguards rather than contraceptives, it’s become a sign of intimacy and trust to stop using condoms. And since pregnancy is sometimes considered the cornerstone of a serious relationship rather than the capstone, the young parents she interviewed didn’t have the same level of trust and stability as other couples who had been together longer.
The dads she spoke to were often ecstatic to have kids– they saw children as a clean slate. Many of them weren’t worried about jeopardizing their futures, because they didn’t feel they had a future to jeopardize. But their fragile relationships with the mothers quickly deteriorated under the stress of new parenthood, and fathers who were unable to provide for their kids sometimes tried to substitute emotional support for financial contribution. Mothers who were struggling to pay the bills resented the fathers’ financial inadequacies and often tried to find a new, richer guy to be their kids’ dad. This isolates the father and takes the child on a “father-go-round,” as the mother looks for a partner who can actually bring some resources. Isolated from their children, the fathers often start over again with a new girlfriend and end up repeating the cycle and perpetuating some of the dire situations outlined in the Shriver report.
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