--- title: Living With Muscular Dystrophy Makes Death My Shadow Partner description: 'As I turn 50, I am filled with mixed emotions. I dread what lies ahead if I reach 60,' writes Alice Wong. canonical: https://time.com/6960765/alice-wong-muscular-dystrophy-essay/ author: Alice Wong article:opinion: true article:content_tier: free article:published_time: 2024-03-27T11:00:00.000Z article:modified_time: 2026-02-24T17:21:46.315Z article:section: Ideas og:title: Living With Muscular Dystrophy Makes Death My Shadow Partner og:description: "As I turn 50, I am filled with mixed emotions. 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I was diagnosed with an undetermined type of muscular dystrophy as a young child, and doctors told my parents I wouldn’t live to become an adult. My immigrant parents cried when they heard the news. Even though this news was devastating, they never treated me like a fragile egg about to break. In fact, as the first born child of three girls, I had a lot of responsibilities and expectations which only reinforced my Aries tendencies. While my parents always supported me, I knew at an early age that my life was different. And since they didn’t sugarcoat anything to me, I had a very clear sense that my time was limited. In my bedroom, with a scary clown ceiling light above me at night, my vivid imagination wondered how I would die–would it be a slow and painful death? Would it be fast from a medical emergency? Knowing my muscles are progressively weakening as I struggled to walk as a child and breathe as a teenager always kept death at the forefront of my mind. Believing I had no future shaped me in ways I am still processing today. Birthdays have given me pause for reflection, especially this year. I recently looked at a picture taken from my 40th birthday party and could not recognize myself. I wasn’t wearing a BiPap mask because at the time I only had to use it intermittently to support my breathing. I did not wear a belt across my chest which I need now because my upper body has grown weaker. I recalled being exhausted after the party. When I got home, I immediately put my mask on and turned on the ventilator. It was a sweet relief. Shortly after I started to use it for longer periods of time until I began using it all day and night. I didn’t see it as a failure of my body but part of the inevitable downward slide toward my final destination. **_Read more:_** [_‘This Is Really Life or Death.’ For People With Disabilities, Coronavirus Is Making It Harder Than Ever to Receive Care_](https://time.com/5826098/coronavirus-people-with-disabilities/) Two years ago, I experienced the most harrowing and traumatic [series of medical crises that led to weeks in the ICU](https://disabilityvisibilityproject.com/2022/08/07/my-icu-summer-a-photo-essay/) which left me without the ability to speak due to a tracheostomy, a tube in the throat connected to a ventilator, and the ability to swallow and eat or drink by mouth. This resulted in needing a feeding tube that goes into my stomach and intestine. During my hospitalization, I also lost sensation in my bladder so now I urinate through a catheter four to five times a day. Those weeks were like a fever dream–I couldn’t sleep for days because every time I closed my eyes I feared I would never wake up. I was in tremendous pain and could only communicate by mouthing words to my sisters or scrawling on a pad of paper. In the few moments when I could write, I outlined instructions to my sisters on what to do if I didn’t make it. Was this the way I would die? It was my closest brush with death in a series of many but I lived to tell another tale. But I was determined to claw my way forward to another day. I am still adjusting to life again in a new body and way of life that requires a considerable number of resources, supplies, and machinery to stay alive and avoid institutionalization. The amount of maintenance and [administrative work it takes to be disabled in America](https://www.teenvogue.com/story/medicaid-coverage-covid) has also taken a toll—the additional [out-of-pocket home care](https://www.teenvogue.com/story/alice-wong-hospitalization-crowdfunding-community) that I need now is $840 a day. With the donations from my GoFundMe dwindling, managing and directing a team of caregivers for my daily activities requires a lot of forethought and clear communication. Being disabled in a nondisabled world is precarious, one of constant adaptation. I remade myself into [a new cyborg form that still has a voice](https://www.kqed.org/perspectives/201601142614/alice-wong-i-still-have-a-voice), a breath, and a will to live. Right now, as my body is at its lowest point, I am at the height of my powers. I have never been more happy, free, and resolute on what I want to do. As I turn 50, I am filled with mixed emotions. I dread what lies ahead if I reach 60\. Will this be my final decade of life? Maybe it’s ok that I can’t predict what will happen or what the future will hold since no one can. What I will do is spend my time, energy, and labor intentionally with the people I care about. I will host dinner parties, make chili crisp for my friends, and spoil my cats Bert and Ernie. I will treasure every breath pushed through my ventilator and be grateful to have a rare night’s sleep without pain. And most importantly, I will try to rest and care for myself. Death remains my intimate shadow partner. It has been with me since birth, always hovering close by. I understand one day we will finally waltz together into the ether. 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