--- title: One Family's Struggle to Mourn In the Age of Coronavirus description: Currently, even death has been turned inside out; the bodies are crowding together at makeshift morgues, and the bereaved are left alone. canonical: https://time.com/5817854/mourning-coronavirus-funerals/ author: Belinda Luscombe article:opinion: false article:content_tier: free article:published_time: 2020-04-11T13:00:55.000Z article:modified_time: 2026-08-04T07:45:06.088Z og:title: One Family's Struggle to Mourn In the Age of Coronavirus og:description: Currently, even death has been turned inside out; the bodies are crowding together at makeshift morgues, and the bereaved are left alone. og:url: https://time.com/5817854/mourning-coronavirus-funerals/ og:site_name: TIME og:image: https://static.time.com/v3/assets/bltea6093859af6183b/blt072a97c270849e53/698a0cb2457a52317ed63ce4/jacobson-family-grieving-coronavirus.jpg?branch=production&width=865&quality=75&auto=webp&crop=16:9 og:image:width: 865 og:image:height: 487 og:image:alt: solomon-family-grieving-coronavirus og:type: article twitter:card: summary_large_image twitter:title: One Family's Struggle to Mourn In the Age of Coronavirus twitter:description: Currently, even death has been turned inside out; the bodies are crowding together at makeshift morgues, and the bereaved are left alone. twitter:image: https://static.time.com/v3/assets/bltea6093859af6183b/blt072a97c270849e53/698a0cb2457a52317ed63ce4/jacobson-family-grieving-coronavirus.jpg?branch=production&width=865&quality=75&auto=webp&crop=16:9 ---  # "It Feels Like He Got Abducted by Aliens." 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Covid-19 has hit Dougherty County, Ga. particularly hard and Michael Fowler, the coroner there, says it's different from any other disaster he's ever worked on._  by [Belinda Luscombe](https://time.com/author/belinda-luscombe/)  ## Belinda Luscombe Editor at Large Apr 11, 2020 1:00 PM UTC  Stephen Solomon and his wife at their wedding in 1977. Stephen Solomon and his wife at their wedding in 1977. Courtesy of Jacob Solomon  by [Belinda Luscombe](https://time.com/author/belinda-luscombe/)  ## Belinda Luscombe Editor at Large Apr 11, 2020 1:00 PM UTC In the two weeks since his father died, Jacob Solomon hasn’t been able to hug his mother. Nobody in his very big extended family has been able to drop by with food or to sit and listen and cry. Jacob’s mom has the same coronavirus that killed her husband, and cannot accept visitors. After he called his mother with the news, Jacob called his aunt and she drove over and tried to comfort her sister while standing in the backyard of her New Jersey home, a few feet from the window. Grief is a lonely and confusing experience, even in less troubled times. Everybody knows it will come, but training for it is impossible. So when death calls, humans often rely on a series of rituals and traditions that anchor them to the past and the future, that draw them close to the people they have while not diminishing the love for those they have lost. People sit shiva. They hold a requiem mass. They have a memorial service, a jazz funeral, a smoking ceremony, a wake. They do not go through it alone. But in the current season, even death has been turned inside out; the bodies are crowding together at makeshift morgues, and the bereaved are left sitting alone in a tomb of loss. The Solomon family’s experience shows how difficult that can be. “We couldn’t dress my father in a suit,” says Jacob Solomon, 39, over Zoom. “He was buried in a pouch in a coffin. I wasn’t allowed to see him. So he went into the ambulance on Friday morning and we never saw him again. It feels like he got abducted by aliens.” Jews generally bury their dead within a day. Stephen Solomon, 72, died on Tuesday, March 24, but because of all the new protocols surrounding the coronavirus, he wasn’t buried until the following Sunday. And even then it was hardly a comforting experience. “I don’t refer to what we had for dad as a funeral,” says Jacob. “I refer to it as a burial.” The very last blessing you can give a person, Jewish tradition states, is to put earth on their grave. But coronavirus regulations prevent the sharing of shovels, so Jacob and his four fellow mourners (his husband, his mother’s sister and her husband and child) had to bring their own, a tip Jacob had picked up from a Zoom funeral he attended in which mourners had to use their hands to put soil on the coffin. They sat apart from each other. Nobody hugged. Everybody already knew every single story in the eulogy Jacob gave. If the burial was difficult, the aftermath was depressing. “Under normal circumstances, I would have gone back to my parents house,” he says. “All my parents’ friends would be talking to us and distracting us and remembering good times and there would be a whole lunch platter of Jewish deli-food, like whitefish and lox and the bagels. We would be comforted by the people around us.” Instead Jacob went back to his own apartment, made a turkey sandwich and ate it alone. These small afflictions are in no way comparable to the loss of human life COVID-19 has wrought, but they compound each community’s sense of loneliness and depletion. And as the deaths pile up, so do the displaced and disoriented mourners. Jacob’s sister is with his mom, for which he’s grateful. But they can’t tell how his mother is doing. Some days she comes to the phone. Some days she just stays curled up in bed. “We can’t tell if it’s the grief or the coronavirus,” he says. He has been on Zoom calls with his relatives, and has even performed some Jewish rituals over Zoom, for which he’s also grateful, but it’s just not the same. His mother and sister can’t even bring themselves to use any form of FaceTime. They’re also too afraid of the virus to accept any prepared food from well-wishers. They’ve lived in a cocoon since Stephen died. “What this virus has taken away is the most valuable thing we have; that we can support each other,” Jacob says. “The hug and the touch. Thousands of years of traditions for dealing with death, they’re taken away.” Jacob fights the thought daily that his father didn’t deserve this. Stephen Solomon was a ball of energy. His own father had died when he was 6 weeks old and he grew up poor. He sold newspapers from the age of 5\. He was in the Coast Guard Reserve and had two master’s degrees. He worked as a medical devices engineer by day, but would take night shifts at Target just to keep himself engaged. He was an active member of his local temple, and when someone was needed to take the self defense training, to protect the synagogue from a tragedy like the[ December 2019 stabbings](https://time.com/5756441/hanukkah-stabbing-new-york/) in New York’s Rockland county, he stepped up. “Nobody else had signed up,” says his son. In a cruel irony, it was in learning how to survive an attack that the elder Solomon caught the virus that would kill him. The instructor had it, and didn’t know. “We have a very, very large family,” says Jacob, sitting in his apartment in front of a framed piece of crochet his mom’s great aunt made. “I’m as close with third or fourth cousins as I am with first.” Growing up, his family didn’t really go on vacations. But they would travel to all the big family occasions. “No matter how strapped he was financially, if there was a bar mitzvah or a wedding my dad was there,” says Jacob. Their last trip as a family was in January to Palm Beach for his mother’s cousin’s 80th birthday. That’s what he wanted for his father. A big family occasion. He knew everyone would have flown in. Everyone would have sent meals. “A shiva just makes sense,” he says. “It gives people something to do.” Without it, and with all the restrictions on other daily activity, there’s nothing to hide the void where the person was. “The normal life distractions to help you get through this just don’t exist. You’re just sitting there,” he says. He doesn’t want to watch the news because it reminds him of another bad day when nothing could be done. “It’s like the morning of September 11 again and again over a month.” Jacob’s only solace is that he is stepping up and taking care of things in the way his father would have wanted. And he’s looking forward to finally embracing his mother in another week or so, although he’s dreading it too, because it will make his father’s death more real. “I just can’t imagine how painful that hug is going to be,” Jacob says. ## Transcript Hey, how you doing? Good. Got another case? There's a 90 year old female. A lot of time deals come at night. My following, the steady ringing so many families are calling. Want to know? Have their loved one been tested? I reckon mine drilling just going. I mean, I just want to be there to assist the family as much as I possibly can to get them ounces. Know when we bring the remains in to bring them over here. I think March 15, that's the first day, my first day off came in. Then I had another day death 3 a.m. on the same day and all of them had the same symptoms. We had them tested. All three of them came back positive. So we just shocking what we have a we have a pandemic here. What do we have? You look forward to happen to me in a big city because you have so many people there. But here in a small city. Well, how did it happen and why did it happen here? It was just a shock to this community. It will no fault tit if our home. But it would just about it came on notice. An unknown and is spreading among our community. It just it just went like wildfire. It would just like a bomb hit here just ahead that I will in New York for the World Trade Center. We had all the different want to sign it. I worked the world Trade Center and in New York, I did the tsunami. Thousands of death, Puerto Rico, Irma maria. This disaster is completely different from, you know, the disaster that I've worked because you can't see the virus. You don't know who is contagious, who is not contagious, who have the virus, who don't have the virus. So it's a walking mystery when we walk into one house. Now, I used to go in with my suit on talking to the families send out to console them. Now, I can't do that. I got to put on topic. I got to put on the mayor's. My job is to pronounce death. Find out why a person died. But on the other token, I want to save lives. Not only when I get a call saying that we have a deceased person. I asked the question. And have the person been a spouse? I've been around someone with the virus. I'm trying to seek and find out who may be infected so I can let their family members know You need to go get tested. You need to do something because we don't want you to die. Also, we're here at the courthouse and I mean, it is so quiet, you can hear a pin drop. I mean, it is so quiet is on real that so many people, though, obeying the orders and staying in. And I know my hat's off to them. You're going to take time to recover because many of us live paycheck to paycheck. Many are working in their restaurants for tips, not not working. So the rent, but getting behind the light bill to do. I believe we're going to come back. We're going to come back stronger just a matter of time. 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