--- title: Sheryl Sandberg on How to Speak With Grieving People description: Sandberg, who spoke extensively to TIME about her husband's death, says she felt incredibly isolated when she returned to work canonical: https://time.com/4751235/sheryl-sandberg-grief-dave-golberg-option-b/ author: Diane Tsai article:opinion: false article:content_tier: free article:published_time: 2017-04-25T11:00:21.000Z article:modified_time: 2026-04-13T08:57:51.534Z og:title: Sheryl Sandberg: What Not to Say to a Friend Who’s Having a Hard Time og:description: The Facebook COO shares her tips for lending a hand to the heartbroken og:url: https://time.com/4751235/sheryl-sandberg-grief-dave-golberg-option-b/ og:site_name: TIME og:image: https://static.time.com/v3/assets/bltea6093859af6183b/blt0f37d2d9d10ed731/6988c4002dce014ba39ed284/sheryl-sandberg-2.jpg?branch=production&width=1200&quality=75&auto=webp&crop=16:9 og:image:width: 1855 og:image:height: 1043 og:image:alt: Sheryl Sandberg Option B og:type: article twitter:card: summary_large_image twitter:title: Sheryl Sandberg: What Not to Say to a Friend Who’s Having a Hard Time twitter:description: The Facebook COO shares her tips for lending a hand to the heartbroken twitter:image: https://static.time.com/v3/assets/bltea6093859af6183b/blt0f37d2d9d10ed731/6988c4002dce014ba39ed284/sheryl-sandberg-2.jpg?branch=production&width=1200&quality=75&auto=webp&crop=16:9 ---  # Sheryl Sandberg: What Not to Say to a Friend Who’s Having a Hard Time > Sponsored content. 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It is a free newsletter available at time.com/newsletters. by [Diane Tsai](https://time.com/author/diane-tsai/) and [Belinda Luscombe](https://time.com/author/belinda-luscombe/) Apr 25, 2017 11:00 AM UTC  Clare Major—TIME by [Diane Tsai](https://time.com/author/diane-tsai/) and [Belinda Luscombe](https://time.com/author/belinda-luscombe/) Apr 25, 2017 11:00 AM UTC “Adults sometimes flinch a little to this day,” Sheryl Sandberg says, when she mentions her late husband Dave Goldberg’s name. “As if I’m reminding them that my husband died and it’s sad.” While the expressions are tiny and fleeting, Sandberg notices them. “They don’t even know they’re doing it. It’s just people’s reaction.” The Facebook Chief Operating Officer, [who spoke extensively to TIME about her husband’s death, along with her grief and recovery](http://time.com/sheryl-sandberg-option-b/), says she felt incredibly isolated when she returned to work. Employees avoided her, facing the triple threat of a boss who was famous and obviously suffering. Sandberg understood the reaction, but believed that adding isolation to grief was making it so much worse. So she set about writing _Option B_, with psychologist Adam Grant, to help people better understand grief and hardship and setting up [an organization](https://optionb.org/) of the same name. “One thing I learned in the book is look, we have put grief, adversity, cancer, illness, job loss, sexual assault, like all this stuff that people face, in a big old closet,” she says. “And people want it in the closet because it’s easier. People are uncomfortable talking about this. The No. 1 thing everyone I know who’s gotten cancer has said about this, is that no one talks about it. You want to silence a room? Say you were just diagnosed with cancer, or say you had cancer five years ago. 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