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October 7, 2016 12:28 PM EDT

When it comes to relationships, movie star Anna Kendrick shows she’s just like the rest of us. In a story from her memoir, Scrappy Little Nobody, published on Glamour, Kendrick discusses the cardinal sin that she and so many other young women commit: Changing your personality in order to appeal to a boy.

“He was 28 and something of an introvert,” Kendrick writes of ‘Connor,’ a boy she started seeing when she was 20. “I took this to mean that he was deep and artistic and probably judged me for talking as much as I do. Once we broke up, I realized it just meant that he was kind of boring—and probably judged me for talking as much as I do.”

She admits to falling for him because he was the cool, mysterious older guy. “We would have made a terrible couple, but his indifference blinded me to all the red flags,” she writes. “He drove a BMW but slept on a futon. He watched the History Channel like it was a reliable source of information.”

Kendrick is known for her outgoing personality, but she says she stifled that to make Connor like her: “If I could see tape of us interacting, I doubt I would recognize myself. Who was I trying to make him fall in love with? My strategy was to just be agreeable.”

Eventually, Connor broke up with her, and she spent years holding a grudge against the girl she thought stole his heart. Sound familiar? Let she who hasn’t sacrificed personality for someone dull be the first to cast a stone…

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