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Miss Manners Writes Scathing Response to Parents of Teen Who Skipped Her Own Grad Party

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Millennials often get a bad rap for being entitled and selfish. And while the generalization is usually just that, every once in a while, a millennial lives up to the stereotype. Recently, the parents of a high school graduate wrote to Judith Martin, a.k.a. “Miss Manners,” asking if they had to return the gifts their daughter received at her graduation party that she chose to bail on at the last minute.

The girl even stood up her grandparents, who had flown in from out of town to attend the fete—and Miss Manners wasn’t having any of it.

“It seems to Miss Manners that this is the least of your problems, considering that you have a thoroughly rude and callous daughter,” she wrote in her column published in The Washington Post on Sunday. “Ordinarily, it is insulting to return presents, but your guests have already been insulted, and are due abject apologies on your daughter’s behalf, if you must write them. You can return the money with the explanation that as your daughter did not participate in the celebration, you are refusing to let her keep any of it.”

She didn’t let the parents off the hook for their daughter’s behavior, either: “Leaving aside your duty to teach your daughter manners and consideration for others, there is the question of why you even considered giving a party for someone who hates parties and your willingness to allow guests to make plans that you offered to cancel a week before.”

Ouch. Read the full exchange over at The Washington Post.

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