--- title: Relationship Advice From Couple That's Been Married 72 Years description: Be OK with arguing canonical: https://time.com/4234113/love-advice/ author: TIME article:opinion: false article:content_tier: free article:published_time: 2016-02-23T20:12:22.000Z article:modified_time: 2026-08-04T07:45:10.239Z og:title: Relationship Advice From Couple That's Been Married 72 Years og:description: Be OK with arguing og:url: https://time.com/4234113/love-advice/ og:site_name: TIME og:image: https://static.time.com/v3/assets/bltea6093859af6183b/blt5dd5017afbe8e6ae/69887ecc428a9e53f8cd180c/elderly-couple-holding-hands-nature.jpg?branch=production&width=3840&quality=75&auto=webp&crop=16:9 og:image:width: 1200 og:image:height: 675 og:image:alt: elderly-couple-holding-hands-nature og:type: article twitter:card: summary_large_image twitter:title: Relationship Advice From Couple That's Been Married 72 Years twitter:description: Be OK with arguing twitter:image: https://static.time.com/v3/assets/bltea6093859af6183b/blt5dd5017afbe8e6ae/69887ecc428a9e53f8cd180c/elderly-couple-holding-hands-nature.jpg?branch=production&width=3840&quality=75&auto=webp&crop=16:9 ---  # Relationship Advice From a Couple That's Been Married for 72 Years ## Video: Study Says Marriage Is Good For Your Heart ... Literally [Watch (HLS stream): Study Says Marriage Is Good For Your Heart ... Literally](https://cdn.jwplayer.com/manifests/UIMQThkY.m3u8) (1:35)  _Published 2015-10-29. A new study says being married increases your chances for a better recovery after heart surgery._ by [Sheryl Ziegler / YourTango](https://time.com/author/yourtango/) ## Sheryl Ziegler / YourTango Feb 23, 2016 8:12 PM UTC  close up of mature couple hands holding in meadow close up of mature couple hands holding in meadowGetty Images by [Sheryl Ziegler / YourTango](https://time.com/author/yourtango/) ## Sheryl Ziegler / YourTango Feb 23, 2016 8:12 PM UTC You can read a thousand books about [love](http://www.yourtango.com/love) and talk to [a hundred therapists](http://www.yourtango.com/experts/julia-flood/6-tips-make-marriage-counseling-work) about what makes a marriage work. But the truth is, nobody knows better than people who have loved each other for more than seven decades. Mr. and Mrs. Lombardi, who are both 95-years-old, are more in love today than they were seven decades ago, when they got [married](http://www.yourtango.com/married-lovestage). Here are the tips they most want younger people to know, about love, life, and staying together: **1\. Just love each other.** Live by the philosophy of _choosing love_, even when it’s not an easy choice. **2\. Compliment each other often.** Say something nice to your [spouse](http://www.yourtango.com/2013191628/ways-support-your-spouse-through-mental-illness) every day. Compliment anything from their beauty to their cooking, or even how helpful they are. **3\. Have a good** [**sex**](http://www.yourtango.com/sex) **life.** Yes, even at 95-years-old! Make [intimacy](http://www.yourtango.com/experts/sean-jameson/how-make-love-man) a priority in your marriage. **4\. Live near family.** There is nothing like family to raise your children around and to grow old with. **_YourTango:_** [_50 Love Quotes That Express Exactly What ‘I Love You’ Really Means_](http://www.yourtango.com/2013182354/love-quotes-inspirational-famous) **5\. Limit eating out, eat good food, watch your sugar intake.** Take it from this couple, who can still ride bikes in their 90s, there is nothing like [homemade food](http://elitedaily.com/women/couples-who-cook-together-stay-together/1291468/) to keep you happy and healthy. **6\. Never cheat.** Whether emotionally or physically, just don’t do it. These real-life marriage experts insist that before you commit to someone, you have to realize that you are doing so in every way for the rest of your lives. So even when tempted, you must [remain faithful](http://www.brides.com/blogs/aisle-say/2015/12/can-you-cheat-proof-marriage.html). **7\. Never go to bed mad.** “Just kiss” is their antidote to going to bed angry. They insist it’s just that simple. Try it! **8\. Be OK with arguing.** Know that disagreeing is a normal part of every relationship. You aren’t always going to agree, but you do need to hear the other person out, and be okay with your differences. Then move on without holding a grudge. They’ve been able to do it for seven decades! **_YourTango:_**[_7 Ways To Keep Their Passive-Aggression From Driving You Nuts_](http://www.yourtango.com/experts/dr-rhoberta-shaler/relationships-passive-aggressives-can-ruin-your-happiness) **9\. Respect each other.** Besides love, it goes without saying that a key to happy marriage is truly [admiring and valuing your spouse](http://www.yourtango.com/2013197121/marriage-i-put-my-husband-my-child). In good times _and_ in bad. **10\. Keep a nice home.** Mr. and Mrs. Lombardi believe that it’s very important to have a clean, orderly home that is reflective of your life. If it’s messy and disorganized, it’s likely you have chaos in your life. **11\. Be good parents.** Part of showing love to your children is providing your kids with an education. Though Mr. and Mrs. Lombardi insist that you shouldn’t put pressure on your kids to college, not everyone is cut out for a college education and learning a trade is important, too. **12\. Marry good genes.** Enough said here! **_YourTango:_**[_10 Ways To Spot A Narcissist On A First Date_](http://www.yourtango.com/experts/catherine-behan/how-spot-narcissist-first-date) **13\. Be sure that your faith beliefs bring you together and don’t divide you.** Share those beliefs with your children so that they may be guided in strong values and purpose. **14\. Take the good with the bad.** No one is perfect, and as they say, the grass is not greener. Always remember to love the one you’re with! _This_ [_article_](http://www.yourtango.com/2016285802/14-love-lessons-happily-married-couple-72-years) _originally appeared on_ [_YourTango_](http://www.yourtango.com) ```json [{"@context":"https://schema.org","@type":"NewsArticle","@id":"https://time.com/4234113/love-advice/","mainEntityOfPage":{"@type":"WebPage","@id":"https://time.com/4234113/love-advice/"},"headline":"Relationship Advice From a Couple That's Been Married for 72 Years","datePublished":"2016-02-23T20:12:22.000Z","dateModified":"2026-08-04T07:45:10.239Z","description":"Be OK with arguing","url":"https://time.com/4234113/love-advice/","keywords":["Living","society","Psychology","Marriage","Dating","relationships","Culture"],"thumbnailUrl":"https://static.time.com/v3/assets/bltea6093859af6183b/blt5dd5017afbe8e6ae/69887ecc428a9e53f8cd180c/elderly-couple-holding-hands-nature.jpg?branch=production&width=1200&quality=75&auto=webp&crop=1200:675&height=675","author":[{"@type":"Person","name":"Sheryl Ziegler / YourTango"}],"articleSection":"","image":[{"@type":"ImageObject","url":"https://static.time.com/v3/assets/bltea6093859af6183b/blt5dd5017afbe8e6ae/69887ecc428a9e53f8cd180c/elderly-couple-holding-hands-nature.jpg?branch=production&width=1200&quality=75&auto=webp&crop=1200:675&height=675","width":1200,"height":675,"headline":"elderly-couple-holding-hands-nature","caption":"elderly-couple-holding-hands-nature","creditText":"Getty Images","representativeOfPage":true}],"publisher":{"@type":"Organization","name":"Time","url":"https://time.com/","logo":{"@type":"ImageObject","url":"https://time.com/images/logo.png","width":528,"height":156},"foundingDate":"March 3, 1923","sameAs":["https://www.facebook.com/time","https://www.instagram.com/time/?hl=en","https://twitter.com/time","https://www.pinterest.com/timemagazine"]}},{"@context":"https://schema.org","@type":"BreadcrumbList","itemListElement":[{"@type":"ListItem","position":1,"item":{"@id":"/tag/time-section-living/","name":"Living"}},{"@type":"ListItem","position":2,"item":{"@id":"https://time.com/4234113/love-advice/","name":"Relationship Advice From a Couple That's Been Married for 72 Years"}}]},{"@context":"https://schema.org","@type":"VideoObject","name":"A 100-Year-Old Sex Therapist on Having Good Sex, Then and Now","description":"A practicing sex therapist in New York City, Dr. Shirley Zussman has witnessed everything from the legalization of the contraceptive birth control pill to the AIDs epidemic in the 1980s to the rise of internet porn in the new millenium.","thumbnailUrl":"https://cdn.jwplayer.com/v2/media/uJFYIrvP/poster.jpg?width=720","uploadDate":"2014-08-20T13:40:15.000Z","contentUrl":"https://cdn.jwplayer.com/manifests/uJFYIrvP.m3u8","embedUrl":"https://time.com/4234113/love-advice/","duration":"PT3M13S","potentialAction":{"@type":"SeekToAction","target":"https://time.com/4234113/love-advice/?jw_start={seek_to_second_number}","startOffset-input":"required name=seek_to_second_number"}},{"@context":"https://schema.org","@type":"VideoObject","name":"Study Says Marriage Is Good For Your Heart ... 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