How to Make Friends as an Adult

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Making friends in school was easy.

But once you’re all grown up, it gets way harder — especially if you’ve just moved to a new city.

Thankfully, social science has figured out a few of the ways that adult friendships form.

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    Aisha Tyler – The Archer star played Charlie, a paleontologist who first dates Joey and then RossNBC/Getty Images
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    Alec Baldwin – Alec Baldwin guest-starred as Pheobe's way-too-enthusiastic dateNBC/Getty Images
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    Anna Faris – Anna Faris had a season-long role as Erica, whose twins Chandler and Monica adoptNBC/Getty Images
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    Ben Stiller – Ben Stiller appeared as Rachel's date who angrily yells at everyoneNBC/Getty Images
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    Billy Crystal – Crystal plays one of two crazy strangers (with Robin Williams) whose conversation the friends overhear at Central PerkNBC/Getty Images
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    Robin Williams – Williams plays that other crazy guy in Central PerkNBC/Getty Images
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    Brooke Shields – Joey ends up regretting going on a date with his crazy stalker played by Brooke ShieldsNBC/Getty Images
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    Bruce Willis – Things get complicated when Rachel starts dating Paul Stevens (Bruce Willis), the father of a student Ross is datingNBC/Getty Images
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    Christine Taylor – Rachel convinces Christine Taylor's Bonnie to shave her head so that Ross will break up with herNBC/Getty Images
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    Christina Applegate – Along with Reese Witherspoon, Christina Applegate played one of Rachel's spoiled sistersNBC/Getty Images
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    Charlton Heston – Charlton Heston plays himself and gives Joey some acting adviceNBC/Getty Images
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    Dakota Fanning – Dakota Fanning offers Joey some advice on how to handle Chandler and Monica moving out of ManhattanNBC/Getty Images
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    Danny DeVito – Danny DeVito plays a stripper at Phoebe's bachelorette partyNBC/Getty Images
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    Freddie Prinze Jr. - Freddie Prinze Jr. is perfect as a sensitive male nanny who takes care of Ross and Rachel's daughterNBC/Getty Images
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    Helen Hunt – In a confusing crossover, Hunt (a Mad About You star) mistakes Phoebe for her twin sister Ursula (a real character played by Lisa Kudrow in both Friends and Mad About You)NBC/Getty Images
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    Hugh Laurie – The stranger sitting next to Rachel on her flight to England (Hugh Laurie) mocks her plan to break up Ross' weddingNBC/Getty Images
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    Jon Favreau – Jon Favreau spent almost a whole season as Monica's super-rich boyfriend who wants to become an Ultimate Fighting ChampionNBC/Getty Images
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    Kristin Davis – The Sex and the City star is befriended by Rachel and Phoebe after she starts dating JoeyNBC/Getty Images
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    Reese Witherspoon – Reese Witherspoon guest-stars as Rachel's younger sister who goes on a date with RossNBC/Getty Images
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    Sean Penn – Phoebe must tell her twin sister Ursula's fiancée, played by Sean Penn, that Ursula has been lying to him about her pastNBC/Getty Images
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    Susan Sarandon – In a plot line on Days of Our Lives, Joey gets Susan Sarandon's character's brainNBC/Getty Images
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    Tate Donovan – Real–life couple Jennifer Anniston and Tate Donovan played a couple on the show, tooNBC/Getty Images
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