--- description: The secrets lie in the way you speak title: 3 Quick Tips That Will Make You More Charismatic image: https://static.time.com/v3/assets/bltea6093859af6183b/blt9a01efa5022a237d/69885d65f887dcd243e91a73/man-giving-speech-rear-view.jpg?branch=production&width=1080&quality=75&auto=webp&crop=16:9 ---  * [Ideas](/section/ideas/) ## Ideas Update your preferences in [Account Settings](/account/preferences/) Close * [Psychology](/tag/psychology/) ## Psychology Update your preferences in [Account Settings](/account/preferences/) Close # 3 Quick Tips That Will Make You More Charismatic by [Eric Barker](/author/eric-barker/) ## Eric Barker Update your preferences in [Account Settings](/account/preferences/) Close Aug 5, 2015 4:01 AM CUT  Elderly man giving speech at podium, rear view Elderly man giving speech at podium, rear viewGetty Images by [Eric Barker](/author/eric-barker/) ## Eric Barker Update your preferences in [Account Settings](/account/preferences/) Close Aug 5, 2015 4:01 AM CUT Via [The Charisma Myth: How Anyone Can Master the Art and Science of Personal Magnetism](http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1591844568/ref=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl?ie=UTF8&tag=spacforrent-20&linkCode=as2&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=1591844568 "undefined"): 1. **Lower the intonation of your voice at the end of your sentences.** 2. **Reduce how quickly and how often you nod.** 3. **Pause for two full seconds before you speak.** Why do these work? I’ve posted a number of times on the power of your voice. You can predict who will be elected president by [how deep their voice is](http://www.bakadesuyo.com/do-we-pick-leaders-based-on-their-voice "undefined"). Men with deeper voices are [more attractive](http://www.bakadesuyo.com/do-men-with-deep-voices-have-more-children "undefined") and women are more likely to [remember what they say](http://www.bakadesuyo.com/guys-how-should-you-speak-so-women-remember-w "undefined"). The book does a good job of explaining why controlling nodding is key: --- > “” --- And pausing has been shown to [make you more persuasive](http://www.bakadesuyo.com/what-tips-can-help-you-speak-more-persuasivel "undefined"). For more on how to get people to like you (from an FBI behavior expert), click [here](http://www.bakadesuyo.com/2014/10/how-to-get-people-to-like-you/ "undefined"). **_This piece originally appeared on_** [**_Barking Up the Wrong Tree_**](http://www.bakadesuyo.com/2012/04/3-quick-tips-for-being-more-charismatic/ "undefined")**_._** **Join over 200,000 readers. 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