Behind the Covers: Portraits of the Gay Marriage Revolution by Peter Hapak

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This week, the U.S. Supreme Court heard oral arguments in two cases that will determine the fate of same-sex marriage in America. The court’s decision won’t come for months, but regardless of how the justices rule, David Von Drehle’s new cover story chronicles how, thanks to a massive shift in public opinion, gay marriage went from inconceivable to inevitable in less than two decades. To illustrate Von Drehle’s story, TIME invited same-sex couples in California and New York to share some intimate moments for photographer Peter Hapak. Two of these couples, Sarah Kate and Kristen Ellis-Henderson (married in 2011) and Russell Hart and Eric LaBonté (engaged since 2010), appear on our cover this week. (Newsstand editions will be divided between issues featuring the Ellis-Hendersons and those featuring Hart and LaBonté.)

Coming out to friends and family is one of the most important moments in a gay person’s life. Coming out on the cover of a national magazine is something else entirely, once as unimaginable to our cover subjects as gay marriage itself. “As we were driving to the shoot, I thought, ‘I’m doing this because I want my kids to live boldly and loudly and see what it means to stand up for something,’” says Sarah Kate Ellis-Henderson, who has a son and a daughter with her wife Kristen. For Hart, the decision to participate in a TIME cover shoot about gay marriage was a symbol of his decision to fully own his identity. After coming out to a supportive family, Hart stepped back into the closet while he was in his 20s, fearful he would lose a job if his co-workers knew he was gay. “That was far more destructive and traumatic than coming out,” says Hart. “The experience let me know that whatever I do, my sexuality is a part of my identity and to deny it is to be doomed.”

Behind the scenes at the TIME cover shoots

Some of the couples who participated in the TIME cover shoot are married and all are in long-term committed relationships. Jake Harrison, who was photographed with his partner Christopher Cunningham, is among those happily stunned at how quickly U.S. culture has shifted to embrace same-sex couples. “Growing up, there really weren’t gay characters on TV,” says Harrison. “To go from that to gay people on primetime television and out gay politicians is a huge evolution.” LaBonté, who graduated from high school in 1989 and celebrated his 7-year anniversary with Hart the day they were photographed for TIME, says he was taunted as a teen for being different. “But my 20th high school reunion was a real trip. Those kids that made fun of me totally wanted to come up and talk to me and find out what I’m doing with my life,” he says. “Now, I see high-school-aged boys walking around the mall or out in broad daylight holding hands. It’s hard to describe how that makes me feel.” Cunningham, who describes himself as “the modern, non-marriage type,” says that the fact that gay marriage may soon be legal across the U.S. has made him reconsider. He says he is feeling something familiar to many long-term heterosexual couples — pressure from family to tie the knot.


Peter Hapak is a contract photographer for TIME.

Kate Pickert is a staff writer at TIME. Follow her on Twitter @katepickert. Additional reporting by Eugene Reznik.


Elaine Harley, 43, graphic designer & Mignon R. Moore, 42, professor at UCLA Together for 11 years, married in New York City in March 2012, live in Los Angeles Elaine (left): “For me, marriage was the natural next step in the progression of our lives together. Marriage represents stability. After getting married I found that people had more respect for our union, and it gave our relationship a greater sense of legitimacy in society.”Peter Hapak for TIME
Elaine Harley, 43, graphic designer & Mignon R. Moore, 42, professor at UCLA Together for 11 years, married in New York City in March 2012, live in Los Angeles Mignon (right): “As we recited our wedding vows I got chills. Standing before family and friends vowing our intention to be united together and to create a lifelong bond was very special and meaningful.”Peter Hapak for TIME
Sarah Kate Ellis-Henderson, 41, marketing executive & Kristen Ellis-Henderson, 42, songwriter and guitarist Together for 8 years, married in St. Luke’s Episcopal Church in Sea Cliff, N.Y. in October 2011, parents to 4-year-olds Thomas and Kate, live in Sea Cliff, N.Y. Kristen (right): “Sarah and I got married shortly after equality passed in New York State. It's difficult to put into words what it felt like to validate our relationship that way in front of our family, friends, and neighbors. I often get choked up with emotion when trying to talk about it. Exhilarating. Justifying. Romantic. Amazing. None of those words individually captures it. Since becoming mothers, our tireless efforts for equality are more for our children than ourselves. We think of our kids on the playground with every other child they are growing up with - most have married parents. And now our children do too.”Peter Hapak for TIME
Sarah Kate Ellis-Henderson, 41, marketing executive & Kristen Ellis-Henderson, 42, songwriter and guitarist Together for 8 years, married in St. Luke’s Episcopal Church in Sea Cliff, N.Y. in October 2011, parents to 4-year-olds Thomas and Kate, live in Sea Cliff, N.Y. Sarah Kate (left): “I am wildly optimistic [about the Supreme Court considering the issue of gay marriage]. It feels like the night before Christmas. As a mother and a parent, it’s so deeply important for me. You bring children into this world to give them every opportunity. When you’re a same sex couple, you already know the cards are stacked against you so, in a way, you fight harder for a level playing field for your kids. It’s so important for my kids to be able to say my parents are married and know we’re recognized the same as other people.”Peter Hapak for TIME
Jake Harrison, 31, interior design & Christopher Cunningham, 38, talent agent Together for 4 years, live in Los Angeles Jake (left): “I have friends who are married in the state of New York. I never wanted to do it unless it would be everything that comes with it – 100%. If this becomes a federally recognized thing, it’s a game changer. We live a very married life. We’ve lived together for a couple of years. It’s not that there would be any major changes there, but it would be nice not just for paperwork, but to have something that would validate it to other people.”Peter Hapak for TIME
Jake Harrison, 31, interior design & Christopher Cunningham, 38, talent agent Together for 4 years, live in Los Angeles Christopher (right): “We met in Brooklyn in 2008 and we pretty much knew a week in that we wanted to spend the rest of our lives together. Getting married always seemed like something that wasn’t an option and never would be so we tried not to think about it too much. We knew we were happily committed and we made do with that. Now, just because of the way things are changing so quickly, we might get married.”Peter Hapak for TIME
Russell Hart, 31, hair salon owner & Eric LaBonté, 42, film and television set designer Together for 7 years, legal domestic partners, engaged since 2010, live in Los Angeles Russell (left): “I don’t necessarily need a piece of paper to tell me that my relationship with my partner is valid, but we think about having kids and I am constantly terrified about the little harried details that no one wants to deal with. If something happens to one of us, it could potentially get crazy. Straight married couples don’t realize how lucky they are to have all that wrapped up in a marriage.”Peter Hapak for TIME
Eric LaBonté, 42, film and television set designer & Russell Hart, 31, hair salon owner Together for 7 years, legal domestic partners, engaged since 2010, live in Los Angeles Eric (left): “My parents have been married for 45 years and I always knew that was something that I wanted. I want our children to say, ‘My daddies are married.’ We wanted to feel like a complete package.”Peter Hapak for TIME
Miguel Blanco, 34, freelance art director & Alexander Hammer, 33, film and video editor Together for 9 years, married in September 2011 in New York City, followed by a commitment ceremony in Florida, live in New York City Alexander (right): “We did domestic partnership. And nothing happened to me then. We went back to the same courthouse [to get married]. I was just thinking it was a piece of paper. I was surprised at how it was a completely different thing. We were going to do it on a Friday during lunch. I called my mom and she told my brother and his wife and Miguel told his family. The ones that could came. That made it very special. It took me a little while to say it: This is my husband.”Peter Hapak for TIME
Miguel Blanco, 34, freelance art director & Alexander Hammer, 33, film and video editor Together for 9 years, married in September 2011 in New York City, followed by a commitment ceremony in Florida, live in New York City Miguel (right): “When we had our commitment ceremony, I have to say I was overwhelmed by how incredible the experience was. As a young gay man coming out, like many others, I struggled with my family's lack of understanding. Having our families and loved ones there, supporting us and being so incandescently happy for us, was truly remarkable. For my family specifically, it really set it in stone for them that this is the person that I love and want to spend my life with.”Peter Hapak for TIME

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