To Have and to Hold: Gay Marriages in New York City Begin

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Yesterday was the first day same-sex couples were allowed to legally marry in the state of New York. TIME sent photographers to each of New York City’s five boroughs to document the harmonious unions taking place throughout the city.

Damian Ross and Gary Cosgrove joined the quickly growing line outside the Manhattan City Clerk’s office in lower Manhattan a little before 8:30 a.m. on July 24, 2011 — the first day the state of New York allowed the couple to legally wed. After almost 15 years together, they’re ready to “take the next step.”

The couple enters the line, a tightly packed queue crowded with couples, their families, reporters and those offering their services to the soon-to-be’s. (Says one wedding planner distributing flyers: “Doesn’t matter how you do it — sooner or later, you’re gonna need a plan.”) Waiting outside the building with two witnesses and several family members, Damian and Gary chat excitedly.

At one point, the heat begins to get to Gary. Understandable, because his outfit, a sequined, full-length black robe with a crown and a silver chain, wasn’t designed for New York City heat waves. Nevertheless, as a past President of the Imperial Court of New York, he proudly wears his formal attire. Damian is dressed in a fancy white admiral’s jacket with an elaborate gold lapel hanging across his chest. He is all smiles, making sure that others know how happy he is. With every picture, the couple beams, glowing in the way that one expects a couple to glow on their wedding day.

Ninety minutes later, Gary and Damian reach the steps leading to the clerk’s office. Over the din of a “If you’re gay and you know it, stomp your feet” chant from the line behind them, the couple climb the steps. Damian nervously mentions that his heart is racing and works to fill every moment with excited conversation. Gary acts reservedly and makes jokes about his last chance to run away. “No one could take this from us,” exclaims Damian proudly as he walks through the doorway. “Yes! Yes!”

In the hallway inside, hundreds of people stand clustered in small groups. Each couple receives a slip of paper with a number that’s displayed on a monitor and announced by a mechanical voice. The entire hall glances anxiously at the screen as a new number is called. Occasionally, a cheer roars through the hall — another couple has tied the knot — or, more accurately, signed the papers.

As the numbers climb higher, couples pull away from their entourages, cherishing short moments together to settle nerves, and in some cases, to reflect on the significance of the day.

“C-753 to Counter 12” calls the loudspeaker as Gary and Damian rush to the counter, passing a newlywed couple posing for a photo with the clerk that just issued their marriage license.

As the clerk processes their information, Gary fiddles with his phone while Damian talks to Ari, one of the couple’s witnesses. The clerk, Melissa, asks them to confirm that their information is correct. They nod. Melissa clicks next.

Everyone waits for the official license to print. Even on such a historic day, technology once again proves that it hurries for no one. With an oversize orange pen, Gary and Damian sign their license, then whisk away to a back room with numerous folding chairs and even more numerous judges, all waiting in black robes to marry the mass of couples waiting outside the building.

After a short conversation, Gary and Damian enter a small office with Judge Verna Saunders. Five minutes later, they emerge a legally wed couple.

By day’s end, 659 marriage licenses are issued and 484 marriages are performed.

“Marriage equality is alive and well,” New York City Council Speaker Christine Quinn, the body’s first openly gay leader, said in a press briefing outside the clerk’s office. “All of the great stories and love that are pouring out today — they show what all of us who have fought a lifetime for this knew and know, that moving rights forward makes us a better society.”

Damian Ross (left) and Gary Cosgrove embrace on the steps of the Manhattan City Clerk's office while waiting in line on July 24, 2011.Edward Keating—Contact for TIME
The line outside the Clerk's office stretched down the block. By the end of the day, the city of New York had issued 659 marriage licenses throughout the five boroughs.Edward Keating—Contact for TIME
Attire varied widely among those waiting in line outside the Manhattan Clerk's Office.Edward Keating—Contact for TIME
Inside the City Clerk's office, couples, families, witnesses, and well-wishers waited in lines for hours to marry. Melissa Barsamian, in white, and Dorothy Kim, have been together for more than four years.Edward Keating—Contact for TIME
Judges wait to marry couples in the Manhattan City Clerk's office.Edward Keating—Contact for TIME
Protestors outside the Manhattan City Clerk's office in Lower Manhattan.Edward Keating—Contact for TIME
Just a few blocks away from where Mayor Bloomberg officiated the wedding at Gracie Mansion, Hassidic Jews protested.Edward Keating—Contact for TIME
Ryan Golembeski waits in line outside the Manhattan City Clerk's office. His uncle, Anthony Gazzillo, was getting married.Edward Keating—Contact for TIME
A couple poses for a photograph in the City Clerk's office. Edward Keating—Contact for TIME
Couples, families, witnesses, and well-wishers waited in lines for hours to receive marriage licenses.Edward Keating—Contact for TIME
Protestors outside the Manhattan City Clerk's office in Lower Manhattan.Edward Keating—Contact for TIME
Onlookers watch the wedding ceremony between Chief Policy Advisor and Criminal Justice Coordinator John Feinblatt and the Department of Consumer Affairs Commissioner Jonathan Mintz. The ceremony was held at Gracie Mansion on the Upper East Side and was officiated by New York City Mayor Michael Bloomberg.Edward Keating—Contact for TIME
New York City Mayor Michael Bloomberg officiated a wedding ceremony between his Chief Policy Advisor and Criminal Justice Coordinator John Feinblatt and the Department of Consumer Affairs Commissioner Jonathan Mintz. The ceremony was held at Gracie Mansion on the Upper East Side.Edward Keating—Contact for TIME
Onlookers watch the wedding ceremony between Chief Policy Advisor and Criminal Justice Coordinator John Feinblatt and the Department of Consumer Affairs Commissioner Jonathan Mintz. The ceremony was held at Gracie Mansion on the Upper East Side and was officiated by New York City Mayor Michael Bloomberg.Edward Keating—Contact for TIME
New York City Mayor Michael Bloomberg officiated a wedding ceremony between his Chief Policy Advisor and Criminal Justice Coordinator John Feinblatt (right) and the Department of Consumer Affairs Commissioner Jonathan Mintz. The ceremony was held at Gracie Mansion on the Upper East Side.Edward Keating—Contact for TIME
New York City Mayor Michael Bloomberg officiated a wedding ceremony between his Chief Policy Advisor and Criminal Justice Coordinator John Feinblatt and the Department of Consumer Affairs Commissioner Jonathan Mintz. The ceremony was held at Gracie Mansion on the Upper East Side.Edward Keating—Contact for TIME
New York City Mayor Michael Bloomberg officiated a wedding ceremony between his Chief Policy Advisor and Criminal Justice Coordinator John Feinblatt and the Department of Consumer Affairs Commissioner Jonathan Mintz. The ceremony was held at Gracie Mansion on the Upper East Side.Edward Keating—Contact for TIME
The first supporter arrives early in the morning. Same sex couples apply for marriage licenses and some have ceremonies in The Brooklyn Municipal Building at Brooklyn Borough Hall on July 24, 2011.Lauren Fleishman for TIME
Same sex couple Michael Argilla and Stacy Spence wait for their marriage ceremony to begin at Brooklyn Municipal Building, Brooklyn Borough Hall. The couple, who has been together for 20 years, says, "this ceremony affirms their love and commitment to each other." Lauren Fleishman for TIME
Same sex couple Stacy Minondo and Barbara Tremblay outside 210 Joralemon Street. The couple was one of the first to arrive. Lauren Fleishman for TIME
Same sex couple Michael Argilla and Stacy Spence embrace after their marriage ceremony at Brooklyn Borough Hall. Lauren Fleishman for TIME
Same sex couple Claudette Lankford and Andrea Lankford Weaver smile in the elevator just after their wedding ceremony at Brooklyn Borough Hall. Lauren Fleishman for TIME
Same sex couple Paul Harrington and Craig Retchless share a moment under a rainbow canopy at Brooklyn's Borough Hall. Lauren Fleishman for TIME
Same sex couple Lilliam Hernandez and Sabrina Velez share a kiss while waiting to be called for their marriage ceremony. The two have been together for 6 months. Lauren Fleishman for TIME
Same sex couple Lilliam Hernandez and Sabrina Velez get married while maids of honor Gloria Torres and Latianna Paraison look on. Lauren Fleishman for TIME
Same sex couple March Galloway Brown and Shernaie Brown descend the stairs at Brooklyn's Borough Hall just after their wedding ceremony. Lauren Fleishman for TIME
Wedding cake at Brooklyn Borough Hall. Lauren Fleishman for TIME
Same sex couple Greg Payton (left) and Robert Lafferty give each other a kiss while they wait for their marriage certificate. Today the couple celebrated their 9 year anniversary at Brooklyn's Borough Hall. Lauren Fleishman for TIME
Wedding cake at Brooklyn Borough Hall. Lauren Fleishman for TIME
Same sex couple Alex Bertrand and Jeremy Price outside 210 Joralemon Street, Brooklyn waiting for the building to open. Lauren Fleishman for TIME
In Queens, Marilyn Rodriguez (left) accompanied by her sister Anita prepares for her wedding ceremony to begin. Marilyn Rodriguez and Judy Ramos (not pictured here) were previously been legally married in Connecticut, and considered today's ceremony a renewal of their vows. Samantha Box for TIME
At Queens Borough Hall. Marilyn Rodriguez (left) and her sister Anita go through the metal detectors at the Hall while a security guard holds Marilyn's bouquet.Samantha Box for TIME
Marilyn Rodriguez (print dress) and Judy Ramos (white suit) were legally married in New York State today at Queens Borough Hall. Marilyn's sister, Anita (also in a strapless dress), accompanies the couple.Samantha Box for TIME
Marilyn Rodriguez and Judy Ramos (white suit) were legally married in New York State at Queens Borough Hall. The couple had previously been legally married in Connecticut, and considered today's ceremony a renewal of their vows. New York City Council Speaker Christine Quinn greeted the couple.Samantha Box for TIME
Alison (left) and Adrienne Perrenod, of Jackson Heights, were married today at Queens Borough Hall.Samantha Box for TIME
Tina Johnson and Iris Gonzalez's apply for their marriage license at the Bronx Office Supreme Court Building on July 24, 2011.Christina Clusiau for TIME
Iris Gonzalez and Tina Johnson embrace at the Bronx Office Supreme Court Building.Christina Clusiau for TIME
Tina Johnson and Iris Gonzales were married at the Bronx Office Supreme Court Building.Christina Clusiau for TIME
Tina Johnson and Iris Gonzales waiting to get married at the Bronx Office Supreme Court Building.Christina Clusiau for TIME
Iris Gonzalez waits to get married at the Bronz Office Supreme Court Building.Christina Clusiau for TIME
Tina Johnson and Iris Gonzalez kiss during the marriage ceremony in the Bronx.Christina Clusiau for TIME
John Westfall (left) and Simon Gong, a couple of 17 years, arrive with their two children at Borough Hall in Staten Island to be married on Sunday, July 24, 2011. Paul Moakley for TIME
Lavern Rivera (right) clears the sweat from the brow of her wife to be, Bedelia Sanchez The couple from Long Branch, NJ were the first to wed in Staten Island on Sunday.Paul Moakley for TIME
Members of Anthony Lodico and Jack Cuffe's wedding party cool down inside Borough Hall, Staten Island, New York on Sunday.Paul Moakley for TIME
Anthony Lodico (left) and Jack Cuffe of Staten Island, make their way through Borough Hall to get married after being together for over 17 years.Paul Moakley for TIME
Anthony Lodico and Jack Cuffe of Staten Island during their wedding ceremony conducted by Hon. Thomas P. Aliotta and accompanied by a large group of family and friends at Borough Hall in Staten Island, New York. Paul Moakley for TIME
Anthony Lodico (left) and Jack Cuffe of Staten Island, hold hands during their wedding ceremony, by Hon. Thomas P. Aliotta at Borough Hall, Staten Island New York on Sunday, July 24, 2011.Paul Moakley for TIME
Volunteer Jeremiah Jurkeiwicz from the College of Staten Island's GSA and Diana Perez decorating a car for her aunt who was getting married during the first day of same sex marriages at Borough Hall, Staten Island on Sunday.Paul Moakley for TIME
Michael Mastromarino (left) kisses his husband Robert Brown outside of Borough Hall in Staten Island, New York. The couple was the first from the borough to be married on Sunday.Paul Moakley for TIME

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