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‘Bean Heads': Inside the (Probably Imaginary) World Of Kids Who Smoke Coffee In Cigarettes

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What are these crazy kids up to now? Not much, as far as we can tell

In the midst of a lazy Friday news cycle, a Las Vegas ABC affiliate ran a story about a crazy, dangerous, (crazy dangerous, even) new “drug” the kids can’t stop talking about. To get a caffeine fix, teenage scoundrels have reportedly started smoking coffee beans, known as “caffeine sticks” on the street.

Unfortunately KTNV couldn’t scrounge up any “youths” to corroborate that this is actually happening. The “trend” also hasn’t been chronicled on social media, where all the kids go to shamelessly chat about their habits. This was the most ominous Instagram that came up under the search for a #beanhead:

While a viral string of “websites popping up online that will teach kids step-by-step on how to roll their own caffeine stick” appears to be a little overdramatic, there are a few how-to sites, and those that exist are often satirical. Youtube searches for people smoking coffee also didn’t produce ominous results. Top videos included a kid offering coffee flavoring advice to those making homemade toy cigarettes, and a man smoking coffee out of his pipe giving an unimpressed review: “It does not taste the greatest… It hasn’t really done anything for me, I don’t know.”

Even local Las Vegas residents aren’t too worried. “We’re about to legalize marijuana all over the United States,” said an older, unconcerned citizen. “I think we can live with a few bean heads.”

Tell us if we’re wrong, with the proliferation of Five Hour Energy and Aderol, smoking coffee doesn’t seem like a huge concern at the moment. Smoking tea, on the other hand

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This Chart Shows Your City’s Favorite Porn Genres

PornHub Analytics broke down 24 American cities by their top 5 favorite search terms

Ever wonder if people in your city enjoy the same kind of adult material as you? Adult site PornHub’s analytics team has provided a deep dive into major cities’ top 5 search referrals.

Digg points out that “massage” is in the top 5 for 22 of the 24 cities listed, while Lisa Ann appears to be America’s favorite porn star. Click around the interactive below for more insights into America’s most embarrassing guilty pleasure.

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Teenager Reportedly Tried to Kill Himself Because He Wasn’t Satisfied With the Quality of His Selfies

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Okay, this whole selfie craze is actually becoming a problem

You know those friends you have on Facebook or Instagram who seem like they could possibly be addicted — truly addicted — to taking selfies? Well, for most people, that compulsion is relatively harmless, but for 19-year-old Danny Bowman, it reportedly led to an attempted suicide.

The British teen spent up to 10 hours each day taking photos of himself on his iPhone, the Daily Mirror reports. The addiction became so debilitating that he dropped out of school and retreated into his home for six months.

“I was constantly in search of taking the perfect selfie and when I realized I couldn’t I wanted to die,” Bowman told the Daily Mirror. “I lost my friends, my education, my health and almost my life.”

He nearly overdosed on pills, but his mother intervened and helped keep him alive. Bowman’s case is extreme, yes, but psychiatrists are beginning to consider selfie addiction as a serious mental health issue.

Maybe we should all just stop taking selfies and solely use our smartphones for the truly important things, like pretending we’re texting to avoid saying hello to people.

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How Can I Make This News Linking Selfies and Narcissism About Me?

Please compliment my hair in this selfie, it looks pretty good don't you think? DON'T YOU THINK? Jessica Roy

OK but what do you think of MY selfies?

The International Business Times reports that scientists have found a link between selfies and narcissism which honestly makes no sense because it’s like, how else am I supposed to derive self-worth other than posting filtered photos of my face for creepy dudes I went to high school with to save to their desktops?

“Selfies frequently trigger perceptions of self-indulgence or attention-seeking social dependence that raises the damned-if-you-do and damned-if-you-don’t spectre of either narcissism or low self-esteem,” said psychologist Pamela Rutledge, according to the IB Times.

So, to recap: Selfies are narcissistic. Selfies matter. Selfies are a cry for help. Selfies are feminist. Selfies ruin relationships.

How does my hair look, btw?

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Complaints Sent To Domino’s Pizza Show The Real First World Problems [VIDEO]

No dessert dipping sauce? Call the United Nations

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The Oxford Dictionary defines “First World problem” as “a relatively trivial or minor problem … implying a contrast with serious problems such as those that may be experienced in the developing world.” But the TL; DR of that dictionary entry might look something like the new video by YouTube Stuntbear.

In the video, Stuntbear kicks the First World problem meme up a notch with an awareness-raising video that transposes real complaints written on Australia’s Domino’s Pizza Facebook page against images of real human suffering.

It’s funny — and sad — because it’s true.

MORE: #FirstWorldProblems, as Read by Poverty-Stricken Haitians

MORE: Oxford Dictionaries Adds ‘Deets’, ’4G’ and ‘First World Problems’

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How Kitty Genovese Destroyed Childhood

We once may have been too slow to call the cops. Now we'll dial 911 if we see a couple kids walking alone to get pizza.

Kitty Genovese was stabbed to death 50 years ago today. She was 28. A tragedy. The press reported 38 onlookers heard her screams and decided not to intervene. That account has since come under fire, but it nonetheless created a perception of ourselves (and certainly New Yorkers) as unconscionably reluctant to get involved.

We’ve been making up for it ever since — and that’s too bad.

We may once have been too slow to call the cops (though that’s still disputed), but today we are definitely too fast. Oh, I don’t mean we shouldn’t dial 911 if we see someone being murdered, or threatened, or hurt. Of course we should! In fact, the simple 911 number to call for emergencies was developed partly in response to the Genovese murder: Now everyone could have a quick, easy way to summon the cops anytime, anyplace. A great leap forward.

The leap sideways, or perhaps downward, came as the general public gradually became convinced that it not only had an obligation to help anyone in danger, it had the obligation to call the cops anytime it noticed people who could be in danger, especially kids, even if they were fine and dandy at the time.

This has given rise to a near mania for calling the cops when people spot a child on his or her own anywhere in public. And so we have a Connecticut mom charged with “risk of injury to a minor” and failure to appear after police said she allowed her seven- and 11-year-old children to walk to buy pizza unsupervised.

That’s right. Someone noticed kids off to get pizza and alerted the cops, as if stopping a potential tragedy.

Then there’s the dad who was arrested for child endangerment after a woman noticed “two children playing on the swings and slides alone without a guardian” in a suburban Pittsburgh park for two hours. (The charges were later dropped.)

And let’s not forget the mom in Jonesboro, Arkansas, who made her 10-year-old son walk 4.6 miles to school after he’d been suspended from the school bus for bad behavior. A bank guard saw him walking alone — horrors! — and called the cops. The mom was arrested for child endangerment. In the end, she plead guilty and was fined $520.

None of these kids encountered any danger other than a concerned citizen with 911 on speed dial. It has become so unusual to see children outside on their own that a nervous public immediately picks up the phone at such a sight, hyperventilating about danger.

” ‘If in doubt, call 911 to play it safe.’ That’s the lesson that was taken from Kitty Genovese,” says David Pimentel, a professor of law at Ohio Northern University. “But it stems from a faulty assumption, which is that there’s no harm in calling.” But unless the child is in true danger, “There is harm done. The harm that comes from the overreaction of everybody to this.” The courts get involved, CPS gets involved. There are fines, arrests, the threat (and sometimes the reality) of jail time.

Most of the folks calling the cops — and most of the cops themselves — remember walking to school and playing outside as kids. They are convinced that times have changed and made these activities dicey, even though, nationally, the crime rate is down from what it was in the ’70s, ’80s and ’90s. (And that’s not because we don’t let kids outside go anymore. The crime rate against adults is down, too, and we don’t helicopter them.)

So anyone who walked to the post office or the pizza shop as a kid was no safer than a kid today. But back then, bystanders didn’t dial 911 when they saw kids on their own. They waved.

Maybe the lesson from the Kitty Genovese era should be this: Let’s get more people back outside, including children. That way we can be looking out for each other, instead of freaking out.

Lenore Skenazy is a public speaker and founder of the book and blog Free-Range Kids.

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Study: Millennials Lean Left But Reject Labels

Unattached to party and religious labels, millennials are forging a unique identity for themselves in adulthood

The so-called millennial generation is one of the most independently minded in recent U.S. history, according to a new study.

Millennials, those born after 1980 and who represent the most racially diverse generation in America, are more detached than previous generations to institutions of religion, politics and marriage, but more digitally networked, according to the Pew Research Center survey released Friday. And while many millennials voted for President Barack Obama and are politically left-leaning, relatively few are attached to the Democratic Party. Millennials recorded one of the highest levels of institutional disaffiliation for any generation in the two-plus decades Pew has been polling on the issue.

Millennials, who make up 27 percent of the adult population in the U.S., are more likely than previous generations to say there isn’t a great deal of difference between the Republican and Democratic parties. Over half of them choose not to identify with either political party. Yet millennials continue to view the Democrats more favorably than the Republicans, standing out as the only generation in which conservatives do not significantly outnumber liberals, according to Pew.

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This Map Shows Just How Big The Wage Gap Between Men and Women Is

The gender pay gap is biggest in South Korea

We all know that women tend to earn less than men, but this infographic illustrates just how much less. The graph at the top shows how the average pay gap across the European Union has fluctuated over recent years, and the map below shows the percentage difference between male and female wages in nations across the globe.

Unfortunately, data wasn’t available for many countries, but the overall trend remains clear: the global gender pay gap is still huge.

Global Gender Pay Gap

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5 Things You Should Know About Working Dads

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Work-family balance isn’t a women’s issue – it’s a family one

My wife and I both work, but since she is a musical theater actress, sometimes she has to work late, really late. On those days, we get my son up, fed, dressed and ready for school before we go to work. At my job, I put in a full morning, work through lunch at my desk, leave a few hours early while taking work home—all so I can get back in time for the afternoon bus. At home, I help with homework, cook dinner, play light-sabers and Legos, supervise bathtime, cuddle my son and tuck him in. My wife comes home just in time for a good-night kiss. I spend an hour or two working on my laptop and my wife chills out with Downton Abbey before we go to bed. Some days, she’s home earlier; on others, we’re all home for family game night. Each day is a little different.

I’m no hero, no “superdad.” I’m just one of the millions of dads who are putting in the work to provide for their families, to balance their careers with their spouses’ and, most importantly, to be a loving, involved father. My work-family juggle is typical, but as a society, we don’t think much about the challenges faced by working fathers.

When the media does pay attention to fathers, it tends to focus on the stay-at-home variety. This makes sense, as SAHDs are breaking down barriers as to what society considers a “real man” and are demonstrating that men and women can succeed outside of traditional gender roles—all to the benefit of their families, children and our society. Go SAHDs!

(MORE: 5 Myths About Stay-At-Home Dads)

But the fact is that most fathers work outside the home. And their main concern—balancing a successful career with the time and energy needed to be a loving, involved father—has received comparatively scant attention. To fill the void, here are five things we should all know about today’s working dad:

  1. This generation of fathers works as hard and for as many hours as prior generations. They face at least as many financial pressures and a world with less job and financial security than dads who have come before. Even with the rise of breadwinner moms and dual-income couples, fathers are the sole or primary providers for 85% of dual-parent households.
  2. Fathers today aspire to career success. 76% of those surveyed in Boston College’s New Dad studies wish to be promoted to positions of greater responsibility and 58% express a strong desire to move into senior management.
  3. Today’s dad has tripled the time he spends caring for his children and does twice the housework, compared to fathers of a generation ago. 65% of dads see their role as both provider and caretaker, and 85% aspire to fully sharing parenting with their spouses (however, only about 30% report that they do so).
  4. Workplaces and corporate cultures have not kept up with these changes. Research shows that men who adjust their work for family are often seen as insufficiently committed to their work and “unmanly,” facing stigma and career consequences. Employers still expect men to be “all in” for work even when they are sharing care at home.
  5. 50% of working dads say they find it very or somewhat difficult to balance work and family responsibilities. In fact, more fathers today (about two-thirds) report work-family conflict and stress than working moms.

Needless to say, this is quite a set of challenges, and they deserve attention. I believe that when more attention is paid to men’s work-family issues:

  • These issues become more normal and acceptable to talk about in homes and workplaces across the country
  • Fathers who struggle with work-family balance will realize they are not alone, and will be more willing to reach out for help and to connect with fellow dads
  • Supervisors and business leaders will realize this is a serious business issue that requires thought and attention
  • Fathers, mothers, kids, families, society and even employers will benefit

We still have a long way to go, but, for the first time, the tide is beginning to turn and dads’ work-family issues are starting to be discussed. As a dad and a fatherhood advocate, I couldn’t be happier. When working dads are supported, families are stronger.

Work-family balance is not a woman’s issue. And it’s not a man’s issue. It’s a family issue that affects us all. It’s time we started talking more about it.

Scott Behson, PhD, is a Professor of Management at Fairleigh Dickinson University, a busy involved dad, and an overall grateful guy. He runs Fathers, Work, and Family, a blog dedicated to helping fathers better balance work and family, and encouraging more supportive workplaces. He also writes on work and family issues for Harvard Business Review (HBR) Blogs, Huffington Post and The Good Men Project. He lives in Nyack, NY with his wife, Amy, and son, Nick. Contact him on Twitter (@ScottBehson), Facebook, LinkedIn or email.

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The Best and Worst Places to Cry and Listen to Bright Eyes in NYC

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New York is, by and large, a city full of crybabies. The sheer amount of people heaving and sighing their way through Manhattan every day grants the city a kind of anonymity that makes it seem like, totally appropriate to sob on a street corner for little to no reason at all.

New Yorkers cry in different settings for different reasons: on the subway because their landlord is kind of being a jerk, in Duane Reade because the pharmacy messed up their prescription order again, or, if you’re me, on the corner of Broadway and 50th St. because it’s cold and the tourists fresh out of Broadway shows keep taking all the cabs (note: this is not actually a good place to cry).

Now, some genius has decided to gather a list of the best and worst places to cry in a Tumblr called NYC Crying Guide. Good places to cry, according to the guide? The Build-a-Bear Workshop on 5th Ave. (“If you want to be treated like a real person despite your overflowing tears – go here immediately!!”); Bank of America on 5th and 48th (“A very average, basic, no-frills, in and out place to cry”); and the 7 train (“It’s a criers dream!!!!!! I cry on this subway at least once a day).”

Meanwhile, you might want to avoid the AT&T store near Bryant Park when you’re feeling overwhelmed and on the brink of another teary outburst (“Let’s just say, AT&T, I will NOT be returning to your store to cry”).

What are your favorite places to cry in NYC, besides alone, in front of your computer, reading this post right now?

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