Put a small amount of conscious effort into trying to be a better friend, spouse, whatever.
Sounds ridiculous but research shows:
- Improving any relationship is as easy as actively showing interest in the other person or sharing with them.
- Pretending time with a romantic partner was a first date makes it more enjoyable for you and for your partner. Why? On first dates we make an effort to impress.
- Racists actually make a better first impression on minorities than non-racists do. Why? Because they have to try to not act racist and the effort makes them come off better than someone who doesn’t have to try.
- Worried that all this is fake and contrived? Relax. Putting your best face forward actually reveals your true self.
This piece originally appeared on Barking Up the Wrong Tree.
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