--- title: How to Talk to Your Kids About All That Stuff They Want description: Holiday season is a great time to discuss desires versus needs canonical: https://time.com/4147658/how-to-talk-to-your-kids-about-all-that-stuff-they-want/ author: Carey Wallace article:opinion: false article:content_tier: free article:published_time: 2015-12-14T17:13:09.000Z article:modified_time: 2026-04-13T08:57:33.544Z og:title: How to Talk to Your Kids About All That Stuff They Want og:description: Holiday season is a great time to discuss wants versus needs og:url: https://time.com/4147658/how-to-talk-to-your-kids-about-all-that-stuff-they-want/ og:site_name: TIME og:image: https://static.time.com/v3/assets/bltea6093859af6183b/blt8bd3622f32938097/69887553e20a875658a8ea4a/chistmas-gift.jpg?branch=production&width=1200&quality=75&auto=webp&crop=16:9 og:image:width: 2560 og:image:height: 1440 og:image:alt: 143690940 og:type: article twitter:card: summary_large_image twitter:title: How to Talk to Your Kids About All That Stuff They Want twitter:description: Holiday season is a great time to discuss wants versus needs twitter:image: https://static.time.com/v3/assets/bltea6093859af6183b/blt8bd3622f32938097/69887553e20a875658a8ea4a/chistmas-gift.jpg?branch=production&width=1200&quality=75&auto=webp&crop=16:9 ---  # How to Talk to Your Kids About All That Stuff They Want > Sponsored content. 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Previous generations had to leave the house to go to the store or see an advertisement. But for today’s kids, commercial things have become part of every day life. That doesn’t mean that having stuff is bad, Cook says. “Before there was big capitalism, human beings made things and traded things. When it comes down to it, we have to have stuff.” And in fact the holiday season, with its flurry of commercial messages, is a great time to start discussing how to deal a central question kids will need to answer to navigate life: what’s considered a want, and what’s considered a need. It’s important even for **_elementary age kids_**to feel like their desires are heard, Cook says. “You would be a tyrant if you did not listen to what your children want.” And the holidays can be a great time for kids to begin to think about their desires in an organized way: from deciding what costume they’d like to wear at Halloween, to deciding what does and doesn’t belong on their holiday wishlist. As kids grow into **_middle school_**, says Cook, parents can start conversations that shift the focus from the stuff kids want, to what it means to give and receive. In particular, Cook says, it’s good to focus on the fact that a gift is always a response to a relationship. So instead of just talking about what kids want, parents can get them talking about why someone might give a gift – as well as how to be someone who gives thoughtful gifts. **_High school_** kids are old enough to start to think not just about what they want, but why. And at this age, Cook says, parents can still shift the focus off of the objects kids might fixate on, to the bigger questions How? By encouraging kids to think about what their desires might say about them: are the things they want “manifestations of emerging talents or interests?” At any age, Cook says, it’s best to focus less on an object, and more about what the object means in our life. “What are these things doing for us?” he asks. 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