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December 02, 2016

belinda-luscombe
I’ve often wondered what it would be like if we could inhabit our children’s brains for a day and see them as they see themselves and also see ourselves as they see us. How would our parenting habits change? I’m pretty sure I would just talk/lecture/nag advise a lot less often. Maybe I would worry about my kid less, but knowing me, probably more. Instead, I'm listening to myself more and trying to notice which of my interactions are positive and which are not. I'm also thinking of enlisting my spouse to point stuff out to me, (which, I have a bad feeling, he will be more than happy to do.) By the way, thanks to everybody who sent me recipes. I already bought the ingredients for a lot of them. Um, haven’t cooked any yet. (I was looking on reddit yesterday at this other person’s meal-planning and just reading about it exhausted me.) I'm still at belinda.luscombe@time.com and @luscombeland on Twitter. I'd love to know which gift you gave a kid that they played with longest, especially if it was a surprise. What gifts stand the test of time?
Roundup

Over the past decade and a half American kids’ diets have got a lot healthier. Fewer sugary drinks, higher consumption of fruits, whole grains, seafood and plant proteins, and greens and beans. Yay. Now the bad news: they’re still really unhealthy. Instead of an average Healthy Eating Index score of 42.5 out of a 100, American kids now have a whopping 50.2. Baby steps, amirite? TIME

I never really expected to be a parent. I wanted to be a parent when I became one but not a second sooner—it wasn’t one of my childhood dreams, or even my young adulthood dreams. And I don’t regret becoming one...usually. But this is an interesting thoughtful essay about a woman with the opposite experience. She expected to be a parent and she didn’t get to be one and she’s OK with it, mostly. Refinery29

In my son’s elementary school, they had gym class once a week. I always felt bad for him about it. Especially the year that the gym teacher decided that she was only going to teach dance. (Greeeeeeeat!)Now it turns out, according to a Finnish study, that young boys who are more physically active may also get better at reading more quickly. Caveat: it's Finland. They're just really good at education there. TIME

Motherhood is fun and primal and thrilling and all, but it’s hard to deny that it’s often a huge fat brake on a career's path. A new study suggests that the penalties working moms pay is even higher if they’re educated, but I remain dubious. If they’re educated they’re more likely to have some work flexibility. Blue collar jobs can be really inflexible. Also they’re earning more to begin with, so while educated women lose more money when they become moms, they have more left to meet their needs. Anyway, we’re splitting hairs here. The real point is, as I keep saying; we have to make sure guys get and take paternity leave so that fatherhood and motherhood are treated equally in the workplace. Bloomberg

Do you remember when the Iraq war stared in 2003? Well the kids born that year are now teenagers. Those kids have grown up only knowing their country in uproar. And if they live somewhere like Mosul, their education has been incredibly interrupted. The head of Save the Children says we need to get those kids back in school. TIME

A little girl had a photo taken dressed as Hillary Clinton with Hillary Clinton. A little while later, her mom found it being used as the basis for a nasty meme and being shared widely online. Everybody knows you can't beat the Internet. But she did. No matter what side of the political divide you fall on, you can recognize this as a victory for parents in what must have been a very scary fight. Washington Post

Very-cute-funny-story-about-a-first-haircut alert. It involves mothers-in-law, voicelessness, tradition. You know, the whole shebang. Fatherly.

PFFT: Parenting From Famous Types

Ryan Phillippe, actor and father of three, (two with his ex, Reese Witherspoon)

"You have to get to that point as a divorced parent, as any parent, where you're not putting yourself first. You want the kids' experience to be its own and not like, 'Well, I need to have my time!' We have been very good about that."

 
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