--- description: There’s no right, there’s no wrong title: James Deen: The Beauty of Sexuality Is Openness image: https://static.time.com/v3/assets/bltea6093859af6183b/bltec2c91629b052e0c/698862f335ba6f13ffc0f176/question-everything-james-deen.jpg?branch=production&width=3840&quality=75&auto=webp&crop=16:9 --- Sep 11, 2015 # The Beauty of Sexuality Is Openness by James Deen  NEW YORK, NY - JULY 10: Actor Haley Joel Osment discusses his new series "The Spoils Before Dying" at AOL Studios In New York on July 10, 2015 in New York City. (Photo by Adela Loconte/WireImage) NEW YORK, NY - JULY 10: Actor Haley Joel Osment discusses his new series "The Spoils Before Dying" at AOL Studios In New York on July 10, 2015 in New York City. (Photo by Adela Loconte/WireImage)Getty Images; Photo Illustration by Mia Tramz for TIME I think that the idea of a monogamous relationship needs to be accepted as a possibility moving forward in our progressive society. But the beauty of sexuality is that it’s open-ended. There’s no right, there’s no wrong. It’s based on the individual. The beauty of it is that just because one person, or two people, or three people, or however many people are involved in a relationship structure that works for them, that doesn’t mean that’s the right way. All that needs to happen is that when people enter into relationships, and while they’re in these relationships, they need to have open discussions about their emotions, feelings and boundaries, and then they need to respect each other. I’ve been in relationships where anything went; I’ve been in relationships where I didn’t have sex off camera at all. The interest of the youth doesn’t seem to be the consistent with the old format of relationships. So, is it monogamy obsolete? Absolutely not. Is it something that’s in the future we’re going to see less of? Yes. _Deen is an adult-film actor and director_ ```json [{"@context":"https://schema.org","@type":"Article","@id":"https://time.com/collections/question-everything/4028275/james-deen-is-monogamy-over/","mainEntityOfPage":{"@type":"WebPage","@id":"https://time.com/collections/question-everything/4028275/james-deen-is-monogamy-over/"},"headline":"James Deen: The Beauty of Sexuality Is Openness","datePublished":"2015-09-11T16:43:11.000Z","dateModified":"2026-03-02T23:08:31.200Z","description":"There’s no right, there’s no wrong","url":"https://time.com/collections/question-everything/4028275/james-deen-is-monogamy-over/","keywords":["Question Everything"],"thumbnailUrl":"https://static.time.com/v3/assets/bltea6093859af6183b/bltec2c91629b052e0c/698862f335ba6f13ffc0f176/question-everything-james-deen.jpg?branch=production&width=1200&quality=75&auto=webp&crop=1200:675&height=675","author":[{"@type":"Person","name":"TIME Staff","jobTitle":null,"url":"https://time.com/author/time-staff/"}],"creator":"TIME Staff","articleSection":"","image":[{"@type":"ImageObject","url":"https://static.time.com/v3/assets/bltea6093859af6183b/bltec2c91629b052e0c/698862f335ba6f13ffc0f176/question-everything-james-deen.jpg?branch=production&width=1200&quality=75&auto=webp&crop=1200:675&height=675","width":1200,"height":675}],"publisher":{"@type":"Organization","name":"Time","url":"https://time.com/","logo":{"@type":"ImageObject","url":"https://time.com/images/logo.png","width":528,"height":156},"foundingDate":"March 3, 1923","sameAs":["https://www.facebook.com/time","https://www.instagram.com/time/?hl=en","https://twitter.com/time","https://www.pinterest.com/timemagazine"]}},{"@context":"https://schema.org","@type":"BreadcrumbList","itemListElement":[{"@type":"ListItem","position":1,"item":{"@id":"https://time.com/collections/question-everything/4028275/james-deen-is-monogamy-over/","name":"James Deen: The Beauty of Sexuality Is Openness"}}]},{"@context":"https://schema.org","@type":"VideoObject","name":"Question Everything: Is Monogamy Obsolete?","description":"TIME hit the streets to ask New Yorkers several offbeat questions designed to provoke and prod the brain.","thumbnailUrl":"https://cdn.jwplayer.com/v2/media/wkRFSgkR/poster.jpg?width=720","uploadDate":"2015-09-18T14:45:46.000Z","contentUrl":"https://cdn.jwplayer.com/manifests/wkRFSgkR.m3u8","embedUrl":"https://time.com/collections/question-everything/4028275/james-deen-is-monogamy-over/","duration":"PT1M5S","potentialAction":{"@type":"SeekToAction","target":"https://time.com/collections/question-everything/4028275/james-deen-is-monogamy-over/?jw_start={seek_to_second_number}","startOffset-input":"required name=seek_to_second_number"}}] ```