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Terms and conditions apply. * Savings buckets are a feature of Ally Bank's Savings Account. * No ATM fees from Ally Bank at Allpoint and Moneypass ATMs plus we reimburse for fees charged by other ATM owners nationwide up to $10 per statement cycle. * Early direct deposit offers eligible direct deposits up to two days sooner. * Spending buckets are a feature of Ally Bank's Spending Account. ## Video: Why Friends May Be More Important Than Family [Watch (HLS stream): Why Friends May Be More Important Than Family](https://cdn.jwplayer.com/manifests/MdTxsGNX.m3u8) (1:32)  _Published 2017-06-08. Friends become increasingly important to health and happiness as people age, according to new research in the journal Personal Relationships._ by [Eric Barker](https://time.com/author/eric-barker/) ## Eric Barker  Four friends jumping into a lake with mountains in the background Four friends jumping into a lake with mountains in the backgroundGetty Images Do your friends sometimes disappoint you? Ever feel like there is something missing in your relationships? You’re not alone. Tom Rath and the Gallup organization discovered something interesting: the vast majority of the time, no one pal offers you everything you need from your relationships. Some of your friends are great listeners… but they’re not always there when you need them. Others are intensely loyal… but just not that great at helping you out of a jam. And so on. We get different things from different friends. And sometimes even with a sizable group you’re still not getting all the things you want in order to feel truly supported in life. Kinda like how to be healthy you need the four different food groups — you can’t just eat cookies for every meal. “Friendship” is a pretty vague word. You generally don’t even know everything you want from your relationships to feel whole — you just know something’s missing. There’s a gap. So Rath and Gallup got to work. They surveyed over a thousand people to find out what the types of “vital friends” were — someone who if they vanished, your life satisfaction would noticeably decrease. What did these types of friends offer? How do they round out your life? What are those things we all want from a group of friends to feel truly fulfilled? Rath breaks down the results of their research in [Vital Friends: The People You Can’t Afford to Live Without](http://geni.us/vital). It turns out there are 8 types of “vital friends.” Many of us don’t have all of them in our squad, and that’s why we often feel disappointed or like we’re not getting everything we need. (You have to collect all the different Pokemon to win at the game called life.) So let’s break down the 8 and get the basics on what they are, learn where you might meet the ones that are missing, and find out how to strengthen your relationships with the ones you already have. We’ll also look at what you should do to be better at the role which you play in the lives of others. Okay, time to get friendly… ## 1) The Builder Just because you’re not in Little League anymore doesn’t mean you don’t need a coach. Someone who motivates you and encourages you to take it to the next level. That supportive friend who believes in your potential and won’t let you rest on your laurels. From [Vital Friends: The People You Can’t Afford to Live Without](http://geni.us/vital): --- > “” --- **Lacking a Builder in your life?** We all need that person who nudges you to be all that you can be. Start asking more people for advice, then vet based on who gives solid answers and supports you. Who checks in with you a week later to see how things are progressing? That’s your new Builder. **Want to make the Builder you have better?** Tell them your goals and what you’re struggling with. Tell them you appreciate their support… and give them permission to nag you if you slack. **What if you’re a Builder? How can you be more helpful to your friends?** Pay attention to what they’re up to and offer help. Check in with them if goals they said were important do a vanishing act. Some people need a supportive voice in order to follow through. My friend [Jodie](https://www.instagram.com/jodielynngold/) is a Builder _par excellence_. I tend to only do things that interest or excite me. So my life can get a little unbalanced. (That is a tsunami-sized understatement, by the way.) When I neglect things that, _oh_, “keep me breathing” or “make life worth living,” Jodie offers reminders, support… and then nags me relentlessly. So I always do what she says… Eventually. (To learn more about the science of a successful life, check out my new book [here](http://geni.us/butwt).) Builders motivate you and keep you going. Who sings your praises to others? **_Read more:_** [**_New Neuroscience Reveals 4 Rituals That Will Make You Happy_**](http://www.bakadesuyo.com/2015/09/make-you-happy-2/) ## 2) The Champion We all need a friend who isn’t afraid to break out the pom-poms and play cheerleader. Somebody who roots for you and describes you to others in a way that makes you blush. From [Vital Friends: The People You Can’t Afford to Live Without](http://geni.us/vital): --- > “” --- **Need a Champion in your life?** Look for the people who are always praising others. They’re usually very humble and kind. So say hi. **Want to help your Champion help you?** Regularly keep them abreast of what you’ve been doing and what your goals are. And don’t forget to thank them when their help pays off. Champions live for that. **If you’re a Champion, how can you improve?** Ask your friends what they’ve been up to and how you can help. Think about different ways you can promote them. Maybe you’ve spread the word about their great work at the office — but have you ever complimented them in front of their spouse? Luckily, I have [Andy](https://twitter.com/andykevinwalker). Andy says things about me to other people that would make me want to meet me if I didn’t already know myself. And he does this for all his friends. I can tell you that they are all very lucky people. But Andy would just tell you how awesome they are. (To learn the 3 secrets from neuroscience that will make you emotionally intelligent, click [here](http://www.bakadesuyo.com/2017/08/emotionally-intelligent/).) So maybe you have someone swinging pom-poms for you. But do you have that person to conspire with on that passion project? [_Want to build enduring friendships? Sign up for TIME’s guide to the science of social connections._](https://time.com/wellness-mags/) ## 3) The Collaborator Who loves that same strange thing that you love? Who is that friend that the moment you see each other you roll up your sleeves and get to work on the next big caper? From [Vital Friends: The People You Can’t Afford to Live Without](http://geni.us/vital): --- > “” --- **How do you find yourself a Collaborator?** Let the people around you know more about your interests and see who else happens to be into cryptozoology or 19th century pre-existentialism. Attend events where fellow enthusiasts gather. **What’s a good way to encourage your current Collaborator?** Send them articles about your mutual interest. Meet for coffee to discuss. **And what should you do to be a better Collaborator if you are one?** Your mission, should you decide to accept it… Schedule a regular time to meet and work on your shared plan for Global Domination. My buddy [Mike](https://vimeo.com/152639172) is a grandmaster of all things visual. Mike and I don’t _do_ stuff together — we _make_ stuff together. When I said I wanted to send my publisher some ideas for my [book’s](http://geni.us/butwt) cover, Mike fired up Photoshop. When I needed an author photo for said [book](http://geni.us/butwt), Mike’s the one who took it. And per my above recommendation, I really should set a regular time to meet with him… (To learn the seven-step morning ritual that will make you happy all day, click [here](http://www.bakadesuyo.com/2016/01/morning-ritual/).) You have the Bonnie to your Clyde. Do you have the person you can call late at night when the worries get serious and you’re having a dark teatime of the soul? **_Read more:_** [**_New Harvard Research Reveals A Fun Way To Be More Successful_**](http://www.bakadesuyo.com/2014/09/be-more-successful/) ## 4) The Companion Simply put: a best friend. They won’t just help you move; they’ll help you move bodies. The person who will still be there when everyone else has very wisely run for cover. From [Vital Friends: The People You Can’t Afford to Live Without](http://geni.us/vital): --- > “” --- **How do you find a Companion?** Think about which of your current friends you might want to have a deeper relationship with. Spend more time with them. Open up and be vulnerable. **How do you strengthen your relationship with a current Companion?** Cut the small talk. Discuss the deep stuff in your life: your fears, your dreams, your future. **How can you be a better Companion?** Create a safe place for your friend to discuss anything. And when times get tough, reach out. Don’t wait for them to ask for help. Jason is my best friend. If there is anything in this life I should be envied for, it is that. He is the person who frequently says things like, “Eric, that thing you are about to do is insane, has little chance of success, and is illegal in most NATO countries. I know you’re going to do it anyway. If it works out, I will be thrilled for you. If it crashes and burns, call me no matter how late. I’m here for you.” And often I call. And he always picks up. (To learn the 4 rituals from neuroscience that will make you happy, click [here](http://www.bakadesuyo.com/2015/09/make-you-happy-2/).) Best friend acquired. But who is introducing you to new friends? ## 5) The Connector No matter what the issue, they know somebody who can help. They make friends more often than most people make excuses. Even if they were locked in solitary confinement with no one to talk to, they’d end up best pals with the prison guard. From [Vital Friends: The People You Can’t Afford to Live Without](http://geni.us/vital): --- > “” --- **What’s it take to add a great Connector to your life?** Look for the people who know everybody in a given situation. Don’t be afraid to introduce yourself — these folks obviously like to meet new people. **How do you best leverage your Connector?** This one’s easy: just ask them for introductions. **If you’re a Connector, how can you better help your friends?** Be proactive. Don’t wait for them to ask for help. Think about who might be good for them to know and offer an introduction. Or just throw a party and get everybody talking to each other. My buddy [Gautam](https://twitter.com/gmukunda) knows more fascinating people than I know people. Not only is he the subject of one of the stories in my [book](http://geni.us/butwt), he also introduced me to two other people whose stories I told in my book. While I was typing this, Gautam has made 6 new friends. (To learn how to make friends as an adult, click [here](http://www.bakadesuyo.com/2017/02/how-to-make-friends-as-an-adult/).) So you know somebody who always knows somebody. But have you got a friend who just makes you feel great? ## 6) The Energizer That fun friend. The person you’re always laughing around. The one who always knows the great place to go or the awesome thing to do. From [Vital Friends: The People You Can’t Afford to Live Without](http://geni.us/vital): --- > “” --- **How can you find your own shiny, new Energizer?** Look for the person who is the life of the party in any situation. Bask in their neon glow and introduce yourself. **Want to further energize your current Energizer?** Let them know how much you appreciate their enthusiasm. Reciprocate the positivity. **Want to be a better Energizer?** Just like with Connectors, be proactive. Look for those who are feeling down and work your magic. My friend… Oh, _crap_. I don’t think I have an energizer. Well, that explains a lot. Better introduce myself to the life of the party, STAT… (To learn an FBI behavior expert’s tips for getting people to like you, click [here](http://www.bakadesuyo.com/2014/10/how-to-get-people-to-like-you/).) So you have a friend who always keeps you smiling. But who is always introducing you to new ideas? **_Read more:_** [**_How To Get People To Like You: 7 Ways From An FBI Behavior Expert_**](http://www.bakadesuyo.com/2014/10/how-to-get-people-to-like-you/) ## 7) The Mind Opener They send you interesting articles. They get you to question your assumptions. Talking to them makes your brain do things straight out of the dream sequences from “Inception.” From [Vital Friends: The People You Can’t Afford to Live Without](http://geni.us/vital): --- > “” --- **How do you find someone who will open your mind?** Share your ideas with more people. See who regularly offers new perspectives and invite them to crowbar your cranium. **What’s the best way to help your Mind Opener work on your noggin?** Encourage them to play devil’s advocate with your ideas — and never shoot down their responses. Noodle on their suggestions for a while to fully explore them and to show respect. **What if you’re the Opener of Minds?** Listen — and offer suggestions. Send friends ideas you have and stuff they should check out related to their interests. My friend [Nick](https://twitter.com/nickkrasney) never met an idea he couldn’t challenge. We go on absurdly long walks and he responds to everything I say with, “But what if…?” He always makes me think really hard. I like him anyway. (To learn more about how to be someone people love to talk to, click [here](http://www.bakadesuyo.com/2015/02/love-to-talk/).) So you have someone to challenge you. But who helps you plan how to get to that next stage in life? ## 8) The Navigator Sometimes it feels like you’re in Hell, Dante — and you are gonna need a Virgil. Sometimes they’re a mentor, sometimes they’re a sounding board, but they’re always your GPS system for when you don’t know which exit to take on the highway of life. From [Vital Friends: The People You Can’t Afford to Live Without](http://geni.us/vital): --- > “” --- **Need to create a new Navigator in your life?** Ask people around you about themselves. Find out more about what they’ve done and what challenges they’ve overcome. You’d be surprised how many have been in your shoes — or had an analogous experience that might offer insight. **Want your current Navigator to have improved GPS?** Tell them when you’re facing big decisions. Share your goals and dreams. Ask them how they would go about getting from here to there. **As a Navigator, how can you help guide your pals?** Again, be proactive. Offer help and advice where they’re struggling with an area you have expertise in. This year would have been inconceivably harder without my friend [Ryan Holiday](https://dailystoic.com/). He’s offered guidance on releasing a book, what new projects to explore, and how to handle the big issues in life in a way that would make the ancient Stoics proud. He’s the only person I know who goes through more books than I do and, unlike me, his lips don’t move when he’s reading them. (To learn the lazy way to an awesome life, click [here](http://www.bakadesuyo.com/2015/07/awesome-life/).) Okay, that’s a lot of different friends. Let’s round it all up… ## Sum Up These are the 8 friends you need to be happy in life: * **The Builder**: If you were a sports team, they’d be the “Coach.” * **The Champion**: Pom-poms not included. * **The Collaborator**: The unindicted co-conspirator. * **The Companion**: They’ll be at the police station at 3AM with bail money. Again. * **The Connector**: This is the friend you and I probably have in common. * **The Energizer**: (I’m currently taking applications.) * **The Mind Opener**: If they sent you this blog post, I’m flattered. * **The Navigator**: Like a high school guidance counselor, except useful. Some of your friends may play multiple roles. And you might play different roles to different friends of yours. That’s fine. To most of my friends, I’m a Mind Opener. But to others I’m a Collaborator or a Companion.(After 4 espressos I might be an Energizer.) Figure out what you are to your friends. And then make yourself a better one. Find the roles that are missing in your group of friends and work on strengthening the relationships with the ones you have. It’s like a heist movie where you need a safecracker, a wheelman, a computer expert and the comic relief in order to pull off the job. Life is hard enough. You’re gonna need love and support to make it through. **Join over 320,000 readers. Get a free weekly update via email** [**here**](http://eepurl.com/o6uAD)**.** _Buy Barker’s book_ Barking Up The Wrong Tree [_here_](https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B01KT104RI/ref=as%5Fli%5Ftl?ie=UTF8&tag=timecom-20&camp=1789&creative=9325&linkCode=as2&creativeASIN=B01KT104RI&linkId=b009d7efa9197a1b3ce0a5d46f49d038) _This article originally appeared on_ [_Barking Up The Wrong Tree_](http://www.bakadesuyo.com/2017/11/friends-you-need/) ```json [{"@context":"https://schema.org","@type":"Article","@id":"https://time.com/collections/live-well/5039947/8-types-of-friends/","mainEntityOfPage":{"@type":"WebPage","@id":"https://time.com/collections/live-well/5039947/8-types-of-friends/"},"headline":"These Are the 8 Types of Friends You Need in Your Life","datePublished":"2017-12-03T12:00:53.000Z","dateModified":"2026-08-04T07:24:29.433Z","description":"It turns out there are 8 types of “vital friends.” Many of us don’t have all of them in our squad, and that’s why we often feel disappointed.","url":"https://time.com/collections/live-well/5039947/8-types-of-friends/","keywords":["Love & Relationships","franchise","TIME for Health"],"thumbnailUrl":"https://static.time.com/v3/assets/bltea6093859af6183b/blte7e05884642e263e/6988e725cf40a81441c4a5a9/friendships-types.jpg?branch=production&width=1200&quality=75&auto=webp&crop=1200:675&height=675","author":[{"@type":"Person","name":"Eric Barker","jobTitle":null,"url":"https://time.com/author/eric-barker/"}],"creator":"Eric Barker","articleSection":"Ideas","image":[{"@type":"ImageObject","url":"https://static.time.com/v3/assets/bltea6093859af6183b/blte7e05884642e263e/6988e725cf40a81441c4a5a9/friendships-types.jpg?branch=production&width=1200&quality=75&auto=webp&crop=1200:675&height=675","width":1200,"height":675}],"publisher":{"@type":"Organization","name":"Time","url":"https://time.com/","logo":{"@type":"ImageObject","url":"https://time.com/images/logo.png","width":528,"height":156},"foundingDate":"March 3, 1923","sameAs":["https://www.facebook.com/time","https://www.instagram.com/time/?hl=en","https://twitter.com/time","https://www.pinterest.com/timemagazine"]}},{"@context":"https://schema.org","@type":"BreadcrumbList","itemListElement":[{"@type":"ListItem","position":1,"item":{"@id":"/section/ideas/","name":"Ideas"}},{"@type":"ListItem","position":2,"item":{"@id":"https://time.com/collections/live-well/5039947/8-types-of-friends/","name":"These Are the 8 Types of Friends You Need in Your Life"}}]},{"@context":"https://schema.org","@type":"VideoObject","name":"Why Friends May Be More Important Than Family","description":"Friends become increasingly important to health and happiness as people age, according to new research in the journal Personal Relationships.","thumbnailUrl":"https://cdn.jwplayer.com/v2/media/MdTxsGNX/poster.jpg?width=720","uploadDate":"2017-06-08T15:23:17.000Z","contentUrl":"https://cdn.jwplayer.com/manifests/MdTxsGNX.m3u8","embedUrl":"https://time.com/collections/live-well/5039947/8-types-of-friends/","duration":"PT1M32S","potentialAction":{"@type":"SeekToAction","target":"https://time.com/collections/live-well/5039947/8-types-of-friends/?jw_start={seek_to_second_number}","startOffset-input":"required name=seek_to_second_number"}}] ```