--- title: Hilary Jacobs Hendel | TIME description: Hilary Jacobs Hendel, LCSW, is a psychotherapist and emotions educator. She is the author of the books It's Not Always DepressionandParents Have Feelings, Too. canonical: https://time.com/author/hilary-jacobs-hendel/ og:title: TIME | Current & Breaking News | National & World Updates og:description: Breaking news and analysis from time.com. Politics, world news, photos, video, tech reviews, health, science, and entertainment news. og:url: https://time.com/author/hilary-jacobs-hendel/ og:site_name: TIME og:image: https://static.time.com/v3/assets/bltea6093859af6183b/bltde093bcdab65f2d0/6988d9b9bc6cfc69913e2a3c/time-logo.jpg?branch=production og:image:width: 300 og:image:height: 300 og:image:alt: Breaking news and analysis from time.com. Politics, world news, photos, video, tech reviews, health, science, and entertainment news. og:type: profile twitter:card: summary twitter:title: TIME | Current & Breaking News | National & World Updates twitter:description: Breaking news and analysis from time.com. Politics, world news, photos, video, tech reviews, health, science, and entertainment news. twitter:image: https://static.time.com/v3/assets/bltea6093859af6183b/bltde093bcdab65f2d0/6988d9b9bc6cfc69913e2a3c/time-logo.jpg?branch=production --- # Hilary Jacobs Hendel ## Hilary Jacobs Hendel [Hilary Jacobs Hendel](https://www.hilaryjacobshendel.com/), LCSW, is a psychotherapist and emotions educator. She is the author of the books [_It's Not Always Depression_](https://www.amazon.com/Its-Not-Always-Depression-Authentic/dp/0399588140/?tag=timecom-20)and[_Parents Have Feelings, Too_](https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/788442/parents-have-feelings-too-by-hilary-jacobs-hendel/)_._ ## Hilary Jacobs Hendel *  Sep 23, 2025 ### [How to Keep Your Child Calm Under Stress](https://time.com/7319316/how-to-keep-child-calm-juli-fraga-hilary-jacobs-hendel-essay/) "While stress can’t be stopped, parents can prevent it from rubbing off on their kids," write Juli F... [IDEAS](/section/ideas/) *  Oct 28, 2021 ### [Anxiety Feels Terrible, But It Has an Upside. Here's How to Make It Work in Your Favor](https://time.com/6111258/good-anxiety-therapists/) Anxiety can be a clue that we need to identify and experience our core emotions, which leads to calm... [IDEAS](/section/ideas/) *  Feb 27, 2018 ### [Ignoring Your Emotions Is Bad for Your Health. Here's What to Do About It](https://time.com/5163576/ignoring-your-emotions-bad-for-your-health/) [HEALTH](/section/health/) *  Feb 13, 2018 ### [How Couples Can Do Valentine’s Day Without the Pressure](https://time.com/5144605/valentines-day-pressure/) One couple fought every year until they tried this technique Meta: null ```json [{"@context":"https://schema.org","@type":"Organization","@id":"https://time.com/","name":"TIME","url":"https://time.com/","logo":{"@type":"ImageObject","url":"https://time.com/images/logo.png","width":528,"height":156},"foundingDate":"March 3, 1923","sameAs":["https://www.facebook.com/time","https://www.instagram.com/time/?hl=en","https://twitter.com/time","https://www.pinterest.com/timemagazine"]},{"@context":"https://schema.org","@type":"BreadcrumbList","itemListElement":[{"@type":"ListItem","position":1,"item":{"@id":"https://time.com/","name":"Home"}},{"@type":"ListItem","position":2,"item":{"@id":"https://time.com/author/hilary-jacobs-hendel/","name":"Hilary Jacobs Hendel"}}]},{"@context":"https://schema.org","@type":"Person","@id":"https://time.com/author/hilary-jacobs-hendel/","mainEntityOfPage":{"@type":"WebPage","@id":"https://time.com/author/hilary-jacobs-hendel/"},"name":"Hilary Jacobs Hendel","jobTitle":null,"description":"Hilary Jacobs Hendel, LCSW, is a psychotherapist and emotions educator. She is the author of the books It's Not Always DepressionandParents Have Feelings, Too.","url":"https://time.com/author/hilary-jacobs-hendel/","worksFor":{"@type":"Organization","name":"TIME","url":"https://time.com/"}}] ```