--- title: The Signs Caregiving Is Harming Your Health—and How To Protect Yourself description: Caregiver stress can affect your sleep, mood, and physical health. 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Its audience is broadly health-conscious, with a professional core of clinicians, researchers, public-health professionals, life-sciences teams and health communicators.  by [Angela Haupt](https://time.com/author/angela-haupt/)  ## Angela Haupt Sep 15, 2026 2:40 PM UTC  Malte Mueller—Getty Images  by [Angela Haupt](https://time.com/author/angela-haupt/)  ## Angela Haupt Sep 15, 2026 2:40 PM UTC Sue Ryan had been her husband’s sole [caregiver](https://time.com/article/2026/09/03/what-dolly-parton-said-in-her-last-interview-should-terrify-us/) for just under fiveyears before her facade of keeping it all together first began to crack. It was a long time coming. She’d spent countless nights up late correcting mistakes in the household finances—a task her husband had handled before [Alzheimer’s disease](https://time.com/article/2026/07/15/alzheimers-disease-tau-protein/) made it difficult. She no longer went to the gym, or on [walks](https://time.com/7306018/maximize-health-benefits-walking/), or to her own medical appointments. She waved away every offer of help with some version of _No, no, I’ve got this._ So when Ryan watched the potato chip fall from her husband’s lunch plate, she felt a flash of anger: _I’ve been doing all these things for you. You can’t even keep a potato chip on your plate?_ She didn’t say it. She gave him more chips, told him, “Honey, I’ll be right back,” and retreated to the bathroom, where she sat down and began to shake. “Oh my gracious,” she remembers thinking. “What just happened?” Ryan, who has spent 40 years caring for various family members and co-founded the caregiver-support organization [The Caregiver’s Journey,](https://thecaregiversjourney.org/) had been sacrificing pieces of her own life without tallying the toll. “I didn’t realize the impact of giving up a little bit here, shaving this off, shaving that off,” she says. Caregiver stress can have serious consequences for physical and mental health. It’s associated with anxiety, depression, sleep problems, mood disorders, and burnout, says Dr. Aditi Nerurkar, a stress expert and lecturer in the division of global health and social medicine at Harvard Medical School. But how can you tell when caregiving is starting to take a toll on your health—and what can you do? ## **Pay attention to what’s changed** The clearest warning sign isn’t one terrible day or week—it’s a pattern. Are you regularly struggling to fall asleep, barely eating (or wolfing down five doughnuts a day), snapping at people you love, or unable to focus on the novels you once loved? Maybe you’ve stopped calling friends because you don’t have the bandwidth for chit-chat. What matters is whether these changes have become “consistent and persistent,” says Diane Mariani, a licensed clinical social worker and director of Caring for Caregivers at Rush University Medical Center. Your friends and family members might notice them first. If they tell you that you don’t seem like yourself, resist the automatic “I’m fine” and seriously consider what they’re seeing. Poor sleep deserves particular attention. Even when Ryan slept, she says, she didn’t truly rest. It felt like she always had “one eye half open,” waiting for the next problem. “There’s a layer of stress even when you think, ‘I’ve got this,’” she says. “You’re waiting for the other shoe to drop.” ## **Notice when your own medical care has become optional** Caregivers often postpone their own screenings, brush off symptoms they would normally get checked out, or let chronic conditions go unmanaged. “You keep pushing things out,” Mariani says. Perhaps you cancel a [mammogram](https://time.com/7027180/what-to-expect-mammogram-breast-cancer-screening/) because your loved one is in the hospital, or you don’t have anyone who can stay with them while you’re away. Next thing you know, you’re a year overdue. Caregiving also disrupts the habits that help people stay healthy. “What we hear a lot from caregivers is the change in their sleeping, eating, and even exercise,” Mariani says. Over time, poor sleep and chronic stress can affect blood pressure and immune function, she adds, while missed appointments make it harder to catch new problems or manage existing ones. That doesn’t mean every headache, stomachache, or other symptom is caused by caregiving stress. New, persistent, or concerning symptoms need medical evaluation. Mariani and her colleagues routinely ask caregivers whether they have a primary-care doctor and when they last saw them. If you can’t remember the answer—or you’ve repeatedly canceled your own care—that’s a warning sign. As Nerurkar puts it, caregivers often land “at the bottom of that to-do list—and often they’re not even on the list.” ## **Don’t mistake suffering for resilience** Caregivers often de-prioritize their own health because they believe that’s what a strong, loving person does. If the situation feels unbearable, they might decide they simply need to become more resilient. Nerurkar calls this “toxic resilience”: a mind-over-matter approach built around “productivity at all costs, ‘all systems go’ all the time.” Real resilience accounts for human limits and the brain’s need for [rest and recovery](https://time.com/6969761/how-to-rest-more-effectively/). “It is a myth, categorically untrue, that people who are resilient cannot get burned out,” she says. “They can and they do.” Guilt can reinforce the same pattern. A spouse may have promised years ago never to move their partner into a care facility. An adult child might believe they’re responsible for managing everything alone. In some families and cultures, that responsibility traditionally falls to one person, often the oldest daughter. Ryan calls some of these commitments “promises you’re not meant to keep.” They’re made out of love, before anyone knows what a serious illness will eventually require. “It becomes, ‘I should take care of him. I promised him I would do this. I’m not going to go back on a promise,’” she says. Ryan once made a promise like that. But she ultimately moved her husband into a care community because his dementia had progressed, and he needed more social interaction than she could provide at home. It was, she says, “the wisest choice for his lifestyle, and his safety and mine.” ## **Identify what needs to change** Mariani suspects that most caregivers can already tell when a situation has become unsustainable. “I think most caregivers do kind of know,” she says. “They just don’t know the solution.” Ask yourself: “If nothing changes, can I continue living this way for another three or six months?” Then identify which part is wearing you down most. Is it getting up four times a night? Managing medications you don’t understand? Never being able to leave the house? Handling every appointment while your siblings offer advice from several states away? “I took this on. I want to do this. This is meaningful for me,” caregivers often tell Mariani. “I just don’t know if I can sustain it.” That’s why she avoids lecturing people about “self-care.” To someone who’s already overwhelmed, it can sound like “another task for their long list,” she says—or another reminder that they’re still not doing enough. Instead, Mariani asks: “What’s something you would like to have time for?” Maybe you miss your morning walk or reading before bed. Start there, and figure out what would have to change to bring it back. If you can’t walk because your loved one can’t be left alone, ask someone to stay with them for 30 minutes. If you keep missing your own appointment because you’re responsible for your parent’s transportation, ask a relative to drive them. Try: “I want to keep doing this, but I can’t sustain it exactly as it is. Could you handle the grocery shopping for the next few weeks?” Or: “Could you stay with Mom on Tuesday so I can make it to my appointment?” But it’s easier said than done, and our [society doesn’t currently provide enough support for caregivers](https://time.com/article/2026/09/03/what-dolly-parton-said-in-her-last-interview-should-terrify-us/), experts argue. ## **Give every offer of help a job** Before the potato-chip incident, Ryan routinely—and politely—turned down friends who offered to lend a hand. “I can lie to myself, and I can believe it,” she says. Her best friend, Lynn, was less convinced. After Ryan told her what had happened, she asked Lynn to become an accountability partner—a person who could tell her when she was taking on more than she could handle. Ryan also wrote a list of what someone could do if they had five minutes, 10 minutes, half an hour, two hours, half a day, or overnight. Then she contacted people who had previously offered to help and asked what they would be willing to take on. The tasks don’t have to involve hands-on care. Someone could pick up groceries, schedule appointments, call the insurance company, bring over dinner, research respite-care programs, or sit with your loved one while you leave the house. If you’re supporting a caregiver, offer something specific: “I’m going to the grocery store tomorrow—send me your list.” “I can take Dad to his appointment Thursday.” “I’ll stay with Mom while you get your mammogram.” If the person you want to help resists, Mariani suggests telling them: “I really care about you, and it would mean a lot to me if I could do something for you.” Then offer a task instead of asking them to invent one. One thing to avoid: dispensing advice from the sidelines. Caregivers often hear some version of “Why don’t you…” or “Have you tried…” from people who don’t understand their daily reality. “You don’t know, because you’re not here,” Mariani says. Start by listening. ## **Bring in professional support** If you’re dealing with ongoing changes to your sleep, mood, appetite, relationships, or overall health, contact your primary-care doctor and let them know you’re a caregiver. Don’t dismiss new physical symptoms as “just stress,” or assume a worsening health problem will improve once life settles down. Ask the health system treating your loved one whether it offers caregiver specialists, social workers, counseling, or support groups. Local and condition-specific organizations may also provide respite care, meal delivery, transportation, or in-home assistance. Support groups can be particularly useful because “everybody gets it,” Mariani says. Caregivers can trade practical advice without having to explain why an outsider-supplied solution won’t work. If researching resources feels like one responsibility too many, hand that job to someone who keeps asking how they can help: “Find out what caregiver support is available through Mom’s hospital, and send me the three best options.” Accepting help ultimately benefited both Ryan and her husband. He was highly social, and when friends stopped by, he got more company and stimulation. Ryan, meanwhile, stopped reflexively turning everyone away. “I went from, _No, I got this,_ to yes,” she says. “People wanted to lean in. They wanted to help. 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