--- description: A new meme asks the important questions, like why shouldn’t all men look like a tattooed Danny DeVito? title: A New Meme Suggests New Looks For “Dear Men ” image: https://static.time.com/v3/assets/bltea6093859af6183b/bltde093bcdab65f2d0/6988d9b9bc6cfc69913e2a3c/time-logo.jpg?branch=production --- * [Newsfeed](/tag/time-section-newsfeed/) ## Newsfeed Update your preferences in [Account Settings](/account/preferences/) Close # These Are the Best of All the 'Dear Men, What Is Preventing You From Looking Like This?' Memes by [Melissa Locker](/author/melissa-locker/) ## Melissa Locker Update your preferences in [Account Settings](/account/preferences/) Close May 27, 2020 4:27 PM CUT by [Melissa Locker](/author/melissa-locker/) ## Melissa Locker Update your preferences in [Account Settings](/account/preferences/) Close May 27, 2020 4:27 PM CUT There’s a [new meme](https://time.com/5838287/my-plans-2020-meme/ "undefined") making the rounds of the internet and it asks one very important, why don’t more [men](https://time.com/4273865/donald-trump-toxic-masculinity/ "undefined") try to look like a stack of pancakes? The silliness all started on May 25th, 2020, according to [meme](https://time.com/5720246/best-memes/ "undefined") tracker database [Know Your Meme](https://knowyourmeme.com/memes/dear-men-what-is-preventing-you-from-looking-like-this "undefined"), when Twitter user @katiey\_ke\_ posted a tweet of a shirtless torso, and asking the male-identifying members of the internet, “Dear men, what is preventing you from looking like this?” > [](https://twitter.com/katiey%5FKE/status/1264907128201977856) For some reason, the tweet struck a chord with social media users. Some took issue with the six-pack abs in this time of [quarantine menus](https://time.com/5804130/covid-19-social-distancing-wellness/ "undefined"), some thought the choice of a headless torso was a hilarious decision, others found the whole think patently ridiculous in just the right way, but many more saw the potential for comedy gold. Soon, people across social media networks, Twitter in particular, were commenting, retweeting, liking, and sharing their own versions of the newly-minted meme. The posts ask important questions like, why men didn’t look like, say, [Cate Blanchett](https://time.com/5303602/cate-blanchett-sarah-paulson-today-show/ "undefined") in a suit, a tattooed [Danny DeVito](https://time.com/4916663/arnold-schwarzenegger-on-danny-devito-reddit/ "undefined"), a hot dog with a human face, or the aforementioned stack of pancakes dripping in syrup. In fairness, those are all excellent questions. Here are a few prime examples of the new dear meme: > [](https://twitter.com/MC%5FEtching/status/1265484661263757312) > [](https://twitter.com/AlSweigart/status/1265465616418275328) > [](https://twitter.com/TRCsnow/status/1265496084614385665) > [](https://twitter.com/JB%5FAU/status/1265480386265485312) > [](https://twitter.com/jillboard/status/1265447497977090049) > [](https://twitter.com/imchriskelly/status/1265474682850914304) > [](https://twitter.com/sopranosdoomer/status/1265373720438243335) > [](https://twitter.com/JustinWhang/status/1265430494314889219) > [](https://twitter.com/briggityboppity/status/1265358503713046533) > [](https://twitter.com/meohmyapplepie/status/1265474733119864834) > [](https://twitter.com/SkiffleRevival/status/1265292783012765698) > [](https://twitter.com/pittdave13/status/1265464050441490432) ```json [{"@context":"https://schema.org","@type":"NewsArticle","@id":"https://time.com/5842507/dear-men-memes/","mainEntityOfPage":{"@type":"WebPage","@id":"https://time.com/5842507/dear-men-memes/"},"headline":"These Are the Best of All the 'Dear Men, What Is Preventing You From Looking Like This?' Memes","datePublished":"2020-05-27T16:27:25.000Z","dateModified":"2026-04-13T08:01:28.148Z","description":"A new meme asks the important questions, like why shouldn’t all men look like a tattooed Danny DeVito?","url":"https://time.com/5842507/dear-men-memes/","keywords":["Newsfeed","Brief","clickmonsters","News Desk"],"thumbnailUrl":"","author":[{"@type":"Person","name":"Melissa Locker","jobTitle":"","url":"https://time.com/author/melissa-locker/"}],"articleSection":"","image":[],"publisher":{"@type":"Organization","name":"Time","url":"https://time.com/","logo":{"@type":"ImageObject","url":"https://time.com/images/logo.png","width":528,"height":156},"foundingDate":"March 3, 1923","sameAs":["https://www.facebook.com/time","https://www.instagram.com/time/?hl=en","https://twitter.com/time","https://www.pinterest.com/timemagazine"]}},{"@context":"https://schema.org","@type":"BreadcrumbList","itemListElement":[{"@type":"ListItem","position":1,"item":{"@id":"/tag/time-section-newsfeed/","name":"Newsfeed"}},{"@type":"ListItem","position":2,"item":{"@id":"https://time.com/5842507/dear-men-memes/","name":"These Are the Best of All the 'Dear Men, What Is Preventing You From Looking Like This?' Memes"}}]}] ```