--- title: These Books Show How Female Friendship Is the Best and Worst description: Three new novels arriving in June — 'Bunny,' 'How Could She' and 'The Paper Wasp' — examine the intricacies of friendships between women. canonical: https://time.com/5610722/books-about-female-friendship/ author: Stephanie Zacharek article:opinion: false article:content_tier: free article:published_time: 2019-06-20T10:27:11.000Z article:modified_time: 2026-08-04T07:42:15.895Z article:section: Entertainment og:title: Female Friendships Are the Best, Until They Aren't og:description: Summer novels explore the raw realities of female friendships og:url: https://time.com/5610722/books-about-female-friendship/ og:site_name: TIME og:image: https://static.time.com/v3/assets/bltea6093859af6183b/bltc1a0ac7611324b31/6989fecd929fadb094bf47af/books-about-female-friendship-2.jpg?branch=production&width=1200&quality=75&auto=webp&crop=16:9 og:image:width: 2400 og:image:height: 1350 og:image:alt: books-about-female-friendship-lede og:type: article twitter:card: summary_large_image twitter:title: Female Friendships Are the Best, Until They Aren't twitter:description: Summer novels explore the raw realities of female friendships twitter:image: https://static.time.com/v3/assets/bltea6093859af6183b/bltc1a0ac7611324b31/6989fecd929fadb094bf47af/books-about-female-friendship-2.jpg?branch=production&width=1200&quality=75&auto=webp&crop=16:9 ---  # Female Friendships Are the Best, Until They Aren't > Sponsored content. 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By Bethany Bickley for TIME Magazine Book sculpture to illustrate toxic girlfriends from book, “The Paper Wasp, ” by Lauren Acampora, for the Time Off section June 18, 2019\. By Bethany Bickley for TIME Magazine Illustration by Bethany Bickley for TIME  by [Stephanie Zacharek](https://time.com/author/stephanie-zacharek/)  ## Stephanie Zacharek Film Critic Jun 20, 2019 10:27 AM UTC [Friendships between women](https://time.com/4435924/female-friends-advice/) — especially among groups of women, where tendrils of energy and intuition entwine and collide like the offshoots of willful plants — seem to come with so many attendant complications. Ideally, everyone is growing toward and reaching for the same sun. But what if you’re battling for the same air and water? What happens when petty resentments become destructive lesions, or when envy chokes off reason? The promise women have made to one another, once unspoken but now a kind of noisy anthem, is that all women must support one another, all the time. But deep in our hearts we know it can’t always work like that, perhaps especially with those who are closest to us. Because women are people, and conflict between people is inevitable. Familiarity may nourish intimacy, but it can also breed that other thing, as damaging to a friendship as drought is to greenery. Luckily, we have fiction to help us sort through these issues vicariously. Three new novels arriving in June examine, at close range and sometimes in painful detail, the intricacies of friendships between and among women: In Mona Awad’s _Bunny_, a clique of preening girl-women in a graduate program welcome an outlier into their group, with unsettling consequences. Lauren Mechling’s _How Could She_ details the on-again, off-again friendship, fraught with jealousy and anxiety, between three women in the unstable world of New York media. And in _The Paper Wasp_, by Lauren Acampora, an awkward, solitary aspiring filmmaker languishes in her Michigan hometown, gazing from afar at the much shinier life of her childhood best friend turned Hollywood ingenue. Portions of these books are funny; some passages are eerily poetic. But each turns over that rock that most of us prefer not to look under, unafraid to face what may lie beneath. Before the 20th century, novels about friendships between women were relatively uncommon: in the 1800s, [Jane Austen](https://time.com/4130612/jane-austen-emma-200th-anniversary/) explored sisterly bonds of affection and tension, and in [_Jane Eyre_](http://money.com/money/4554000/jane-eyre-money-lessons-tracy-chevalier/), Charlotte Brontë emphasized the brief but formative friendship between the heroine and her classmate Helen Burns. Only later did novelists truly begin exploring female friendships, especially in popular fiction. The 1920s brought us the man-hunting antics of Lorelei Lee and her friend Dorothy in Anita Loos’ _Gentlemen Prefer Blondes_. In the 1960s, Mary McCarthy explored the interlocking ambitions and disappointments of eight Vassar graduates in _The Group_. And in _Waiting to Exhale_, published in 1992, Terry McMillan traced the bonds linking four middle-class women as they lovingly navigated a period in their lives when there was no Mr. Right in sight. But friendship isn’t always about unconditional support. That’s one of the angles Awad, author of 2016’s _13 Ways of Looking at a Fat Girl_, covers in _Bunny_, a chronicle of complex friendships that are largely about calculation. Samantha, a student in an M.F.A. writing program at a tony New England university, doesn’t come close to fitting in, either in terms of the amount of money she has (none) or the subjects she focuses on (the darkness of the human soul). And she detests her workshop cohort, a group of ultra-feminine women whom she and her only friend, a no-nonsense, fishnet-wearing local named Ava, have nicknamed the Bunnies, because they cloyingly refer to one another as Bunny.  Bethany Bickley uses pages from the original books, 'Bunny' and 'How Could She,' to create scenes from their stories. Illustration by Bethany Bickley for TIME When the Bunnies draw Samantha into their circle, she finds out what they’re really up to: it involves magic, dreamboat men and actual rabbits. Bunny is a kind of pastel-toned goth lit, an examination of what happens when “soft” femininity meets the tougher kind — but one that also recognizes how blurry the distinction can be. The Bunnies have created a shared identity grounded in a superficial vision of womanhood, asserting — and not wrongly — that it’s O.K. to wear flashy dresses and lipstick and elaborate hairstyles if we want to. But the Bunnies’ aggressive girliness is just a mask for their selfishness and cruelty. Samantha trades her one true friend for a set of false ones, a clique whose embrace, literally and figuratively, is restrictive. She recoils when the Bunnies move in for a group hug: “The blob nods its four heads vigorously … It mashes its many-boobed body into my face so I can’t breathe anything but grass and cupcake perfume.” This isn’t your garden-variety — or even your rabbit-hutch — view of feminist sisterhood. But Bunny is also an exploration of untapped power. In some ways, it’s a spiritual cousin to Stephen King’s _Carrie_, an inquiry into the sorts of things a woman might do when those around her have pushed past her limit. Like Bunny, Mechling’s women-in-the-city comedy of manners _How Could She_ focuses on women seeking to communicate with the world through their art, or even just through their craft. Sunny is a successful Canadian artist and magazine columnist living in New York City with her rich husband. Her friend Geraldine is stuck in Toronto but longs to move to New York, where she hopes to jump-start her own magazine career. Rachel, the sole American, is a wife and new mother who has just started writing young-adult novels; she’s friends with Geraldine but has never much cared for Sunny. Then these allegiances shift, and Mechling captures the prickly feelings of possessiveness and isolation that creep in when two people in a triangle — even a platonic one — draw close, shutting out the third. Add to that the stress of trying to make a living when you’re a woman on the far side of 30, in a field that’s almost no longer a field yet is still dominated by men. _How Could She_ has a vibrant modern energy, and it gets how hard it can be to preserve friendships when we’re so busy going after everything else we want in life. While _Bunny_ and _How Could She_ focus on friendship among groups of women, Acampora’s _The Paper Wasp_ fixes its gaze on one magnetic and increasingly twisted friendship, between withdrawn artist Abby and rising Hollywood star Elise, childhood friends drawn back together by their high school reunion. Abby has been obsessed with Elise for years, and seizes the opportunity to insinuate herself into every corner of her prodigal friend’s life. But before long, her infatuation segues into repulsion. The character who starts out as the insecure underdog ends up as — well, something else. _The Paper Wasp_ is more hypnotic and sensual than either of the other books in this recent crop, which also makes it more potent. Acampora’s prose has a seductive, pearlescent allure, even when she’s addressing doomed friendships, friends who can never live up to our expectations, friends who betray. Abby, unlikable but not wholly unsympathetic, sees through people to the point of looking right past them. She’s no kind of role model, and you’ll be glad you don’t have any friends like her. (Or at least I hope you don’t.) In fact, none of these books offer any consoling way forward in dealing with the thorniest parts of our own friendships. Maybe, instead, their collective spikiness is a kind of safety feature, thrashing a clear space where we can examine our own anxieties about how women are supposed to relate to one another. All three of these novelists come right out and say certain things that many of us wouldn’t dare speak aloud: Women aren’t automatically great just because we’re women. Sometimes, in fact, we’re dreadful. Sometimes we like men better, simply because they’re not women. Is that such a sin? And yet there are things our women friends can give us that men just can’t. It’s no wonder we always come back. We expect the most from our female friendships, maybe because we expect so much from ourselves. In the workplace and outside it, women work hard at being superhuman. Sometimes it takes a book to remind you that being human is hard enough. ## Transcript [ MUSIC ] This summer, Time took a road trip across America. [ MUSIC ] We met some incredible groups of women. [ MUSIC ] Our journey started in the mountains. [ MUSIC ] I volunteer, with about ten other women, in Latino outdoors. We have a relationship that, I don't think I've ever experienced in any other work place, because we are so supportive of each other. [ LAUGH ] Just being there, with other women, who have different shapes, sizes, shades. That's what's so powerful. Especially to push back against the stereotypes of what people should look like in the outdoors. [ MUSIC ] [ MUSIC ] I started the LA City Municipal Dance Squad to give a group of women a place to be a family and Truly get weird. It gets harder to make friends as you get older, I feel, and I've always kind of, been a loner. And so I feel like when I joined the dance squad, I didn't expect it to become my main source of female friends and social network but it slowly and naturally, organically evolved into that. [ MUSIC ] [ BLANK_AUDIO ] [ MUSIC ] Women farmers are lucky enough in Portland. We kind of run the show here. There's a lot of us. So that's something we're very proud of. I started the side yard farm, because I wanted to bring people closer to their food and closer to each other. And I was such a novice when I arrived and still am, truly, but she's just like, yeah, it's okay. We're all learning here. Dig in. We have a very strong village here of chef's, farmers and artisans. Working with them, learning from each other, that's what it's all about. To be able to share that with somebody, that's pretty sweet. Cheers Over dinner in Portland and in all the places we visited, people talked about the importance of close girlfriends. I think women need other women to hang out with, because we have so much in common. Our life decisions hard decisions, any of that is easier, because you have that support and you have that network. And we [ LAUGH ] have to stick together and band together. I think Probably all of us could tell a story about how we've had other women show up for us. A lot of my hero's and a lot of the people that have helped me are women. You need girlfriends for your soul. You need girlfriends for your sanity. You need girlfriends because boyfriends don't quite understand. [ LAUGH ] [ MUSIC ] [ MUSIC ] Nashville has been a boys club for really long time. And finding your place as like a young female in that room was really challenging. So we had this idea, why don't we just have ... have a show that we could all show up to, and it ended up becoming way bigger than we intended. It's just been a really cool way to have women in this town finally be seen, you know, as legitiamte players in the game. We learned about the pressures everyone's facing..... [ MUSIC ] There's a pressure to be a woman in a man's world, you know, roll your shoulders back and prove yourself in every room that you walk into. There's a pressure to always be better than the standard. Making sure that we're working harder, we're doing things better, we're proving ourselves all the time, it is just Try to be neck and neck with whoever and whatever else is happening. I feel pressured to get married and have children. I feel pressure to not get married and have children. Mm- hm. I don't like the pressure of having to be nice all the time. Like if I wanna say something or stand up to someone, having to really kind of tiptoe around it and walk on eggshells. Be more assertive, and be more gentle. Just cuz you're owning your power doesn't mean you're trying to be mean to people. It's just that you know what you want, and you're gonna get it. Agreed. Yeah [ SOUND ] [ MUSIC ] Hello baby! Beautiful weather for a gathering. Hi [ UNKNOWN ] are discussions proven with some communities. They usually take place in a mosque. The smell of onions. I know, I chopped them already. I'm on top of things. The way I would describe it is that it's a millenial woman's Halaka because we do crafts and journaling, or like making food together. What I struggle with though is feeling like I don't stand up for myself. We can be vulnerable wich each other where we can express our emotions. And we asked women to share their fears and worries. We live in a time where you can't really separate yourself from feeling that kind of weight and responsibility. To be an advocate for your community and I think all of that can feel like a burden sometimes. The things that worry me the most and keep me up at night are the state of our Our environment and if we're going to have anything to pass down to future generations. You see so many shops and so many farmers go go go work work work yeah, I'm going to get to the top. Because even though I love what I do cooking and farming and bringing people together. What about taking some time off and just take in a deep breath. Finding myself as a performer and making sure that I'm enjoying that and that I'm not being a specific performer. For others. I worry a lot about being a good mother. I just wanna be a good, good human for my little human. [ MUSIC ] And I get this question all the time from people, where do you find your female mechanics? Because nobody usually knows one. It's kind of like, whoa, why don't we see more women in these spaces. Women have a ton of cars about their cars, but they're afraid to ask because they think men are gonna shame them. Where they don't have anyone to ask. And so I wanted to provide a space for women where they could contact female mechanics and ask questions about their cars. I wanna show you what is called a wheel berry. And this spins like this. In Philly, the City of Brotherly Love, we focused on how women are building communities. I think it's important to provide safe spaces for them. And when you do that, they blossom and they find their power. And they find their voice. A lot of us artists are all trying to do the same thing. And instead of being jealous of each other, the best way to combat all of that is to just create a beautiful community where we lift each other up . >> I really look up to my friends. There a lot of qualities that each one of them possess that I would like to see in myself or that I would like to improve in myself . >> It's really important to find each other and we don't need to break each other down for us, as individuals, to rise up. [ MUSIC ] From day one, it's been all about creating an ecosystem where not only is the fund investing in women, but we're also supporting their journey. We're saying to the world that you can have a fund that's 100 % female founders, And compete with everybody else in the market. Less than 4 % of capital goes to female- funded businesses. And it's not that there aren't extraordinary female entrepreneurs, that is a systemic issue. We're talking about looking forward and building something that's new, that we want to see, versus existing in a system and a construct that's designed for people that just look like us. [ MUSIC ] Summer is over and so is our road trip. We learned so much about friendship, teamwork, and being brave in the face of everything life throws at us. I felt brave when I was out fundraising because that's a grueling business, not for the feint of heart. Being a Latinx person in the communities, you're met with just so many microaggressions. So being able to fight through it and rely on your sisters, in a sense, I feel brave every day. I've gotten questions where people are like, well, as a Muslim woman, can you be that strong willed? I'm like, yeah, absolutely, yes. The last time I felt brave, when I had my son. I had to kindof check myself and say Therese, do it, and if these people are gonna make fun of you, or have a problem with how you're doing something. Who cares? They're in your way, you're on a mission. 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