--- title: Michelle Obama on Prom Night for Malia in Becoming description: The First Daughter asked Michelle and Barack to "just be cool please" on the evening of her prom, as Michelle shares in her new book canonical: https://time.com/5453215/malia-barack-michelle-prom/ author: Raisa Bruner article:opinion: false article:content_tier: free article:published_time: 2018-11-13T16:14:02.000Z article:modified_time: 2026-10-13T08:06:08.457Z og:title: Malia Obama Asked Her Parents to 'Just Be Cool' at Prom og:description: Malia asked Barack and Obama to "just be cool please, okay" on her prom night og:url: https://time.com/5453215/malia-barack-michelle-prom/ og:site_name: TIME og:image: https://static.time.com/v3/assets/bltea6093859af6183b/blt8178199d3124d314/69893efeb21a9c5fa24ff74d/malia-barack-obama.jpg?branch=production&width=1200&quality=75&auto=webp&crop=16:9 og:image:width: 3000 og:image:height: 1688 og:image:alt: President Obama Pardons National Thanksgiving Turkey og:type: article twitter:card: summary_large_image twitter:title: Malia Obama Asked Her Parents to 'Just Be Cool' at Prom twitter:description: Malia asked Barack and Obama to "just be cool please, okay" on her prom night twitter:image: https://static.time.com/v3/assets/bltea6093859af6183b/blt8178199d3124d314/69893efeb21a9c5fa24ff74d/malia-barack-obama.jpg?branch=production&width=1200&quality=75&auto=webp&crop=16:9 ---  # Michelle Obama Says Daughter Malia Begged Her Parents to 'Just Be Cool' While Meeting Her Prom Date. 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Michelle Obama began her 12-stop book tour Tuesday by sitting with Oprah Winfrey before an audience at the home arena of the Chicago Bulls._  by [Raisa Bruner](https://time.com/author/raisa-bruner/)  ## Raisa Bruner Nov 13, 2018 4:14 PM UTC Michelle Obama began her 12-stop book tour Tuesday by sitting with Oprah Winfrey before an audience at the home arena of the Chicago Bulls.  by [Raisa Bruner](https://time.com/author/raisa-bruner/)  ## Raisa Bruner Nov 13, 2018 4:14 PM UTC Before meeting her date for prom, [Malia Obama](http://time.com/5410025/malia-obama-music-video/) wanted only one thing from her parents President Barack Obama and First Lady [Michelle Obama](http://time.com/5451761/michelle-obama-oprah/): for them to “just be cool please, okay?” In her new book [_Becoming_](http://time.com/5451887/michelle-obama-trump-inauguration/), Michelle [reflects on](https://people.com/politics/michelle-obama-daughter-malia-prom-night-memoir-becoming/) her eldest daughter’s first prom experience, and the complicated — but extremely relatable — way that the family navigated the night. Obama recalls that it was spring of 2015\. (Malia was 16 at the time, and a student at Washington, D.C.’s [Sidwell Friends](http://time.com/4364299/president-obama-malia-graduation/) High School.) “On the appointed evening, her date arrived in his car, clearing security at the southeast gate of the White House, following the path up and around the South Lawn by which heads of state and other visiting dignitaries normally arrived, and then gamely — bravely — walking into the Dip Room dressed in a black suit,” [Obama writes.](https://people.com/politics/michelle-obama-daughter-malia-prom-night-memoir-becoming/) She notes that they made an exception for Malia to be driven by the date, since normally secret service would have that role. Apparently, Malia was embarrassed even before the meeting took place as she rode the elevator down with her parents. “I was barefoot, and Barack was in flip-flops,” Michelle recalls. Ultimately, Michelle says the date was “a bit excruciating,” according to Malia, but the Obamas did their best to “be cool” despite it all. Malia is currently an undergraduate at [Harvard University](http://time.com/4634386/jenna-bush-hager-barbara-bush-read-letter-sasha-malia-obama/), so hopefully her life is now a little less encumbered by secret service protocols, White House standards and — of course — her parents’ presence. ## Transcript From the South side of Chicago, welcome Michelle Obama. [ MUSIC ] From the first page of this book until the last, you did it. You brought it, you opened yourself up, you allowed us to see in And let us experience the fullness of you in a way that I don't think anybody has ever done before, particularly who's been in the White House. One of the first things we did because we were trying to figure out how do you make this normal for children. Because Malia and Sasha were. Seven in ten. Thank you for that. [ LAUGH ] You know I want to hear the end of that. She's like, mom didn't even know how old we were. [ LAUGH ] They were young and we were figuring how do we keep them grounded? And the first thing we though is like, they cannot When we're having pancakes in the morning it's just crazy to have a man with the tuxedo coming. When you got some little girls at a sleepover and you bringing in some water so we cancelled the tuxedos. It's like yo take those tuxedos off wear some polo shirts and some slacks Unless we did something formal, we just sort of loosened it up a bit. And people ask do I miss the White House and it's like, no I don't miss the house because we took what was important in that house with us and it is with us, it's family, it's values. Wow. 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