--- description: Find out how social media responded after Dan Rochkind said he stopped dating 'hot' women in the New York Post. title: This Courageous Guy Was Brave Enough to Stop Dating 'Hot Women' image: https://static.time.com/v3/assets/bltea6093859af6183b/blt8a8b5ed3d2a29f92/6988c2b3ab6d7736b96ad99a/couple-dating-new-york-post.jpg?branch=production&width=3840&quality=75&auto=webp&crop=16:9 ---  * [motto](/tag/motto/) ## motto Update your preferences in [Account Settings](/account/preferences/) Close # This Courageous Guy Was Brave Enough to Stop Dating 'Hot Women' and Then Share His Bold Story With the World  by [Samantha Cooney](/author/samantha-cooney/)  ## Samantha Cooney Update your preferences in [Account Settings](/account/preferences/) Close Apr 13, 2017 6:25 PM CUT  heshphoto—Getty Images/Image Source  by [Samantha Cooney](/author/samantha-cooney/)  ## Samantha Cooney Update your preferences in [Account Settings](/account/preferences/) Close Apr 13, 2017 6:25 PM CUT Social media users are slamming the subject of a New York _Post_ [article](http://nypost.com/2017/04/12/why-hot-people-arent-worth-dating/?utm%5Fcampaign=SocialFlow&utm%5Fsource=NYPTwitter&utm%5Fmedium=SocialFlow&sr%5Fshare=twitter "undefined"), who said that he found love after he stopped pursuing “the hottest girl you could find.” The article, which is titled “Why I won’t date hot women anymore,” focused on 40-year-old Dan Rochkind, who said that he spent most of his 30s going on multiple dates a week with blond models but found himself unsatisfied. “I could have \[anyone\] I wanted,” he told the _Post_. “Beautiful women who get a fair amount of attention get full of themselves… Eventually, I was dreading getting dinner with them because they couldn’t carry a conversation.” The article connects Rochkind’s love life to a February 2017 [study](http://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/pere.12173/abstract "undefined") from researchers at Harvard University, University of La Verne and Santa Clara University, which found that people who are deemed more attractive are more likely to have “poor relationship satisfaction.” Rochkind eventually began dating Carly Spindel, who the article’s author, Christian Gollayan, described as “a woman who isn’t a bikini model.” The two are now engaged. “\[She\] is a softer beauty, someone you can take home and cuddle with, and she’s very elegant,” Rochkind told the _Post_. “And she’s 5-foot-2, so she can’t be a runway model, but I think she’s really beautiful and is prettier than anyone I’ve dated.” Rochkind’s comments and the story has been widely mocked and criticized as sexist on social media. > [](https://twitter.com/connortryan/status/852561017905319939) > [](https://twitter.com/leximccammond/status/852506108430356480) > [](https://twitter.com/fong%5Fcaroline/status/852543126459883521) > [](https://twitter.com/TheWilderThings/status/852538067030339584) > [](https://twitter.com/Seelieham/status/852505714463571969) > [](https://twitter.com/inihelene/status/852540536061865985) > [](https://twitter.com/NoahHurowitz/status/852510386830135296) > [](https://twitter.com/evansdi36/status/852553568078839808) > [](https://twitter.com/OhNoSheTwitnt/status/852499698531397632) Spindel later [wrote](https://www.instagram.com/p/BSzf5PlgHFv/ "undefined") on Instagram that the _Post_ story wasn’t an accurate reflection of her husband-to-be. “Good job @nypost of twisting my fiancés words, making him look like an asshole (which isn’t the case), and making me look beyond unattractive! None of what he said is true,” she wrote. 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