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January Jones Says She Doesn’t Need a Man to Help Raise Her Son

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January Jones has already found the love of her life: 5-year-old son Xander.

The actress opened up about single parenting in the February issue of Red magazine, sharing that her little boy has many male role models in his life.

“Xander has a lot of bro time with the neighbor dads and my dad, who is super young. It’s good to have strong women around a man to teach him to respect women,” the Last Man on Earth star, 38, explained. “He doesn’t have a male person saying ‘don’t cry’ or ‘you throw like a girl.’ All those s–tty things that dads accidentally do.”

In fact, Jones said Xander may not need a stepfather. “I just don’t feel I need a partner,” she admitted.

Though she believes never say never. “Do I want one? Maybe. But I don’t feel unhappy or lonely,” the Mad Men alum said. “It would have to be someone so amazing that I would want to make room. Someone who would contribute to my happiness and not take away from it.”

Jones welcomed Xander in September 2011, and has yet to publicly reveal his paternity. “My younger sisters and my mom and my doula were in the room; my brother-in-law and my dad were next door. I only wanted women with me. Female energy,” she recalled. “It was a 30-hour process but it was awesome. I’d love to do it again.”

And with many family and friends around her, she agrees it takes a village to raise a child.

“I don’t want to be bad cop, but to have his respect, I have to be both. I’m an emotionally immature person—I’m an actor for God’s sake. I see myself behaving like a child all the time,” she shared. “This morning, I made Xander eggs, toast, a smoothie. He spat out his blueberries, threw the eggs into the sink, was playing with his toast, and I just lost my shit. And I took the plate and threw it in the garbage, in tears. Someone needs to be the mature one here, but I had a full tantrum.”

Adding, “Maybe I should get a manny.”

This article originally appeared on People.com

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