--- title: Communication in Relationships is Linked to Sexual Desire description: For spouses or partners who have been together for many years, their sex lives have a lot to do with how they interact outside the bedroom. canonical: https://time.com/4422408/couples-best-sex-common-trait/ author: TIME article:opinion: false article:content_tier: free article:published_time: 2016-08-05T14:03:02.000Z article:modified_time: 2026-02-22T23:31:44.061Z article:section: Health og:title: Couples Who Have the Best Sex Have This in Common og:description: Practice responsiveness og:url: https://time.com/4422408/couples-best-sex-common-trait/ og:site_name: TIME og:image: https://static.time.com/v3/assets/bltea6093859af6183b/blt4d8752a6852e0a6f/6988a14d0b72e32e496ea8f2/sheets-on-bed.jpg?branch=production&width=1200&quality=75&auto=webp&crop=16:9 og:image:width: 5446 og:image:height: 3063 og:image:alt: White Bed Sheets og:type: article twitter:card: summary_large_image twitter:title: Couples Who Have the Best Sex Have This in Common twitter:description: Practice responsiveness twitter:image: https://static.time.com/v3/assets/bltea6093859af6183b/blt4d8752a6852e0a6f/6988a14d0b72e32e496ea8f2/sheets-on-bed.jpg?branch=production&width=1200&quality=75&auto=webp&crop=16:9 ---  # Couples Who Have the Best Sex Have This in Common > Sponsored content. 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The study, published this week in the _Journal of Personality and Social Psychology_, takes on a concept known to psychologists as the “intimacy-desire paradox.” The closer and more comfortable people feel with each other, this theory suggests, the less physically attracted they may be. (It’s a big part of why couples often “fall into a rut” or look to “spice things up.”) But this new research suggests that intimacy doesn’t have to breed boredom and inhibit desire, say the study authors—as long as it’s the right kind of intimacy. **_Health.com:_** [_Here’s How Often Happy Couples Have Sex_](http://news.health.com/2015/11/18/once-a-week-sex-makes-for-happy-couples-study/xid=time) That’s where responsiveness comes in. As part of the study, researchers from the Baruch Ivcher School of Psychology in Israel and the University of Rochester asked 100 couples to keep diaries for six weeks. Both partners recorded their own levels of daily sexual desire, as well as their perceptions of their partners’ responsiveness. They also reported how special they felt each day, and what they perceived their partners’ “mate value” to be. The results showed that when someone perceived their partner as responsive, they felt special and thought of their partner as a valuable mate—which boosted the partner’s sexual desirability. The effect on women’s [desire](http://www.health.com/health/gallery/0,,20778590,00.html) was stronger than on men’s, although it was significant for both. So what is responsiveness, exactly? “People who perceive their partner as responsive believe that this partner understands and appreciates their needs, as well as reacts supportively to their goals,” says lead study author Gurit E. Birnbaum, PhD. This is important, she adds, because it shows that you not only care about your partner’s well being, but that you truly understand his or her wants and needs. Simply “being nice” isn’t necessarily good enough, she adds, since kindness alone isn’t based on this type of closeness. “When a partner is truly responsive, the relationship feels special and unique,” she says. **_Health.com:_** [_10 Ways to Improve Your Relationship Instantly_](http://www.health.com/health/gallery/0,,20853691,00.html/?xid=time) Partners can show responsiveness simply by paying better attention to each other, Birnbaum says. “Allow sufficient time to engage in mutual conversation and listen with an open mind—really listen, without interrupting or pre-judging or showing off,” she says. “Then do one’s best to give the [partner’s needs](http://www.health.com/health/gallery/0,,20896491,00.html/view-all#observe-your-partner-s-passions-0), wishes, and desires every bit as much importance, if not even more, than one’s own.” Practicing responsiveness can also help you learn new things about each other, show you care for each other in new ways, and share new experiences together, she says. Some people are naturally more responsive than others, Birnbaum says, but it’s also possible for a person’s responsiveness to change over time or within different contexts. “For example, a responsive partner may make you feel more secure, and thus affect your ability and willingness to respond to others’ needs.” **_Health.com:_** [_1_](http://www.health.com/health/gallery/0,,20824699,00.html/?xid=time)[_1 Sex Tips That Are Better Than ‘Female Viagra’_](http://news.health.com/2015/08/20/11-sex-tips-that-are-better-than-female-viagra/?xid=time) We asked Birnbaum whether responsiveness could help couples have a satisfying sex life, even if they’re no longer in the hot-and-heavy, tearing-each-other’s-clothes-off stage. “Desire has many manifestations,” she replied. “Responsiveness instigates desire for one’s partner—and following such interactions, partners may even find themselves tearing each others clothes off!” But no matter what desire means to you and your partner, she says, truly responding to each other can have deep and long-lasting effects. _This_ [_article_](http://www.health.com/relationships/sex-life-couples/?xid=time) _originally appeared on_ [_Health.com_](http://www.health.com) ```json [{"@context":"https://schema.org","@type":"NewsArticle","@id":"https://time.com/4422408/couples-best-sex-common-trait/","mainEntityOfPage":{"@type":"WebPage","@id":"https://time.com/4422408/couples-best-sex-common-trait/"},"headline":"Couples Who Have the Best Sex Have This in Common","datePublished":"2016-08-05T14:03:02.000Z","dateModified":"2026-02-22T23:31:44.061Z","description":"Practice responsiveness","url":"https://time.com/4422408/couples-best-sex-common-trait/","keywords":["Sex/Relationships"],"thumbnailUrl":"https://static.time.com/v3/assets/bltea6093859af6183b/blt4d8752a6852e0a6f/6988a14d0b72e32e496ea8f2/sheets-on-bed.jpg?branch=production&width=1200&quality=75&auto=webp&crop=1200:675&height=675","author":[{"@type":"Person","name":"Amanda MacMillan / Health.com"}],"articleSection":"Health","image":[{"@type":"ImageObject","url":"https://static.time.com/v3/assets/bltea6093859af6183b/blt4d8752a6852e0a6f/6988a14d0b72e32e496ea8f2/sheets-on-bed.jpg?branch=production&width=1200&quality=75&auto=webp&crop=1200:675&height=675","width":1200,"height":675,"headline":"White Bed Sheets","caption":"White Bed Sheets","creditText":"Getty Images","representativeOfPage":true}],"publisher":{"@type":"Organization","name":"Time","url":"https://time.com/","logo":{"@type":"ImageObject","url":"https://time.com/images/logo.png","width":528,"height":156},"foundingDate":"March 3, 1923","sameAs":["https://www.facebook.com/time","https://www.instagram.com/time/?hl=en","https://twitter.com/time","https://www.pinterest.com/timemagazine"]}},{"@context":"https://schema.org","@type":"BreadcrumbList","itemListElement":[{"@type":"ListItem","position":1,"item":{"@id":"/section/health/","name":"Health"}},{"@type":"ListItem","position":2,"item":{"@id":"/tag/sexrelationships/","name":"Sex/Relationships"}},{"@type":"ListItem","position":3,"item":{"@id":"https://time.com/4422408/couples-best-sex-common-trait/","name":"Couples Who Have the Best Sex Have This in Common"}}]}] ```