--- title: Donald Trump Bullying: Yale Psychologists Say Stop Silence description: 2 Yale psychologists break down why Donald Trump's bullying is similar to that of the "bystander effect." canonical: https://time.com/4266650/yale-psychologists-trump-bully/ author: Diana Divecha article:opinion: false article:content_tier: free article:published_time: 2016-03-20T11:00:25.000Z article:modified_time: 2026-08-19T07:42:19.955Z og:title: What You Can Do About Donald Trump's Bullying og:description: 'In this public dynamic where people are increasingly getting hurt, physically and psychologically, it’s important to remember that we all can choose to act—or not act' og:url: https://time.com/4266650/yale-psychologists-trump-bully/ og:site_name: TIME og:image: https://static.time.com/v3/assets/bltea6093859af6183b/blt09c97ff85d46ecae/69888c2e2dce01b9ce9e8527/donald-trump24.jpg?branch=production&width=1200&quality=75&auto=webp&crop=16:9 og:image:width: 1688 og:image:height: 950 og:image:alt: donald-trump og:type: article twitter:card: summary_large_image twitter:title: What You Can Do About Donald Trump's Bullying twitter:description: 'In this public dynamic where people are increasingly getting hurt, physically and psychologically, it’s important to remember that we all can choose to act—or not act' twitter:image: https://static.time.com/v3/assets/bltea6093859af6183b/blt09c97ff85d46ecae/69888c2e2dce01b9ce9e8527/donald-trump24.jpg?branch=production&width=1200&quality=75&auto=webp&crop=16:9 ---  # What You Can Do About Donald Trump's Bullying > Sponsored content. 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Now, Ted Cruz and Marco Rubio are attempting to beat him at his own game—but will any attacks against Trump actually stick?_ by [Diana Divecha](https://time.com/author/diana-divecha/) and [Robin Stern](https://time.com/author/robin-stern/) Mar 20, 2016 11:00 AM UTC  Donald Trump on March 21, 2016 in Washington, D.C. Donald Trump on March 21, 2016 in Washington, D.C. Alex Wong—Getty Images by [Diana Divecha](https://time.com/author/diana-divecha/) and [Robin Stern](https://time.com/author/robin-stern/) Mar 20, 2016 11:00 AM UTC Donald Trump turned up the volume on the bullying rhetoric last week, escalating his attacks on Megyn Kelly by [calling her “sick”](http://time.com/4265281/fox-donald-trump-megyn-kelly-sick-obsession/) and [urging a boycott of her show](https://twitter.com/realDonaldTrump/status/710947686879531008). FOX News and several of Kelly’s colleagues stepped up to defend her against the excoriating harassment. Others did not. In this public dynamic where people are increasingly getting hurt, physically and psychologically, it’s important to remember that we all can choose to act—or not act. Over the last 50 years, psychologists have learned a lot about bystanders and their activist counterparts—upstanders—the people who jump in to help. Many bystanders _want_ to do something but just don’t know where or how to express it. In March of 1964, a young woman named [Kitty Genovese](http://www.csun.edu/~drnancyb/Kitty%20Genovese.pdf) was murdered outside of her New York City apartment. Many people heard and even witnessed the murder taking place, yet they did nothing, according to reports at the time. This became known as the “[bystander effect](https://www.uni-muenster.de/imperia/md/content/psyifp/aeechterhoff/sommersemester2012/schluesselstudiendersozialpsychologiea/manninglevinecollins%5Fkittygenovhelpingstoryinaccur%5Fampsy2007.pdf),” or the phenomenon through which people are less likely to help when they think they are part of a group than when they are alone. Though part of the case has not held up to close scrutiny over time, the story did draw researchers’ attention to questions of what motivates some people to act while others choose not to—or become inhibited. There are numerous theories of bystander behavior: The Genovese case pointed to the “diffusion of responsibility”—the belief that, when many people are present, surely someone _else_ will take action. One set of [research](https://urldefense.proofpoint.com/v2/url?u=https-3A%5F%5Fwww.uni-2Dmuenster.de%5Fimperia%5Fmd%5Fcontent%5Fpsyifp%5Faeechterhoff%5Fsommersemester2012%5Fschluesselstudiendersozialpsychologiea%5Fmanninglevinecollins-5Fkittygenovhelpingstoryinaccur-5Fampsy2007.pdf&d=AwMF-g&c=-dg2m7zWuuDZ0MUcV7Sdqw&r=%5F%5F-AkLOZz2fLMihee6Jy-HCbn3o3q2jVrt7bm%5F3fQsY&m=hMMG0Q4MXZWnwZCW35sVCAS-48VZIFSNowiozmAleEk&s=l76Sdok36R9t0i6BNV33xP-AZ6ol6%5Fvqhn4vA294KfY&e=) studies points to the “de-individualization” that happens in crowds: People lose their sense of individuality and as a result become less rational—and more suggestible and susceptible to the group’s energy. **_Read more:_** [_Megyn Kelly: How to Deal With The Haters_](http://motto.time.com/4203136/megyn-kelly-deal-with-haters/?iid=sr-link1) We’ve learned from studies of childhood bullying (and many people know from personal experience) that intervening as an upstander is complicated. Some people realistically fear getting hurt themselves. And it tends to be easier for extroverts to interject themselves than for introverts, who might choose a quieter course of action. Those with higher status also tend to feel more empowered to intervene than those with a lower status or those who feel more vulnerable. For many of us witnessing the election cycle, emotions are running high. Maybe our candidate is not winning or we are distressed by the negative rhetoric and threats of violence. When emotions run high, access to good decision-making and [judgment is limited](https://urldefense.proofpoint.com/v2/url?u=http-3A%5F%5Fwww.scientificamerican.com%5Farticle%5Fthis-2Dis-2Dyour-2Dbrain-2Din-2Dmeltdown%5F&d=AwMF-g&c=-dg2m7zWuuDZ0MUcV7Sdqw&r=%5F%5F-AkLOZz2fLMihee6Jy-HCbn3o3q2jVrt7bm%5F3fQsY&m=hMMG0Q4MXZWnwZCW35sVCAS-48VZIFSNowiozmAleEk&s=ulqu6N72swLk8jWQNW6EH0%5FZ3F7s9Fg4C87chChOhRQ&e=) or cut off. _Watch this video to understand why it’s so difficult to attack Donald Trump:_ The neurologist and psychiatrist Victor Frankl said, “Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space lies our freedom and power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and freedom.”In other words, when you are stressed, overwhelmed or even just worked up, the best course of action arises when you can make a space to pause and then consciously choose the response that contributes to your own good or a greater good. In today’s media-saturated, conflict-ridden environment, there are many ways to be an upstander, depending on your goals. In the case of Megyn Kelly, we can’t recommend one particular path, but if you are inspired to speak up, consider your preferred social media outlets, talking with friends or writing to decision-makers. There are other ways of being an upstander, too. You can interrupt the media-driven emotional contagion by doing what you can to not pass on fear and anger: Use your preferred practice like prayer, mindfulness or breathing to create equanimity, or simply vow to only engage in constructive action and dialogue. You can stop the cross-generational transmission of harsh ideas by talking with your children about your family’s values versus what they see going on around them. You can support people who are targets of the harsh rhetoric by offering kindness to them—classic upstander behavior. Or you can get politically active and jump right into the fray. **_Read more:_** [_Hillary Clinton Speaks, Male Pundits Hear ‘Shouting’_](http://motto.time.com/4263020/hillary-clinton-shouting/) Of course, many people are already taking thoughtful action. But many still hold back, believing that a single person cannot possibly make a difference. Or that it’s not worth it if we don’t see immediate results—or _any_ results for that matter. But growing a positive world—where freedom is balanced with personal responsibility and concern for the greater good—takes each of our efforts even if the germination takes time to yield fruit. So next time you feel angry or afraid about what’s going on—take a pause. You’ll know what to do. _Diana Divecha, Ph.D., is a developmental psychologist and research affiliate at Yale, and Robin Stern, Ph.D., is a psychoanalyst and associate director at the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence._ ## Transcript [ MUSIC ] Everybody knows what they're getting in Donald Trump. You've seen him on TV and interviews, so it's hard to attack him like you would a conventional politician because everybody has heard of him already. And it's pretty hard to reset that with a single jibe. [ MUSIC ] Over the next couple of weeks we're going to see all of these candidates and outsiders launching massive last ditch effort to stop Donald Trump, before the March 15th winner take all primary's. It' really too soon to tell if this will work, but ultimately It's now or never. When Donald Trump first started running a lot of the other candidates didn't really take him seriously, and so they didn't bother attacking him. They were much more concerned with fighting each other for the particular spot, whether it be the establishment or the conservative spot. There it is, the memorized twenty five second speech. Donald Trump is the master of insults and it's hard to beat him at his own game. When Mexico sends it's people. They're bringing drugs. Their rapists and some I assume are good people. And he has a particular gift at figuring out what is the thing that is going to most bother you. Low energy individual. So if you are going up against Trump they have to figure out. How to insult him in an equally devastating way and I don't know that the attacks that we've heard so far are actually going to work. Let me ask for a full length mirror. Maybe to make sure his pants weren't wet. I don't know. Then He's not a politician so there's not a record of votes that he took or bills that he sponsored or actions that he took. So a lot of that just becomes like well, yeah, I said that one time and now I'm saying this. And so people don't mind. Would never do that. [ LAUGH ] Ted Cruz and Marco Rubio have spoken up a lot more directly going after him. He's not faced some of these attacks. So some of them we just don't know whether they will work or not. Or it's possible that they may work but they could turn out to be more useful to Democrats down the road. I think you already see Clinton's campaign portraying Trump as the divider and Hillary is the Uniter . >> America never stopped being great we have to make America whole. I was told by the campaign that they felt that the republican field had tried to define Trump a little too late and if they would not make the same mistake I don't think you're going to see Hillary herself attacking Trump. I think you're gonna see Bill Clinton and her surrogate certainly, attacking Trump. She wants to remain a very positive messenger. Almost in a Ronald Reagan kind of sense, the optimism of morning in America. Today is more love and kindness. Whereas, they would portray Donald Trump as night in America. The thing though is that Trump is wining the Republican primaries based largely off of white support and when it comes to general election, given all the constituencies that he's offended, will he still have the same power. Will he still be able to win, and will any of these attacks start to stick? And I think the Clinton campaign is betting on that they will. 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