--- title: OkCupid: Women Benefit From Sending Online Dating Messages description: Women are more than two times as likely to get a response in the online dating world if they send the first message canonical: https://time.com/4253826/women-okcupid-dating-apps/ author: Justin Worland article:opinion: false article:content_tier: free article:published_time: 2016-03-10T13:57:04.000Z article:modified_time: 2026-04-13T07:30:51.492Z og:title: OkCupid: Women Benefit From Sending Online Dating Messages og:description: Women are more than two times as likely to get a response in the online dating world if they send the first message og:url: https://time.com/4253826/women-okcupid-dating-apps/ og:site_name: TIME og:image: https://static.time.com/v3/assets/bltea6093859af6183b/blt7cbfa0eb6ed92b40/69887ece8e060114ed464bbd/you-asked-am-i-addicted-to-my-phone.jpg?branch=production&width=3840&quality=75&auto=webp&crop=16:9 og:image:width: 1200 og:image:height: 675 og:image:alt: you-asked-am-i-addicted-to-my-phone og:type: article twitter:card: summary_large_image twitter:title: OkCupid: Women Benefit From Sending Online Dating Messages twitter:description: Women are more than two times as likely to get a response in the online dating world if they send the first message twitter:image: https://static.time.com/v3/assets/bltea6093859af6183b/blt7cbfa0eb6ed92b40/69887ece8e060114ed464bbd/you-asked-am-i-addicted-to-my-phone.jpg?branch=production&width=3840&quality=75&auto=webp&crop=16:9 ---  # Women Who Send First Message Are Favored in Online Dating, Study Finds  by [Justin Worland](https://time.com/author/justin-worland/)  ## Justin Worland Senior Correspondent Mar 10, 2016 1:57 PM UTC  Getty Images; Photo Illustration by Lauren Margit Jones for TIME  by [Justin Worland](https://time.com/author/justin-worland/)  ## Justin Worland Senior Correspondent Mar 10, 2016 1:57 PM UTC Women are more than two times as likely to get a response in the online dating world if they send the first message, according to a new [study](https://www.okcupid.com/deep-end/a-womans-advantage). The research, published by dating website OkCupid using data from the site, also suggests that the women who message first are more likely to chat with more attractive men. Straight women who send the first message typically receive replies even from men who are rated as more attractive. Conversely, women tend to be approached by men who are less attractive than they are. The majority of women don’t send the first message in online dating conversations. Straight women are 3.5 times less likely to send the first message than straight men, according to the study. “There are women on the site that are reaching out, and they’re getting all of the benefits,” said Jimena Almendares, the chief product officer at OkCupid, [told the New York _Times_](http://www.nytimes.com/2016/03/10/style/women-who-make-first-move-in-online-dating-are-rewarded-study-finds.html?module=WatchingPortal®ion=c-column-middle-span-region&pgType=Homepage&action=click&mediaId=none&state=standard&contentPlacement=11&version=internal&contentCollection=www.nytimes.com&contentId=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.nytimes.com%2F2016%2F03%2F10%2Fstyle%2Fwomen-who-make-first-move-in-online-dating-are-rewarded-study-finds.html&eventName=Watching-article-click&%5Fr=1). ```json [{"@context":"https://schema.org","@type":"NewsArticle","@id":"https://time.com/4253826/women-okcupid-dating-apps/","mainEntityOfPage":{"@type":"WebPage","@id":"https://time.com/4253826/women-okcupid-dating-apps/"},"headline":"Women Who Send First Message Are Favored in Online Dating, Study Finds","datePublished":"2016-03-10T13:57:04.000Z","dateModified":"2026-04-13T07:30:51.492Z","description":"The majority of women don't send the first message in online dating conversations","url":"https://time.com/4253826/women-okcupid-dating-apps/","keywords":["Newsfeed","Dating"],"thumbnailUrl":"https://static.time.com/v3/assets/bltea6093859af6183b/blt7cbfa0eb6ed92b40/69887ece8e060114ed464bbd/you-asked-am-i-addicted-to-my-phone.jpg?branch=production&width=1200&quality=75&auto=webp&crop=1200:675&height=675","author":[{"@type":"Person","name":"Justin Worland","jobTitle":"Senior Correspondent","url":"https://time.com/author/justin-worland/"}],"articleSection":"","image":[{"@type":"ImageObject","url":"https://static.time.com/v3/assets/bltea6093859af6183b/blt7cbfa0eb6ed92b40/69887ece8e060114ed464bbd/you-asked-am-i-addicted-to-my-phone.jpg?branch=production&width=1200&quality=75&auto=webp&crop=1200:675&height=675","width":1200,"height":675,"headline":"you-asked-am-i-addicted-to-my-phone","caption":"You Asked: Am I Addicted to My Phone?","creditText":"Getty Images; Photo Illustration by Lauren Margit Jones for TIME","representativeOfPage":true}],"publisher":{"@type":"Organization","name":"Time","url":"https://time.com/","logo":{"@type":"ImageObject","url":"https://time.com/images/logo.png","width":528,"height":156},"foundingDate":"March 3, 1923","sameAs":["https://www.facebook.com/time","https://www.instagram.com/time/?hl=en","https://twitter.com/time","https://www.pinterest.com/timemagazine"]}},{"@context":"https://schema.org","@type":"BreadcrumbList","itemListElement":[{"@type":"ListItem","position":1,"item":{"@id":"/tag/time-section-newsfeed/","name":"Newsfeed"}},{"@type":"ListItem","position":2,"item":{"@id":"https://time.com/4253826/women-okcupid-dating-apps/","name":"Women Who Send First Message Are Favored in Online Dating, Study Finds"}}]}] ```