--- title: Psychology: How to Help Others the Right Way description: Constant selfless giving is not the answer canonical: https://time.com/3970187/help-others-right-way/ author: Eric Barker article:opinion: true article:content_tier: free article:published_time: 2015-07-27T04:01:56.000Z article:modified_time: 2026-08-04T07:49:30.685Z article:section: Ideas og:title: How to Help Others the Right Way og:description: Constant selfless giving is not the answer og:url: https://time.com/3970187/help-others-right-way/ og:site_name: TIME og:image: https://static.time.com/v3/assets/bltea6093859af6183b/bltde093bcdab65f2d0/6988d9b9bc6cfc69913e2a3c/time-logo.jpg?branch=production og:image:width: 1200 og:image:height: 675 og:image:alt: TIME og:type: article twitter:card: summary_large_image twitter:title: How to Help Others the Right Way twitter:description: Constant selfless giving is not the answer twitter:image: https://static.time.com/v3/assets/bltea6093859af6183b/bltde093bcdab65f2d0/6988d9b9bc6cfc69913e2a3c/time-logo.jpg?branch=production --- # How to Help Others the Right Way > Sponsored content. 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I wanted to be glamorous, I wanted to be independent, and I wanted to be driving my own bus,” says the iconic fashion designer._ by [Eric Barker](https://time.com/author/eric-barker/) ## Eric Barker Jul 27, 2015 4:01 AM UTC by [Eric Barker](https://time.com/author/eric-barker/) ## Eric Barker Jul 27, 2015 4:01 AM UTC I’ve posted [a number of times](http://www.bakadesuyo.com/2013/02/checklist-8-day-happier/) about how helping others makes you happier. But I know this leaves some people scratching their heads: _How much should I help others? How often? Will I be exploited? Will I end up resenting people I love if they don’t reciprocate?_ We all know selfless givers who are taken advantage of and taken for granted. Nobody wants to feel like a sucker. So this simple thing doesn’t seem so simple — and it feels safer to just be selfish no matter what fancy research and your conscience might tell you. Adam Grant has a wonderful book, [Give and Take: A Revolutionary Approach to Success](http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0670026557/ref=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=0670026557&linkCode=as2&tag=spacforrent-20), which directly tackles this issue and provides some firm answers grounded in research. To help others the right way, give these tips a shot. ## **Constant Selfless Giving Is Not The Way** Being a martyr stresses you out and is actually bad for your health. Via [Give and Take: A Revolutionary Approach to Success](http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0670026557/ref=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=0670026557&linkCode=as2&tag=spacforrent-20): --- > “” --- ## **Chunking Beats Sprinkling** Want to be happier? Do all your giving one day a week. Via [Give and Take: A Revolutionary Approach to Success](http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0670026557/ref=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=0670026557&linkCode=as2&tag=spacforrent-20): --- > “” --- And this is exactly why selfless givers end us stressed out and overloaded. Via [Give and Take: A Revolutionary Approach to Success](http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0670026557/ref=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=0670026557&linkCode=as2&tag=spacforrent-20): --- > “” --- ## So How Much Should You Give? Remember The 100 Hour Rule. One hundred hours a year — in other words, 2 hours per week. Via [Give and Take: A Revolutionary Approach to Success](http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0670026557/ref=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=0670026557&linkCode=as2&tag=spacforrent-20): --- > “” --- ## **What’s The Best Kind Of Giving To Do?** A kind that is meaningful to you. No, you can’t fake it if you want the benefits. Via [Give and Take: A Revolutionary Approach to Success](http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0670026557/ref=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=0670026557&linkCode=as2&tag=spacforrent-20): --- > “” --- ## **Sum Up** Breaking it down: 1. **To be happier and healthier you need to give to others.** 2. **Don’t be a martyr. Constant selfless giving is not the answer.** 3. **100 hrs a year is the minimum to increase happiness, so do about 2 hrs per week or a little more.** 4. **You need to do it because you want to, so find a way to help others that is meaningful to you.** 5. **It’s better to cluster those activities than to spread them out.** What do I personally plan to do? I’m going to designate a DAY OF GIVING per week and make sure I’m clustering my 2hrs of meaningful helping. In a few weeks I’ll post my results. Please give it a try yourself and let me know how it works for you. You can write me [here](mailto:ebarker@ucla.edu). This is going to be fun. :) **_This piece originally appeared on_** [**_Barking Up the Wrong Tree_**](http://www.bakadesuyo.com/2013/04/helping-happier/)**_._** **Join over 195,000 readers. 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