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May 20, 2015 12:01 AM EDT
Barker is the author of Barking Up The Wrong Tree

“Conversational narcissists always seek to turn the attention of others to themselves.”

Via The Art of Manliness:

Yes, you’ve done this. We all have. What’s it look like?

Isn’t this a normal part of conversation? It depends:

And:

Otherwise you end up being the jerk who thinks they’re the center of the universe.

Sometimes simple interactions can seem complex. There’s a whole science to charisma but the best, briefest and most bulletproof summation of how not to come across badly is from Dilbert creator Scott Adams:

Be brief and say something positive.

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This piece originally appeared on Barking Up the Wrong Tree.

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