For the latest installment of its “Ask a Grown Man” series, Rookie mag enlisted Adam Horovitz, also known as Ad-Rock from the Beastie Boys, to give advice to teenagers about love and life.
“I have been asked to be a grown-up,” Horovitz begins, appearing a little nervous with this newfound responsibility. Though he continues to fidget as he begins responding to specific questions, he ends up giving really helpful and wise advice.
He mostly addresses dating concerns, like the most honest way to break up with someone (or how to “blame your parents” if it comes to that) and how to respectfully ask for what you want and need in a relationship. But he also addresses how to deal with crippling insecurity and gain confidence.
“Think about the thing that makes you happiest and do that,” Horovitz says. “Whatever it is that makes you happy, I would focus on that, and you’ll definitely gain some confidence and comfort for sure.”
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