--- title: The Shortcut to Bonding With a Romantic Partner on a Deeper Level description: Start with these questions and see where they lead you canonical: https://time.com/3663976/romantic-bonding-shortcut/ author: Eric Barker article:opinion: true article:content_tier: free article:published_time: 2015-01-13T05:01:15.000Z article:modified_time: 2026-03-31T08:07:37.090Z article:section: Ideas og:title: The Shortcut to Bonding With a Romantic Partner on a Deeper Level og:description: Start with these questions and see where they lead you og:url: https://time.com/3663976/romantic-bonding-shortcut/ og:site_name: TIME og:image: https://static.time.com/v3/assets/bltea6093859af6183b/bltc3f2f38951cdfa76/69877975cd6848b95b0990b4/two-coffee-mugs-table.jpg?branch=production&width=1200&quality=75&auto=webp&crop=16:9 og:image:width: 5624 og:image:height: 3164 og:image:alt: two-coffee-mugs-table og:type: article twitter:card: summary_large_image twitter:title: The Shortcut to Bonding With a Romantic Partner on a Deeper Level twitter:description: Start with these questions and see where they lead you twitter:image: https://static.time.com/v3/assets/bltea6093859af6183b/bltc3f2f38951cdfa76/69877975cd6848b95b0990b4/two-coffee-mugs-table.jpg?branch=production&width=1200&quality=75&auto=webp&crop=16:9 ---  # The Shortcut to Bonding With a Romantic Partner on a Deeper Level > Sponsored content. 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A paid TIME subscription is separate and available at time.com/subscribe-agent. by [Eric Barker](https://time.com/author/eric-barker/) ## Eric Barker Jan 13, 2015 5:01 AM UTC  Two Cappuccino Cups with Heart Decoration Two Cappuccino Cups with Heart Decoration Getty Images by [Eric Barker](https://time.com/author/eric-barker/) ## Eric Barker Jan 13, 2015 5:01 AM UTC From Sam Gosling’s book, [Snoop: What Your Stuff Says About You](http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0465013821/ref=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl?ie=UTF8&tag=spacforrent-20&linkCode=as2&camp=217145&creative=399369&creativeASIN=0465013821): --- > “” --- What are some of the questions? 1\. Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest? 2\. Would you like to be famous? In what way? 3\. Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why? 4\. What would constitute a “perfect” day for you? 5\. When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else? 6\. If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want? 7\. Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common. 8\. For what in your life do you feel most grateful? 9\. If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be? 10\. If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be? 11\. If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future, or anything else, what would you want to know? 12\. Is there something that you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it? 13\. What is the greatest accomplishment of your life? 14\. What do you value most in a friendship? 15\. What is your most treasured memory? 16\. What is your most terrible memory? 17\. What does friendship mean to you? 18\. What roles do love and affection play in your life? 19\. How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people’s? 20\. Complete this sentence:”I wish I had someone with whom I could share…” 21\. If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for him or her to know. 22\. Tell your partner what you like about them; be very honest this time saying things that you might not say to someone you’ve just met. 23\. Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life. 24\. When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself? 25\. Tell your partner something that you like about them already. 26\. What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about? 27\. Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be? Why? Aron’s book is [Handbook of Closeness and Intimacy](http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0805842853/ref=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl?ie=UTF8&tag=spacforrent-20&linkCode=as2&camp=217145&creative=399373&creativeASIN=0805842853). **_This piece originally appeared on_** [**_Barking Up the Wrong Tree_**](http://www.bakadesuyo.com/2011/08/is-there-a-shortcut-to-bonding-with-a-romanti/)**_._** **Join over 145,000 readers.** Get a free weekly update via email [here](http://eepurl.com/o6uAD). 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