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It is a free newsletter available at time.com/newsletters. by [Refinery29](https://time.com/author/refinery29/) ## Refinery29 Oct 9, 2014 11:00 AM UTC  Female and male connecting by fingers Female and male connecting by fingers Getty Images by [Refinery29](https://time.com/author/refinery29/) ## Refinery29 Oct 9, 2014 11:00 AM UTC _This article originally appeared on_ [_Refinery29.com_](http://www.refinery29.com/dating-younger?utm%5Fsource=time&utm%5Fmedium=syndication&utm%5Fcampaign=main)_._ One of my friends _only_ dates much younger dudes and it’s not a good look for her. She always end up in super casual relationships where neither of them seem to take it very seriously, but I know she wants to have a family one day. I get that everyone has “a type” but I care about her and don’t want her to keep wasting her time on these scrubs. Should I say something? **Natalie Ruge, Licensed Marriage And Family Therapist** If your friend seems to truly be enjoying her casual relationships and is okay when they don’t last very long, then sounds like it’s more your problem than her problem. A younger man may feel like more of a challenge, give her a sense of control, or just be a better match for her — sexually or otherwise. Some women enjoy being assertive with a younger man, making the first move, and confidently telling him what she likes and doesn’t like. And, if that’s the case, then more power to her! The world needs more people who know what they want and aren’t afraid to go after it, regardless of social norms or peer pressure. It could even be said that the older woman-younger man pairing results in a more equal power dynamic, and research shows that mutual respect and high regard is a strong indicator of a long-term, successful relationship. ([MORE: The Worst Questions Women Get When Online Dating](http://www.refinery29.com/first-date-questions?utm%5Fsource=time&utm%5Fmedium=syndication&utm%5Fcampaign=related)) I believe that your concern comes from a good place, but it does sound a little bit judgmental. Are these men “scrubs” just because they’re younger, or not in the kind of careers that you consider successful? And, why do you assume that she can’t have a family with someone younger than her? Maybe settling down with an age-appropriate finance type sounds like a death sentence to her. Just because you’re friends and have things in common doesn’t mean you have the same romantic interests. And, that’s a good thing — at least you’ll never fight over an S.O., which is never a good look. [(MORE: Dating 101: The New Rules](http://www.refinery29.com/dating-advice)) On the other hand, if you’re just curious and want to know her better, there’s no reason why you can’t start a non-judgmental, but honest, conversation about what _you_ want in a committed partner and then ask her what she wants in _hers_. However you handle it, just remember that for the most part, unsolicited opinions are rarely received well. No matter how nicely you say it, the message will be that you know what’s better for her than she does. If the guys she’s dating treat her like an adult that’s fully capable of making her own choices (and it seems like they are), you should too. Unless a friend is hurting herself or someone else, it’s best to live and let live. There’s a difference between concern and control, so unless the issue is somehow affecting you directly, or if she seems unhappy about said partners, keep your opinions to yourself and enjoy your friend’s scandalous cougar tales. Maybe she’ll even convince you to give it a go yourself — have fun! ([MORE: Why I Dated a Guy Who Hated My Body](http://www.refinery29.com/body-hating-relationship)) ```json [{"@context":"https://schema.org","@type":"NewsArticle","@id":"https://time.com/3148594/why-dating-someone-younger-shouldnt-be-a-big-deal/","mainEntityOfPage":{"@type":"WebPage","@id":"https://time.com/3148594/why-dating-someone-younger-shouldnt-be-a-big-deal/"},"headline":"Why Dating Someone Younger Shouldn't Be a Big Deal","datePublished":"2014-10-09T11:00:33.000Z","dateModified":"2026-04-13T08:54:36.858Z","description":"This article originally appeared on Refinery29.com. One of my friends only dates much younger dudes and it's not a good look for her. 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