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These #NewHarryPotterBooks Won’t Be Coming to a Bookstore Near You

Twitter call for suggestions leads to inspired titles like "Harry Potter and the Fault in Our Scars"

Comedy Central’s @midnight made Harry Potter nerds’ dreams come true on Wednesday when the show started #NewHarryPotterBooks on Twitter, and encouraged fans to jump in with their suggestions.

J.K. Rowling has said over and over again that she won’t write anymore Harry Potter books, but that didn’t stop readers from assuming the hashtag meant another one was in the works. Yes, there was an online contingency that freaked out, but unfortunately “Harry Potter and The People Who Misunderstood A Hashtag And Were Severely Disappointed” will not be hitting local bookstores. Those who did jump in actually came up with some good titles that we wouldn’t mind reading. Check out the best ones:

This article originally appeared on EW.com

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Here Are the Best Books of 2015 So Far

See TIME's picks for our favorite titles from the front half of the year

It’s turning into a big year for readers. Though highly-anticipated releases from authors such as Jonathan Franzen and Harper Lee remain on the horizon, 2015 has already produced enough great books to topple a nightstand.

To help you sort through the year’s offerings or choose which titles to add to your summer reading list, TIME has ranked the best books of 2015 (so far). The picks span genre and form — including a darkly enchanting collection of short stories, a delightful novel featuring a dysfunctional bride-to-be and a singing memoir chronicling both grief and, yes, taming a hawk. Happy reading!

  • A God in Ruins by Kate Atkinson

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    Atkinson covers four generations of the Todd family that was at the center of her novel, Life After Life. The narrative jumps throughout the 20th century around the story of Teddy Todd, a Royal Air Force pilot in World War II who struggles with his postwar survival.

  • Seveneves by Neal Stephenson

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    When disaster dooms the planet, people across the world unite to send a coalition into outer space and ensure the survival of their species. After 5,000 years, seven races of humans stem from the survivors, and they attempt to return to a changed earth.

  • I Take You by Eliza Kennedy

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    Lily Wilder, a promiscuous lawyer in New York, prepares to marry her archaeologist fiancé, Will. The novel follows her difficulties embracing monogamy in both theory and practice, told with the inflection of Lily’s humor.

  • Get in Trouble by Kelly Link

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    Each of these nine stories takes place in a seemingly normal setting, such as a hotel or at a birthday party, into which dark elements of the fantastic and supernatural subtly intrude.

  • Trigger Warning by Neil Gaiman

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    A collection of tales from virtuoso storyteller Neil Gaiman, ranging from horror to science fiction to fairy tales to verse. They include “adventure story,” Gaiman’s rumination on death, and “a calendar of tales,” short takes inspired by his replies to fan tweets.

  • H is for Hawk by Helen Macdonald

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    An experienced falconer, Macdonald resolves to train a vicious predator, the goshawk, as a means to cope with the death of her father. This stunning memoir explores the deep strange bond she forms with her bird.

  • The Story of Alice by Robert Douglas-Fairhurst

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    The Story of Alice charts the curious, controversial friendship between Oxford mathematician Charles Dodgson (more commonly known as Lewis Carroll) and Alice Liddell, the child for whom he created Alice in Wonderland. The book also explores how and why Alice in Wonderland and its sequel, Through the Looking Glass, have had such lasting cultural resonance.

  • The Brothers by Masha Gessen

    Russian-American journalist Masha Gessen’s passionate, opinionated, deeply reported exploration of the long road that led the Tsarnaev brothers to commit the Boston Marathon bombing. She traces the family’s history from Chechnya to a precarious Boston-area immigrant demi-monde, asking urgent questions and avoiding simple answers.

  • The Folded Clock by Heidi Julavits

    Inspired by diaries from her childhood, Heidi Julavits chronicles her daily life in this diary-form memoir that is simultaneously about small details and big ideas.

  • How Music Got Free by Stephen Witt

    Journalist Stephen Witt writes a lucid, mordantly funny account of the rise of digital music piracy, starting with the story of a worker in a North Carolina CD-pressing plant who personally leaked more than 2,000 albums over eight years.

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Here Is the 2015 Man Booker Prize Longlist

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Five American novels made the cut

The 2015 Man Booker Prize longlist is in, and this year’s selection is roughly half men (six) and half women (seven). The prize was historically limited to authors from the U.K., the Commonwealth, Ireland and Zimbabwe; this is only the second year that it has been open to anyone writing in the English language and published in the U.K. The longlist includes five American authors, up from four last year.

One author on the list, Anne Enright, has already won a Man Booker Prize for her 2007 novel The Gathering. Tom McCarthy, Andrew O’Hagan and Marilynne Robinson have all previously been shortlisted, though Robinson was then in the Man Booker International Prize category, which has been reenvisioned to award a book in translation now that the general award is open to all Anglophone writers.

This year’s roundup also includes three debut novels, from Bill Clegg, Chigozie Obioma and Anna Smaill.

Bill Clegg (U.S.) — Did You Ever Have a Family

Anne Enright (Ireland) — The Green Road

Marlon James (Jamaica) — A Brief History of Seven Killings

Laila Lalami (U.S.) — The Moor’s Account

Tom McCarthy (U.K.) — Satin Island

Chigozie Obioma (Nigeria) — The Fishermen

Andrew O’Hagan (U.K.) — The Illuminations

Marilynne Robinson (U.S.) — Lila

Anuradha Roy (India) — Sleeping on Jupiter

Sunjeev Sahota (U.K.) — The Year of the Runaways

Anna Smaill (New Zealand) — The Chimes

Anne Tyler (U.S.) — A Spool of Blue Thread

Hanya Yanagihara (U.S.) — A Little Life

The shortlist will be announced on Sept. 15, and the winner on Oct. 13. Shortlisters will be awarded with £2,500 ($3,918) and the winner will receive an additional £50,000 ($78,358).

 

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39 Books to Help You Make Decisions in Life

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Shane Parrish writes Farnam Street

At Re:Think Decision Making in February, I asked participants to offer up some books on decision making. (If you’d like to be one of the first to know when I open up registration for Re:Think Decision making 2016 in Austin, TX , join the list.)

The crowd at the event was, in the words of one participants, the finest crowd you’ll find at a public event. These people are paid to make decisions for a living and want to find every edge they can. So when I asked them what books on decision making they read and recommend, you can bet they had a lot to say.

Here’s the list:

Decisive: How to Make Better Choices in Life and Work
By: Chip & Dan Heath

How to Measure Anything
By: Douglas Hubbard

How to Make Sense of Any Mess: Information Architecture for Everybody
By: Abby Covert

Wiser: Getting Beyond Groupthink to Make Groups Smarter
By: Cass Sunstein & Reid Hastie

The Surprising Power of Liberating Structures: Simple Rules to Unleash A Culture of Innovation
By: Henri Lipmanowicz & Keith McCandless

Gamestorming: A Playbook for Innovators, Rulebreakers, and Changemakers
By: Dave Gray, Sunni Brown & James Macanufo

The Righteous Mind: Why Good People are Divided by Politics and Religion
By: Jonathan Haidt

Yes or No: The Guide to Better Decisions
By: Spencer Johnson

The Little Book of Talent
By: Daniel Coyle

The Worry Solution: Using Breakthrough Brain Science to Turn Stress and Anxiety into Confidence and Happiness
By: Martin Rossman

Shantaram: A Novel
By: Gregory David Roberts

The Art of Living
By: Epictetus

The Education of a Value Investor
By: Guy Spier

Devil Take the Hindmost: a History of Financial Speculation
By: Edward Chancellor

Click: The Art and Science of Getting from Impasse to Insight
By: Eve Grodnitzky

The Dictator’s Handbook: Why Bad Behavior is Almost Always Good Politics
By: Bruce Bueno de Mesquita

The Back of the Napkin & How to Solve Problems and Sell Ideas
By: Dan Roan

Crossing to Safety
By: Wallace Stegner

Paradox of Choice: Why More is Less
By: Barry Schwartz

Streetlights and Shadows: Searching for the Keys to Adaptive Decision Making
By: Gary Klein

The Social Animal
By: David Brooks

The Laws of Simplicity
By: John Maeda

Nudge: Improving Decisions about Health, Wealth and Happiness
By: Richard H. Thaler

Reminiscences of a Stock Operator
By: Edwin Lefevre & Roger Lowenstein

This Will Make You Smarter
By: John Brockman

A more Beautiful Question: The Power of Inquiry to Spark Breakthrough Ideas
By: Warren Berger

Red Notice: A True Story of High Finance, Murder, and One Man’s Fight for Justice
By: Bill Browden

The Man who Mistook his Wife for a Hat
By: Oliver Sacks

Imprudent King: A New Life of Philip II
By: Geoffrey Parker

Seeking Wisdom
By: Peter Bevelin

Mastery
By: Rober Greene

Synchronicity: The Innes Path of Leadership
By: Joseph Jaworski

The Culture Map: Breaking Through the Invisible Boundaries of Global Business
By: Erin Meyer

Ubiquity: Why Catastrophes Happen
By: Mark Buchanan

Family Fortunes
By: Bill Bonner

Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion
By: Robert Cialdini

Antifragile: Things That Gain from Disorder
By: Nassim Nicholas Taleb

Poor Charlie’s Almanack: The Wit and Wisdom of Charles T. Munger
By: Peter D. Kaufman & Charlie T. Munger

The Brain that Changes Itself
By: Norman Doidge

And there you have it — a list of books on decision making that should give you a great starting point.

This piece originally appeared on Farnam Street.

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A New Dr. Seuss Book is Out Today

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"What Pet Should I Get?", a recently discovered Dr. Seuss work, is on sale starting July 28.

What’s that, you say? A new book out today? Why yes, it’s here! Seuss‘s first book in years.

What Pet Should I Get? a recently discovered, unpublished children’s book by beloved author Dr. Seuss is being released on Tuesday, July 28. The book is believed to have been penned at some point between the late 1950s and early 1960s, according to USA Today, and publishers at Random House explain the book’s discovery in its final pages.

The book centers around a brother and sister who set out to a local pet store in search of a furry friend to call their own. The story reportedly features the same brother and sister pair from One Fish Two Fish Red Fish Blue Fish.

USA Today gives the new tale “three stars out of four” for “mundane” rhymes and a less-than-fantastical plot.

But, parents don’t fret. Kids will surely love “pet.”

 

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Pretty in Pink Actor to Publish Young Adult Novel

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JB Lacroix—WireImage/Getty Images Andrew McCarthy attends Disney Media Disribution International Upfronts at Walt Disney Studios on May 17, 2015 in Burbank, California.

Andrew McCarthy's book is about half-siblings who meet for the first time

Andrew McCarthy already spoke to Generation X teens through his roles in Brat Pack movies like Pretty in Pink and St. Elmo’s Fire. Now, he’ll speak to Generation Z as an author. The actor-cum-writer is publishing a young adult novel set for release in spring 2017.

McCarthy’s novel, Just Fly Away, is about a 15-year-old girl in New Jersey who meets her half-brother for the first time, never having known that he existed—and lived in the same town. It will be published by Algonquin Young Readers, the L.A. Times reports.

This is McCarthy’s second book, following his 2012 memoir, The Longest Way Home: One Man’s Quest for the Courage to Settle Down. He has worked as a travel writer and is an editor-at-large at National Geographic Traveler. He continues to act, and will appear in the The Family on ABC this fall. He has also recently directed episodes of Orange Is the New Black, Grace and Frankie and The Blacklist.

[L.A. Times]

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10 Inspiring Books That Will Motivate Your Vision

From traditional entrepreneurial success stories to psychology behind taking risks

An entrepreneur’s work never ends, so many of you might not be taking summer vacations this year. But if you do have a chance to escape to the beach, pool or campground this summer, you’re in luck. With input from Erik Gordon and Josh Botkin (also professors affiliated with the University of Michigan’s Zell Lurie Institute for Entrepreneurial Studies) we did some thinking about the books that have inspired our own entrepreneurial ventures.

Below is a list of our favorite reads, ranging from the traditional entrepreneurial success stories to those focused less on building a business and more on the psychology behind taking risks, facing rejection and communicating. We hope our choices help to motivate your visions and keep your minds sharp and alert all summer long.

  • 1. The Patient Will See You Now: The Future of Medicine is in Your Hands

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    Basic Books

    Author: Eric Topol, M.D.

    Topol, one of the nation’s top physicians, offers an inside look into the entrepreneurial side of medicine, providing insight into how technology will play a major role in its future and evolution. In The Patient Will See You Now: The Future of Medicine is in Your Hands Topol compares the developing evolution to the “Gutenberg moment,” referring to the famous inventor of the printing press who forever changed the world by altering the consumption of the written word. In his book, Topol makes the claim that mobile Internet is doing the same for medicine, giving American citizens complete control of their own healthcare.

     

  • 2. Who Built That: Awe-Inspiring Stories of American Tinkerpreneurs

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    Mercury Ink

    Author: Michelle Malkin

    It’s no secret that the “big” inventors are the ones who get all of the attention: Thomas Edison, Henry Ford, and most recently, Steve Jobs. The truth is that there are thousands of other entrepreneurs who are the masterminds behind the creation of the objects and technologies we have grown to need. In Who Built That, Malkin dives into the little-known stories of the inventors who have contributed to American innovation.

  • 3. Crazy Is a Compliment: The Power of Zigging When Everyone Else Zags

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    Portfolio

    Author: Linda Rottenberg

    Some might not appreciate being referred to as “crazy,” but a true entrepreneur knows a little bit of madness can pay off in the long run. In Crazy is a Compliment, Rottenberg, co-founder and CEO of Endeavor, the world’s leading organization dedicated to supporting fast-growing entrepreneurs, offers a lowdown on how to take smart risks and focus attention on being more entrepreneurial.

  • 4. DownBeat – The Great Jazz Interviews: A 75th Anniversary Anthology

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    Hal Leonard

    Author: Frank Alkyer

    According to Jim Price, America’s two great art forms are jazz and entrepreneurship. He says, “As business builders, we can learn so much about creativity, teamwork and harnessing diverse pools of talent to create magic by tuning into both the art and the sage words of the jazz masters.” The DownBeat, edited by Frank Alkyer, includes interviews from the greatest jazz musicians of our time who, in their own right, have similar perspectives as many entrepreneurs and innovators.

  • 5. Broken Open: How Difficult Times Can Help Us Grow

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    Villard

    Author: Elizabeth Lesser

    If you’ve experienced personal loss this is a must-read. Even if you haven’t and you’re an entrepreneur or considering the startup life, it’s important to prepare yourself for rejection — people telling you you’re going to fail — and ultimately, for the real possibility of failure. Will this rejection and loss break you down, or can you grow from it? Broken Open is a collection of personal essays that helps entrepreneurs – or anyone – deal with the painful parts that sometimes come with putting yourself, your money or your dream on the line.

  • 6. The Road to Character

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    Random House

    Author: David Brooks

    In the age of the selfie, at a time when popular culture shines klieg lights on the narcissist and the self-absorbed entrepreneur, Brooks helps remind us of the importance of character, humility, kindness and honesty. The Road to Character proves that at the end of the day, if entrepreneurs focused more on the relationships they created and built, the other metrics of success would follow.

  • 7. The Idea Factory: Bell Labs and the Great Age of American Innovation

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    Penguin Books

    Author: John Gertner

    Before there was Google, Apple or Xerox PARC, another company was busy churning out one world-changing invention after another: AT&T. For much of the 20th century, the magic happened at the company’s famous Bell Labs R&D center in Murray Hill, NJ. In The Idea Factory, get inspired by Gertner’s fascinating account of the quirky, brilliant folks who developed countless amazing technologies — including the transistor, the laser, photovoltaics and cell phones, among many others.

  • 8. Thinking, Fast and Slow

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    Farrar, Straus and Giroux

    Author: Daniel Kahneman

    Think you know how people think? Think again. In Thinking, Fast and Slow, Nobel Prize winner Kahneman (one of the fathers of the field of behavioral economics) distills decades of research about human behavior and cognitive biases into an entertaining, informative read. Pick up a copy if you want to better understand how all of us – including your potential customers, partners and employees – really think and decide.

  • 9. The Innovator’s Hypothesis: How Cheap Experiments Are Worth More Than Good Ideas

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    The MIT Press

    Author: Michael Schrage

    If you’re a Lean Startup fan looking for more insights about how to “test and learn” effectively, look no further. In The Innovator’s Hypothesis, MIT Research Fellow Schrage writes the first page that he “champions simple, fast and frugal experimentation as the smartest investment that serious innovators can make.” And he means it, laying out a “5×5 framework” that requires a team of five people to spend up to five days developing a set of five business experiments (each costing less than $5,000 and taking fewer than five weeks to complete).

  • 10. Poor Charlie’s Almanack: The Wit and Wisdom of Charles T. Munger

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    Walsworth Publishing Company

    Author: Charles T. Munger

    An enormous advantage for any great entrepreneur is the ability to step inside the mind of a great investor. In Poor Charlie’s Almanack, Munger offers a peek inside the life of an experienced financier, distributing words of wisdom for budding business people. One bit of advice, which he reveals early on, is “to read all the time.”

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The Night Bob Dylan Went Electric

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Joe Alper Photo Collection Newport 1964: Robert Shelton introduces Dylan to the fiddler Clayton McMichen

Elijah Wald is the author of Dylan Goes Electric!

Here's what happened 50 years ago this weekend, when the folk music legend turned rock

On the evening of July 25, 1965, Bob Dylan took the stage at the Newport Folk Festival in black jeans, black boots, and a black leather jacket, carrying a Fender Stratocaster in place of his familiar acoustic guitar. The crowd shifted restlessly as he tested his tuning and was joined by a quintet of backing musicians. Then the band crashed into a raw Chicago boogie and, straining to be heard over the loudest music ever to hit Newport, he snarled his opening line: “I ain’t gonna work on Maggie’s farm no more!”

What happened next is obscured by a maelstrom of conflicting impressions: The New York Times reported that Dylan “was roundly booed by folk-song purists, who considered this innovation the worst sort of heresy.” In some stories Pete Seeger, the gentle giant of the folk scene, tried to cut the sound cables with an axe. Some people were dancing, some were crying, many were dismayed and angry, many were cheering, many were overwhelmed by the ferocious shock of the music or astounded by the negative reactions.

As if challenging the doubters, Dylan roared into “Like a Rolling Stone,” his new radio hit, each chorus confronting them with the question: “How does it feel?” The audience roared back its mixed feelings, and after only three songs he left the stage. The crowd was screaming louder than ever—some with anger at Dylan’s betrayal, thousands more because they had come to see their idol and he had barely performed. Peter Yarrow, of Peter, Paul, and Mary, tried to quiet them, but it was impossible. Finally, Dylan reappeared with a borrowed acoustic guitar and bid Newport a stark farewell: “It’s All Over Now, Baby Blue….”

Dylan at Newport is remembered as a pioneering artist defying the rules and damn the consequences. Supporters of new musical trends ever since—punk, rap, hip-hop, electronica—have compared their critics to the dull folkies who didn’t understand the times were a-changing, and a complex choice by a complex artist in a complex time became a parable: the prophet of the new era going his own way despite the jeering rejection of his old fans. He challenged the establishment: “Something is happening here, and you don’t know what it is, do you, Mr. Jones?” He defined his own transformation: “I was so much older then, I’m younger than that now.” He drew a line between himself and those who tried to claim him: “I try my best to be just like I am, but everybody wants me to be just like them.” And he warned those wary of following new paths: “He not busy being born is busy dying.”

In most tellings, Dylan represents youth and the future, and the people who booed were stuck in the dying past. But there is another version, in which the audience represents youth and hope, and Dylan was shutting himself off behind a wall of electric noise, locking himself in a citadel of wealth and power, abandoning idealism and hope and selling out to the star machine. In this version the Newport festivals were idealistic, communal gatherings, nurturing the growing counterculture, rehearsals for Woodstock and the Summer of Love, and the booing pilgrims were not rejecting that future; they were trying to protect it.

Elijah Wald is the author of Dylan Goes Electric! Newport, Seeger, Dylan, and the Night That Split the Sixties. His ther books include The Mayor of MacDougal Street, inspiration for the film Inside Llewyn Davis; Escaping the Delta, about the myth and music of Robert Johnson; and How the Beatles Destroyed Rock ’n’ Roll: An Alternative History of American Popular Music. He has won a Grammy Award, an ASCAP-Deems Taylor award, and the American Musicological Society’s Otto Kinkeldey award; has taught blues history at UCLA; and travels widely as a speaker on popular music. He lives in Medford, MA.

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Mother of Columbine Shooter To Publish a Memoir

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The book will be published next year

16 years ago, Sue Klebold’s son Dylan walked into Columbine High School, killed thirteen people and then himself. She’s now publishing a memoir about her ordeal and the last decade and a half she has spent trying to come to terms with the tragedy.

In the years after the shooting, Klebold has become an advocate for mental health and suicide prevention, so her book, A Mother’s Reckoning: Living in the Aftermath of Tragedy, will share insights from her experience with her son as well as warning signs for other parents. Profits from the book will be donated to charities focused on mental health issues.

The idea of a school shooter’s mother writing a memoir was explored in Lionel Shriver’s 2003 novel We Need to Talk About Kevin, a tale of a fictional school massacre from the perspective of the killer’s mom.

On April 20, 1999, Dylan Klebold and his friend Eric Harris murdered twelve students and a teacher at Columbine High School in Colorado and wounded 24 others before they killed themselves.

A Mother’s Reckoning will be published on February 16, 2016.

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The Yelling Diner Owner and the Toddler’s Parents Were Wrong

Stephen Camarata, PhD, is the author of The Intuitive Parent

Parents are the only ones who should discipline a child—but they should have a game plan for when tantrums happen (take it from a father of 7)

The recent episode at Marcy’s Diner in Portland, Maine—when a 21-month-old toddler’s extended bout of crying caused the diner’s owner to kick out both the child and her parents—highlights the difficult decisions every parent must make when taking a young child into a public place. Both the parents, Tara and John Carson, and the diner’s owner, Darla Neugebauer, made poor decisions that day.

First, Neugebauer crossed a line. Neugebauer and Tara Carson disagree on whether the crying went on for an hour or only 10 minutes, and on whether other customers were bothered by the noise. But it doesn’t matter. No non-parent—in this case, the diner owner—should ever take it upon themselves to discipline or correct someone else’s child without first getting permission from the parents. If I were in the owner’s shoes, I would have respectfully requested that the parents do everything they could to console their child. And because I love children and can usually get them to calm down, I would have offered my own services. Regardless, Neugebauer’s justification that yelling “This needs to stop!” did, in fact, cause the toddler to stop crying does not meet the standard of parental consent.

On the other hand, every parent should try to keep their child from having an adverse effect on those around them, and it doesn’t seem like the Carsons made a good-faith effort. No child is perfect. Even mild-mannered toddlers will throw tantrums in front of crowds of people. In my experience—which includes raising seven children of my own—the first step is to try consoling your crying toddler, and if attempts to calm them fail, the second step is to take them outside. Allowing a child to cry for nearly an hour in an enclosed public space—if this version of the story is true—isn’t courteous to anyone in the diner, including the owner.

Parents need to prepare a game plan before their child throws in a tantrum in a restaurant. For instance, when my wife and I went shopping with a young child (or two or seven), one of us would be prepared to take a child out of the store in the event of a meltdown. This duty usually fell to me, and I would go to the car with my upset son or daughter until the storm passed. Then we would go back into the store. We had a very simple game plan, and it worked for us. Your game plan should depend on the temperament of your child, the atmosphere of the public place you’re in, and the number of people around you. But since these situations are inherently stressful—it is all too easy to succumb to anger or embarrassment—do have a game plan in place before you find yourself mid-way through a meltdown. It will minimize your stress as a parent, serve your child’s learning needs, and show courtesy for your fellow shoppers or brunch patrons.

In my new book The Intuitive Parent, I call for a return to instinct-driven parenting. Think of it less as a one size fits all set parenting style, like the recently popularized “free range” and “helicopter” parenting trends, but rather a common-sense approach to navigating today’s panic-inducing claims about child behavior and development within your own parental comfort zone. Drawing on my research as a professor and specialist on child developmental delays and disabilities, and on my personal experience as a father, I have found that the recent craze to push children to behave or develop in one way or another almost certainly backfires. A better solution is to use your instinct as a parent to its full advantage, finding a middle ground between encouragement and discipline that suits your individual child.

The situation between the Carsons and their two-year-old was a missed opportunity for intuitive parenting. Some parents seem to have the mistaken belief that setting limits or saying “no” to a child is harmful to their psychological development. In truth, a toddler must learn that there are certain places, like a busy street, and certain activities, like touching a hot stove, that won’t be allowed. Imposing limits on a child’s behavior, without disciplining to the point of abuse, does not psychologically damage the child in any way. In fact, I would argue that consistent consequences are a key component of intuitive parenting, because they provide valuable feedback to the child’s developing brain. That might make it less likely for a tantrum to interrupt your next family breakfast, and less likely that you’ll get interrupted by a diner owner—which is best for everyone.

 

Stephen Camarata, PhD, is a professor in the department of hearing and speech sciences and a professor of psychiatry at Vanderbilt University School of Medicine. He is a children’s speech expert and the author of THE INTUITIVE PARENT: Why the Best Thing for Your Child is You.

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