--- title: Ask Dr. Ruth: How Do I Overcome a Vaginismus Diagnosis? description: In this week's Ask Dr. Ruth, the renowned sex therapist discusses the possible causes and treatments for vaginismus, a sexual dysfunction condition. canonical: https://time.com/5136099/ask-dr-ruth-vaginismus-relationships/ author: Dr. Ruth Westheimer article:opinion: false article:content_tier: free article:published_time: 2018-02-15T13:00:01.000Z article:modified_time: 2026-04-13T09:05:58.965Z og:title: Ask Dr. Ruth: How Do I Overcome a Vaginismus Diagnosis? og:description: The sexual dysfunction condition may be linked to relationship woes og:url: https://time.com/5136099/ask-dr-ruth-vaginismus-relationships/ og:site_name: TIME og:image: https://static.time.com/v3/assets/bltea6093859af6183b/blt030e0423cb65502f/69892b16e76ad23b64631680/varinismus-dr-ruth-westheimer-gynecologist-therapy.jpg?branch=production&width=392&quality=75&auto=webp&crop=16:9 og:image:width: 392 og:image:height: 221 og:image:alt: Call Lily leaning on corner of wall og:type: article twitter:card: summary_large_image twitter:title: Ask Dr. Ruth: How Do I Overcome a Vaginismus Diagnosis? twitter:description: The sexual dysfunction condition may be linked to relationship woes twitter:image: https://static.time.com/v3/assets/bltea6093859af6183b/blt030e0423cb65502f/69892b16e76ad23b64631680/varinismus-dr-ruth-westheimer-gynecologist-therapy.jpg?branch=production&width=392&quality=75&auto=webp&crop=16:9 ---  # Ask Dr. Ruth: How Do I Overcome a Vaginismus Diagnosis? > Sponsored content. 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It is a free newsletter available at time.com/newsletters. by [Dr. Ruth Westheimer](https://time.com/author/dr-ruth-westheimer/) ## Dr. Ruth Westheimer Feb 15, 2018 1:00 PM UTC  Pink Calla Lily leaning on pink and lavender surface Pink Calla Lily leaning on pink and lavender surface Tooga/Getty Images by [Dr. Ruth Westheimer](https://time.com/author/dr-ruth-westheimer/) ## Dr. Ruth Westheimer Feb 15, 2018 1:00 PM UTC _After 30 years of working as a sex therapist, the legendary_ [_Dr. Ruth_](http://drruth.com/) _isn’t done sharing her wisdom. Here, she answers your most pressing questions on sex, relationships and life. Email your own queries to_ **_drruth@time.com_**_, or_ [_catch up on previous installments of the Ask Dr. Ruth series_](http://time.com/author/dr-ruth-westheimer/)_._ **Q: I’ve been married for eight years and have recently been diagnosed with vaginismus by my gynecologist. Our marriage isn’t perfect, but this diagnosis seems out of the blue. My doctor told me this issue is likely psychological — what could be the cause and how do I overcome it?** **A:** [Vaginismus](https://protect-us.mimecast.com/s/Z1VzC73M3VI9W8BRHNT6l1?domain=nytimes.com) is an involuntary tightening of the vaginal muscles that makes intercourse either painful, or, if the muscles are very tightly clamped together, impossible. It’s a condition that’s more commonly encountered at the beginning of a [sexual relationship](http://time.com/4692326/how-much-sex-is-healthy-in-a-relationship/), but can also occur at any time. It can be caused by [physical issues](https://protect-us.mimecast.com/s/8cfDC82g2Ksxw2ykhoSJmE?domain=healthline.com), such as [menopause](http://time.com/4422860/menopause-accelerates-aging/) or trauma, but as it’s often [psychological](https://protect-us.mimecast.com/s/4sigC9rjrYFPYlwOi1745M?domain=webmd.com), one source could be a [problem in the overall relationship](http://time.com/3404749/10-ways-improve-your-relationship/). It’s possible that something [outside of the bedroom](http://time.com/4378502/yes-couples-who-share-chores-have-more-sex/) is affecting you inside the bedroom. It could be something that seems minor, like that he doesn’t help you around the house enough, or it could be more serious. Whatever the problem is, it could be causing your subconscious to make intercourse impossible by an involuntary tightening of your vaginal muscles. While you may have gone to a gynecologist for the diagnosis, you may also need to visit a marriage counselor to help you find a cure. Once you check in on your relationship, you’ll be able to tackle the vaginismus — whether that be with couple’s therapy or a [medical doctor](http://time.com/time-health-womens-health/). **_Email questions to drruth@time.com._** ```json [{"@context":"https://schema.org","@type":"NewsArticle","@id":"https://time.com/5136099/ask-dr-ruth-vaginismus-relationships/","mainEntityOfPage":{"@type":"WebPage","@id":"https://time.com/5136099/ask-dr-ruth-vaginismus-relationships/"},"headline":"Ask Dr. Ruth: How Do I Overcome a Vaginismus Diagnosis?","datePublished":"2018-02-15T13:00:01.000Z","dateModified":"2026-04-13T09:05:58.965Z","description":"The sexual dysfunction condition may be linked to relationship woes","url":"https://time.com/5136099/ask-dr-ruth-vaginismus-relationships/","keywords":["motto","relationship advice"],"thumbnailUrl":"https://static.time.com/v3/assets/bltea6093859af6183b/blt030e0423cb65502f/69892b16e76ad23b64631680/varinismus-dr-ruth-westheimer-gynecologist-therapy.jpg?branch=production&width=1200&quality=75&auto=webp&crop=1200:675&height=675","author":[{"@type":"Person","name":"Dr. Ruth Westheimer","jobTitle":null,"url":"https://time.com/author/dr-ruth-westheimer/"}],"articleSection":"","image":[{"@type":"ImageObject","url":"https://static.time.com/v3/assets/bltea6093859af6183b/blt030e0423cb65502f/69892b16e76ad23b64631680/varinismus-dr-ruth-westheimer-gynecologist-therapy.jpg?branch=production&width=1200&quality=75&auto=webp&crop=1200:675&height=675","width":1200,"height":675,"headline":"Call Lily leaning on corner of wall","caption":"varinismus-dr-ruth-westheimer-gynecologist-therapy","creditText":"Tooga/Getty Images","representativeOfPage":true}],"publisher":{"@type":"Organization","name":"Time","url":"https://time.com/","logo":{"@type":"ImageObject","url":"https://time.com/images/logo.png","width":528,"height":156},"foundingDate":"March 3, 1923","sameAs":["https://www.facebook.com/time","https://www.instagram.com/time/?hl=en","https://twitter.com/time","https://www.pinterest.com/timemagazine"]}},{"@context":"https://schema.org","@type":"BreadcrumbList","itemListElement":[{"@type":"ListItem","position":1,"item":{"@id":"/tag/motto/","name":"motto"}},{"@type":"ListItem","position":2,"item":{"@id":"https://time.com/5136099/ask-dr-ruth-vaginismus-relationships/","name":"Ask Dr. Ruth: How Do I Overcome a Vaginismus Diagnosis?"}}]}] ```