--- title: Fussy son led one dad to extreme measures: a kids' book description: Some parenting challenges call for extreme measures canonical: https://time.com/4410605/how-i-tried-to-get-my-son-to-eat-his-dinner-by-writing-a-childrens-book/ author: Joshua David Stein article:opinion: false article:content_tier: free article:published_time: 2016-07-19T16:00:04.000Z article:modified_time: 2026-04-13T08:57:43.395Z og:title: How I Tried to Get My Son to Eat by Writing a Kid’s Book og:description: It was time to end the battles og:url: https://time.com/4410605/how-i-tried-to-get-my-son-to-eat-his-dinner-by-writing-a-childrens-book/ og:site_name: TIME og:image: https://static.time.com/v3/assets/bltea6093859af6183b/blta24d578cd559c5c5/69889c588e06012810466bab/canieatthat_cv.jpg?branch=production&width=1200&quality=75&auto=webp&crop=16:9 og:image:width: 2599 og:image:height: 1462 og:image:alt: CanIEatThat_CV og:type: article twitter:card: summary_large_image twitter:title: How I Tried to Get My Son to Eat by Writing a Kid’s Book twitter:description: It was time to end the battles twitter:image: https://static.time.com/v3/assets/bltea6093859af6183b/blta24d578cd559c5c5/69889c588e06012810466bab/canieatthat_cv.jpg?branch=production&width=1200&quality=75&auto=webp&crop=16:9 ---  # How I Tried to Get My Son to Eat His Dinner by Writing a Children’s Book > Sponsored content. 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And the only thing worse than a hangry adult, as any parent knows, is a hangry toddler. Achilles has been hangry for much of his short life. My son is both a stubborn and a sensitive laddie. It not simply the fact that it is his parents who are offering him mashed potatoes that precludes him from trying them. The actual mouth-feel of mashed potato makes him shudder. He doesn’t like meat or cheese that have a strong aftertaste, or as he calls it: “outland taste.” At the same time, he is also a stubborn child. So the more prescriptive his parents are, the angrier they get, the deeper he digs in. This trait came from me, which makes it both easy to understand and impossible to de-escalate. All this is to say that Pat Benatar got it wrong. Love isn’t a battlefield. Dinner is. Thankfully, by bedtime when I read to the boys—I have another son, Auggie, who is two-and-a-half and eats everything—the rage has usually subsided. One night, as we pored over books like Maurice Sendak’s _In The Night Kitchen_ or the English children’s book _The Runaway Dinner_, it occurred to me that it might be an opportune moment to broach the subject of food. But, as it turns out, food in children’s literature is seldom meant for eating. In many books it is [personified](https://br.pinterest.com/thefoodiesbooks/the-foodies-books-veggie-patch-stories-with-season/) and made lovable. In others, it is [magnified](https://www.amazon.com/James-Giant-Peach-Roald-Dahl/dp/0142410365/?tag=timecom-20) and made creepy. And in others it is just weather (yeah, I’m looking at [you](https://www.amazon.com/Cloudy-Chance-Meatballs-Judi-Barrett/dp/0689707495/?tag=timecom-20).) But as far as food being food, something to eat, that’s just an empty space on the library shelf. I started to have a nightly conversation with Auggie and Achilles about food that was deliberately not a power struggle. Can I eat, I’d ask, a tomato? Yes. A potato? Yes. A tornado? No. It’s made out of wind. \[At the last bit, Auggie and Achilles dissolve into laughter.\] Eventually I realized that those talks could become a book. My publisher, Phaidon, hooked me up with a wonderful illustrator named Julia Rothman who brought the series of questions to life. And sooner than I had thought possible, our nightly conversations had become became _Can I Eat That_? an actual object that I could hold and read and also pressure my friends and loved ones to hold and read. \[You too: All my proceeds will be donated to [Action Against Hunger](http://www.actionagainsthunger.org/).\] Did my gambit work? Short answer is no. Achilles still only eats toast with butter, yogurt with honey, chicken makhani from an Indian place an hour and a half away in our old neighborhood, and sometimes vegetables like broccoli sprouts, but only as long as they are presented as “edible plants.” He still refuses the lion’s share of what we make him. The long answer is a little more complicated. I’ve always had a pretty good relationship with Achilles. For a while though—and this was what formed the germ of the idea for _Can I Eat That?_ —the eating thing was a real problem, one that cast a contentious pall over our relationship. He’s a 4-year-old. I’m 34\. I should be better able to cope with frustration than he is. And I am, but only slightly. But reading the manuscript in its embryonic form together, coming up with the pages together, almost writing the book together every night at bedtime proved to be an important salve in our relationship. So now when he refuses to eat his collard greens or his shrimp tempura or his pesto tortellini, we just move on. 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