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Literally](https://cdn.jwplayer.com/manifests/UIMQThkY.m3u8) (1:35)  _Published 2015-10-29. A new study says being married increases your chances for a better recovery after heart surgery._ by [Sheryl Ziegler / YourTango](https://time.com/author/yourtango/) ## Sheryl Ziegler / YourTango Feb 23, 2016 8:12 PM UTC  close up of mature couple hands holding in meadow close up of mature couple hands holding in meadow Getty Images by [Sheryl Ziegler / YourTango](https://time.com/author/yourtango/) ## Sheryl Ziegler / YourTango Feb 23, 2016 8:12 PM UTC You can read a thousand books about [love](http://www.yourtango.com/love) and talk to [a hundred therapists](http://www.yourtango.com/experts/julia-flood/6-tips-make-marriage-counseling-work) about what makes a marriage work. But the truth is, nobody knows better than people who have loved each other for more than seven decades. Mr. and Mrs. Lombardi, who are both 95-years-old, are more in love today than they were seven decades ago, when they got [married](http://www.yourtango.com/married-lovestage). Here are the tips they most want younger people to know, about love, life, and staying together: **1\. Just love each other.** Live by the philosophy of _choosing love_, even when it’s not an easy choice. **2\. Compliment each other often.** Say something nice to your [spouse](http://www.yourtango.com/2013191628/ways-support-your-spouse-through-mental-illness) every day. Compliment anything from their beauty to their cooking, or even how helpful they are. **3\. Have a good** [**sex**](http://www.yourtango.com/sex) **life.** Yes, even at 95-years-old! Make [intimacy](http://www.yourtango.com/experts/sean-jameson/how-make-love-man) a priority in your marriage. **4\. Live near family.** There is nothing like family to raise your children around and to grow old with. **_YourTango:_** [_50 Love Quotes That Express Exactly What ‘I Love You’ Really Means_](http://www.yourtango.com/2013182354/love-quotes-inspirational-famous) **5\. Limit eating out, eat good food, watch your sugar intake.** Take it from this couple, who can still ride bikes in their 90s, there is nothing like [homemade food](http://elitedaily.com/women/couples-who-cook-together-stay-together/1291468/) to keep you happy and healthy. **6\. Never cheat.** Whether emotionally or physically, just don’t do it. These real-life marriage experts insist that before you commit to someone, you have to realize that you are doing so in every way for the rest of your lives. So even when tempted, you must [remain faithful](http://www.brides.com/blogs/aisle-say/2015/12/can-you-cheat-proof-marriage.html). **7\. Never go to bed mad.** “Just kiss” is their antidote to going to bed angry. They insist it’s just that simple. Try it! **8\. Be OK with arguing.** Know that disagreeing is a normal part of every relationship. You aren’t always going to agree, but you do need to hear the other person out, and be okay with your differences. Then move on without holding a grudge. They’ve been able to do it for seven decades! **_YourTango:_**[_7 Ways To Keep Their Passive-Aggression From Driving You Nuts_](http://www.yourtango.com/experts/dr-rhoberta-shaler/relationships-passive-aggressives-can-ruin-your-happiness) **9\. Respect each other.** Besides love, it goes without saying that a key to happy marriage is truly [admiring and valuing your spouse](http://www.yourtango.com/2013197121/marriage-i-put-my-husband-my-child). In good times _and_ in bad. **10\. Keep a nice home.** Mr. and Mrs. Lombardi believe that it’s very important to have a clean, orderly home that is reflective of your life. If it’s messy and disorganized, it’s likely you have chaos in your life. **11\. Be good parents.** Part of showing love to your children is providing your kids with an education. Though Mr. and Mrs. Lombardi insist that you shouldn’t put pressure on your kids to college, not everyone is cut out for a college education and learning a trade is important, too. **12\. Marry good genes.** Enough said here! **_YourTango:_**[_10 Ways To Spot A Narcissist On A First Date_](http://www.yourtango.com/experts/catherine-behan/how-spot-narcissist-first-date) **13\. Be sure that your faith beliefs bring you together and don’t divide you.** Share those beliefs with your children so that they may be guided in strong values and purpose. **14\. Take the good with the bad.** No one is perfect, and as they say, the grass is not greener. Always remember to love the one you’re with! _This_ [_article_](http://www.yourtango.com/2016285802/14-love-lessons-happily-married-couple-72-years) _originally appeared on_ [_YourTango_](http://www.yourtango.com) ## Transcript [00:00] Talk about marriage being good for the heart, literally. [00:03] A new study found marriage can ease your recovery [00:05] after heart surgery. The study was published [00:08] Wednesday in the journal JAMA surgery. It claims [00:11] patients who were married did significantly better than [00:13] those who were divorced Widowed or separated, but [00:16] not better than those who had never been married. [00:18] Researchers from the University of Pennsylvania used [00:21] data from a University of Michigan study of more than [00:24] 1, 500 adults over the age of 50 who had undergone [00:27] heart surgery. The researchers said those who were [00:30] divorced, widowed or separated were 40 % more likely [00:33] to die. Die after heart surgery or develop a new [00:36] disability within two years after the surgery. The [00:39] researchers looked at how well the patients could [00:41] perform everyday activities like dressing eating and [00:44] taking showers without help. Study co author Mark [00:47] Newman said the reason for the link between marriage [00:49] and better heart surgery recovery remains unknown, [00:52] but it may help doctors identify who may need more [00:55] support after surgery. We should note that for the [00:58] patients who had never been married Had about the [01:00] same chances of successful recovery than people who [01:03] were married. Granted, the unmarried patients only [01:06] accounted for 2 % of the study participants, while the [01:08] married patients accounted for 65 %. Doctor Asheesh [01:12] Scholl is the head of heart transplantation at Vanderbilt [01:15] University Medical Center. Shaw says the recent [01:18] findings echo other studies that found married patients [01:22] do better after surgery. Shaw says the recent findings [01:25] echo other studies that found married patients do [01:27] better after surgery. 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