--- title: Parents: How to Help Your Kids Handle Pressure description: Anxiety the No.1 reason parents bring kids to a health provider canonical: https://time.com/4032350/how-to-help-your-kids-handle-pressure/ author: Carey Wallace article:opinion: false article:content_tier: free article:published_time: 2015-09-14T12:30:02.000Z article:modified_time: 2026-04-13T08:57:21.570Z og:title: How to Help Your Kids Handle Pressure og:description: Anxiety is the No. 1 reason parents bring kids to health provider og:url: https://time.com/4032350/how-to-help-your-kids-handle-pressure/ og:site_name: TIME og:image: https://static.time.com/v3/assets/bltea6093859af6183b/bltabf0e8a7accae1aa/698863522dce0104469e57ab/kidpressure.jpg?branch=production&width=1200&quality=75&auto=webp&crop=16:9 og:image:width: 3436 og:image:height: 1933 og:image:alt: 74109063 og:type: article twitter:card: summary_large_image twitter:title: How to Help Your Kids Handle Pressure twitter:description: Anxiety is the No. 1 reason parents bring kids to health provider twitter:image: https://static.time.com/v3/assets/bltea6093859af6183b/bltabf0e8a7accae1aa/698863522dce0104469e57ab/kidpressure.jpg?branch=production&width=1200&quality=75&auto=webp&crop=16:9 ---  # How to Help Your Kids Handle Pressure > Sponsored content. 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According to Lynn Lyons, a clinical social worker and psychotherapist, and the author of _Anxious Kids, Anxious Parents: 7 Ways to Stop The Worry Cycle and Raise Courageous and Independent Children,_ anxiety is currently the number one reason parents bring a child to a mental health provider. [No parent has the time to read nonsense. Get a weekly roundup of just the good stuff here.](http://time.com/t4parents) But pressure doesn’t have to lead to anxiety. It can also lead to learning. “The trick,” Lyons says, “is to give kids skills to manage realistic pressures without asking them for more than they can handle.” Parents can start that process with **_elementary school kids_** by letting them know that some uncertainty in life is O.K.. When young kids are feeling pressure, Lyons says, “we tend to try to give them reassurance and information, and tell them it will be O.K.” But pressure comes, Lyons says, from the need to know the outcome. And nobody really knows that. Instead, says Lyons, parents can help kids get comfortable with the fact that they don’t know exactly what will happen next, and start conversations about the “mights and maybes” of life. The central pressure in the lives of **_middle school kids_** is social. But Lyons says middle school kids are so “acutely aware of social ranking and status,” that it can be hard for parents to start direct conversations with them about the social pressures they face. She suggests that parents bring up topics they want to connect with middle school kids on indirectly: “Present their issue,” she says, but in disguise. Perhaps make it a question about a third person. Middle school kids, according to Lyons, are much more likely to share their thoughts and give answers “if it’s not about them.” **_High school kids_** need to be supported in their autonomy, says Lyons. The most important skill to teach them here is how to tell the difference between what matters, and what doesn’t. And the best teacher, Lyons says, may be life itself. “What parents are doing right now is stepping in and fixing too quickly,” Lyons says. “They try to relieve pressure” by getting involved. But the real message that sends kids, says Lyons, is “I don’t think you can do it.” Instead parents can remind kids that it’s okay to be uncertain, to be uncomfortable—and sometimes to fail, all in the process of learning. And, Lyons says, to help kids recognize that there’s more than one way to succeed. “A lot of times, the pressure on high schoolers comes from this belief that there is only one path to success, and the decisions they make now are permanent.” Parents can help them by starting conversations about the fact that life isn’t about “rigid pressure to do it this one way,” says Lyons. “Things are changeable, you can adapt, and problem solve, and manage what life throws at you.”_—Carey Wallace_ ```json [{"@context":"https://schema.org","@type":"NewsArticle","@id":"https://time.com/4032350/how-to-help-your-kids-handle-pressure/","mainEntityOfPage":{"@type":"WebPage","@id":"https://time.com/4032350/how-to-help-your-kids-handle-pressure/"},"headline":"How to Help Your Kids Handle Pressure","datePublished":"2015-09-14T12:30:02.000Z","dateModified":"2026-04-13T08:57:21.570Z","description":"Anxiety the No.1 reason parents bring kids to a health provider","url":"https://time.com/4032350/how-to-help-your-kids-handle-pressure/","keywords":["Living"],"thumbnailUrl":"https://static.time.com/v3/assets/bltea6093859af6183b/bltabf0e8a7accae1aa/698863522dce0104469e57ab/kidpressure.jpg?branch=production&width=1200&quality=75&auto=webp&crop=1200:675&height=675","author":[{"@type":"Person","name":"Carey Wallace","jobTitle":null,"url":"https://time.com/author/carey-wallace/"}],"articleSection":"","image":[{"@type":"ImageObject","url":"https://static.time.com/v3/assets/bltea6093859af6183b/bltabf0e8a7accae1aa/698863522dce0104469e57ab/kidpressure.jpg?branch=production&width=1200&quality=75&auto=webp&crop=1200:675&height=675","width":1200,"height":675,"headline":"74109063","caption":"74109063","creditText":"Richard Bowditch—Getty Images/Uppercut","representativeOfPage":true}],"publisher":{"@type":"Organization","name":"Time","url":"https://time.com/","logo":{"@type":"ImageObject","url":"https://time.com/images/logo.png","width":528,"height":156},"foundingDate":"March 3, 1923","sameAs":["https://www.facebook.com/time","https://www.instagram.com/time/?hl=en","https://twitter.com/time","https://www.pinterest.com/timemagazine"]}},{"@context":"https://schema.org","@type":"BreadcrumbList","itemListElement":[{"@type":"ListItem","position":1,"item":{"@id":"/tag/time-section-living/","name":"Living"}},{"@type":"ListItem","position":2,"item":{"@id":"https://time.com/4032350/how-to-help-your-kids-handle-pressure/","name":"How to Help Your Kids Handle Pressure"}}]}] ```