--- title: Brené Brown: "We're spit-shining failure." description: The bestselling author talks about how to come back after a disaster or a disappointment. canonical: https://time.com/4029460/brene-brown-were-spit-shining-failure/ author: Arpita Aneja article:opinion: false article:content_tier: free article:published_time: 2015-09-10T16:07:15.000Z article:modified_time: 2026-04-13T08:57:21.105Z og:title: Brené Brown on "spit-shining failure" and other mistakes og:description: Bestselling author on how to stand up affter a meltdown. og:url: https://time.com/4029460/brene-brown-were-spit-shining-failure/ og:site_name: TIME og:image: https://static.time.com/v3/assets/bltea6093859af6183b/blt8f215fc563a55d12/698862ee0a4a2273e59c5fee/erik-tanner-brene-brown.jpg?branch=production&width=1200&quality=75&auto=webp&crop=16:9 og:image:width: 1725 og:image:height: 970 og:image:alt: erik-tanner-Brene-Brown og:type: article twitter:card: summary_large_image twitter:title: Brené Brown on "spit-shining failure" and other mistakes twitter:description: Bestselling author on how to stand up affter a meltdown. twitter:image: https://static.time.com/v3/assets/bltea6093859af6183b/blt8f215fc563a55d12/698862ee0a4a2273e59c5fee/erik-tanner-brene-brown.jpg?branch=production&width=1200&quality=75&auto=webp&crop=16:9 ---  # Brené Brown: "We're spit-shining failure." > Sponsored content. 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[In an interview with TIME](http://time.com/4029029/10-questions-with-brene-brown/?xid=homepage) about her new book _Rising Strong_, the Oprah favorite says that failure has to hurt, or it’s not failure. “If you cannot manage discomfort, that sends you barreling into perfectionism, excuse making, blame, rationalizing, fixing it, cleaning it up without taking away the key learnings from a failure or a disappointment, or even a heartbreak.” Not all failure is equal, notes Brown. The ones that hurt the most are those where people haven’t stayed true to their values and compromised their aims in order to succeed. “When I look back on the failures in my life where my attempts were half assed, and I tried to hedge my bets by not showing up fully, thinking it would hurt less if I lost—those are the most painful for sure.” Brown says that her success as the nation’s foremost authority on vulnerability and shame has made failure even more of a specter for her. “There’s definitely a new vulnerability that comes with having some success and having wind at your back a little bit,” she says. “I didn’t fear failure as much after I was coming off of failure because I anticipated it.” But because failure tends to evoke shame, Brown says talking about is crucial. “Shame needs three things to grow exponentially: Secrecy, silence, and judgment,” she says. “But you start talking about it and you start talking about the emotional landscape of failure, then you’ve got change.” ```json [{"@context":"https://schema.org","@type":"NewsArticle","@id":"https://time.com/4029460/brene-brown-were-spit-shining-failure/","mainEntityOfPage":{"@type":"WebPage","@id":"https://time.com/4029460/brene-brown-were-spit-shining-failure/"},"headline":"Brené Brown: \"We're spit-shining failure.\"","datePublished":"2015-09-10T16:07:15.000Z","dateModified":"2026-04-13T08:57:21.105Z","description":"The bestselling author talks about how to come back after a disaster or a disappointment.","url":"https://time.com/4029460/brene-brown-were-spit-shining-failure/","keywords":["Living","Interview"],"thumbnailUrl":"https://static.time.com/v3/assets/bltea6093859af6183b/blt8f215fc563a55d12/698862ee0a4a2273e59c5fee/erik-tanner-brene-brown.jpg?branch=production&width=1200&quality=75&auto=webp&crop=1200:675&height=675","author":[{"@type":"Person","name":"Arpita Aneja","jobTitle":null,"url":"https://time.com/author/arpita-aneja/"},{"@type":"Person","name":"Belinda Luscombe","jobTitle":"Editor at Large","url":"https://time.com/author/belinda-luscombe/"}],"articleSection":"","image":[{"@type":"ImageObject","url":"https://static.time.com/v3/assets/bltea6093859af6183b/blt8f215fc563a55d12/698862ee0a4a2273e59c5fee/erik-tanner-brene-brown.jpg?branch=production&width=1200&quality=75&auto=webp&crop=1200:675&height=675","width":1200,"height":675,"headline":"erik-tanner-Brene-Brown","caption":"erik-tanner-brene-brown","creditText":"Erik Tanner for TIME","representativeOfPage":true}],"publisher":{"@type":"Organization","name":"Time","url":"https://time.com/","logo":{"@type":"ImageObject","url":"https://time.com/images/logo.png","width":528,"height":156},"foundingDate":"March 3, 1923","sameAs":["https://www.facebook.com/time","https://www.instagram.com/time/?hl=en","https://twitter.com/time","https://www.pinterest.com/timemagazine"]}},{"@context":"https://schema.org","@type":"BreadcrumbList","itemListElement":[{"@type":"ListItem","position":1,"item":{"@id":"/tag/time-section-living/","name":"Living"}},{"@type":"ListItem","position":2,"item":{"@id":"https://time.com/4029460/brene-brown-were-spit-shining-failure/","name":"Brené Brown: \"We're spit-shining failure.\""}}]}] ```