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When they feel there’s a strong group behind something, they’re more likely to behave: --- > “” --- (To learn how to get people to like you — from an FBI behavior expert — click [here](http://www.bakadesuyo.com/2014/10/how-to-get-people-to-like-you/).) When they do something wrong, use disappointment as a weapon to keep them in line. It works better than anger: --- > “” --- (To learn how to make difficult conversations easy, click [here](http://www.bakadesuyo.com/2014/12/difficult-conversations/).) Maybe you think you don’t deal with too many narcissists. There’s research that shows the leader of a group is more likely to be on the narcissistic end of the spectrum: --- > “” --- (To learn how to win every argument, click [here](http://www.bakadesuyo.com/2013/09/how-to-win-every-argument/).) **_This piece originally appeared on_** [**_Barking Up the Wrong Tree_**](http://www.bakadesuyo.com/2010/03/how-to-deal-with-a-narcissist/)**_._** **Join over 205,000 readers. 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