--- title: Video Games: Kate Upton Game of War Ads Show Misconceptions on Boys description: What the boys going to Comic-Con really think of Kate Upton, Game of War, and women in video games canonical: https://time.com/3948744/video-games-kate-upton-game-of-war-comic-con/ author: Rosalind Wiseman article:opinion: false article:content_tier: free article:published_time: 2015-07-08T13:35:45.000Z article:modified_time: 2026-08-04T08:02:15.140Z og:title: Everything You Know About Boys and Video Games Is Wrong og:description: Here's what they really think about how women are portrayed on screen og:url: https://time.com/3948744/video-games-kate-upton-game-of-war-comic-con/ og:site_name: TIME og:image: https://static.time.com/v3/assets/bltea6093859af6183b/blt3112395d660ffdb2/698859f20a4a2245e39c50d6/kate-upton-game-of-war1.png?branch=production&width=1200&quality=75&auto=webp&crop=16:9 og:image:width: 2244 og:image:height: 1262 og:image:alt: kate-upton-game-of-war og:type: article twitter:card: summary_large_image twitter:title: Everything You Know About Boys and Video Games Is Wrong twitter:description: Here's what they really think about how women are portrayed on screen twitter:image: https://static.time.com/v3/assets/bltea6093859af6183b/blt3112395d660ffdb2/698859f20a4a2245e39c50d6/kate-upton-game-of-war1.png?branch=production&width=1200&quality=75&auto=webp&crop=16:9 ---  # Everything You Know About Boys and Video Games Is Wrong > Sponsored content. 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Rosiland Wiseman talks with three book contributors about the issues teen boys face every day._ by [Rosalind Wiseman](https://time.com/author/rosalind-wiseman/) ## Rosalind Wiseman Jul 8, 2015 1:35 PM UTC  by [Rosalind Wiseman](https://time.com/author/rosalind-wiseman/) ## Rosalind Wiseman Jul 8, 2015 1:35 PM UTC Kids are fed up with Kate Upton. When [the ads for _Game of War_](https://youtu.be/XkaWyrm8EQg) started showing up on my students’ phones last year—they haven’t stopped—many were annoyed. They hated that it was impossible to close the ad, forcing them instead to watch the video until the end. But what really irritated them was Ms. Upton, in a full-cleavage-baring white flowing dress. [The ads are clearly effective for some](http://%28The ads are clearly effective for some.%29), but the message is obvious: _Game of War_ is a boys’ game, and Upton is the game’s mascot, walking through battles totally unscathed and doing nothing except looking pretty. Action games with big battles like _Game of War_ are incredibly exciting to kids. And kids I’ve worked with, both male and female, will put up with a lot to play exciting games. But it doesn’t mean they like the way women are portrayed. Yet the video game industry seems to base much of its game and character design on a few assumptions, among them that girls don’t play big action games, boys won’t play games with strong female characters, and male players like the sexual objectification of female characters. You can guess what the results are: a gaming landscape that thrusts a hyper-sexualized depiction of women onto the phone, computer and TV screens of millions of boys and girls. **MORE** [What Boys Really Want](http://time.com/696/what-boys-want/) The issue of sexism in video games, long simmering, is sure to bubble up again during the Comic-Con convention this weekend in San Diego. (47% of attendees are expected to be women.) In collaboration with my colleagues, Charlie Kuhn and gaming expert Ashly Burch, we surveyed more than 1,400 middle and high school students from throughout the country last year. We asked them to tell us what they thought about gender representation in games, what games girls play, and more. Our survey was exploratory—we didn’t have the resources to conduct a thorough evaluation—but we believed it was an important issue to study and hope others will follow. Here are three things we found that may surprise. **Boys believe female characters are treated too often as sex objects** 47% of middle school boys agreed or strongly agreed, and 61% of high school boys agreed or strongly agreed. “If women are objectified like this it defeats the entire purpose of fighting,” Theo, an eighth-grader who loves playing _Mortal Kombat_, told us. “I would respect the \[female\] character more for having some dignity.” **Both boys and girls aren’t more likely to play a game based on the gender of the protagonist** 70% of girls said it doesn’t matter and 78% of boys said it doesn’t matter. Interestingly, boys care _less_ about playing as a male character as they age and girls care _more_ about playing as a female one. **Girls play a variety of game genres** 26% played first-person shooter games like _Call of Duty_ and _HALO_, 36% played role-playing games like _Skyrim_ and _Grand Theft Auto_, and 17% played sports games like _FIFA_ and _Madden_. (19% did not play games, compared to 3% of boys.) We also asked kids if they identified as “gamers.” Especially in light of the [“Gamergate”](http://time.com/3510381/gamergate-faq/) [controversy](http://time.com/3507153/comic-con-women-gaming/) that erupted last year and revealed intense sexism among some self-identified gamers, would the young people who identified as gamers share any of these sentiments? But very few of our respondents knew what Gamergate was and they had very different responses from what one may expect: 55% of boys who identify as gamers think there should be more female heroes in games, and 57% believe that female characters are too often treated as sex objects. This all matters because gaming has become an important part of our culture, and it’s sending the wrong message onto our boys’ and girls’ sceens. Our kids deserve better. And it’s what they want. _Rosalind Wiseman is the author of_ Masterminds and Wingmen _(Harmony Books, 2013) as well as_ Queen Bees and Wannabes _(Harmony Books, 2002)_ ### Meet America's First Video Game Varsity Athletes  Jonathan "McSleuthBurgur" Lindahl, 19, a freshman in computer networking, practices League of Legends and other video games in the video game practice space of Robert Morris University's athletic department in Chicago, March 18, 2015\. The university recognizes video games as a varsity sport under its athletic department and has been offering sports scholarships to video gamers to play League of Legends. The team practices four to five nights a week in a $100,000 classroom outfitted for video gaming. Kitra Cahana—Getty Images Reportage for TIME  Chris "STARS FourEyes" Broadnax, 21, a graphic design major, plays video games in Robert Morris University's video game practice space in Chicago, March 18, 2015. Kitra Cahana—Getty Images Reportage for TIME  Rachel "Razur" Zurawski, 20, plays League of Legends and other video games in Robert Morris University's video game practice space in Chicago, March 18, 2015. Kitra Cahana—Getty Images Reportage for TIME  Student video game athletes play League of Legends and other games in Robert Morris University's video game practice space in Chicago, March 18, 2015. Kitra Cahana—Getty Images Reportage for TIME  Derek "Zig" Shao (left), 20, and Blake "Oberan" Soberanis, 22, play League of Legends in Robert Morris University's video game practice space in Chicago, March 18, 2015\. Shao and Soberanis are two of the best members on the school's video game team. Kitra Cahana—Getty Images Reportage for TIME  Chris "STARS FourEyes" Broadnax (right), 21 and Mario "ThirstDrinker" Huang, 26, practice League of Legends and other video games in Robert Morris University's video game practice space in Chicago, March 18, 2015. Kitra Cahana—Getty Images Reportage for TIME  Rachel "Razur" Zurawski, 20, practices League of Legends and other video games in Robert Morris University's video game practice space in Chicago, March 18, 2015. Kitra Cahana—Getty Images Reportage for TIME  Robert Morris University associate athletic director, Kurt Melcher (second left), Jonathan "McSleuthBurgur" Lindahl (right), 19, and Dean "keyboychespin" Mitchell (second right), 18, watch others play the game Heroes of the Storm in Robert Morris University's video game practice space in Chicago, March 18, 2015. Kitra Cahana—Getty Images Reportage for TIME  Derek "Zig" Shao (left), 20, and Zixing Jie (right), 20 play League of Legends in Robert Morris University's video game practice space in Chicago, March 18, 2015. Kitra Cahana—Getty Images Reportage for TIME  Mario "ThirstDrinker" Huang, 26, a sophomore studying Drafting Technology, practices League of Legends and other video games in Robert Morris University's video game practice space in Chicago, March 18, 2015. Kitra Cahana—Getty Images Reportage for TIME ## Transcript Hi how are you guys? Rosalind Wiseman is widely known for her non- fiction book, Queen Bees and Wannabes, which was the basis for the movie Mean Girls. Now she's attempting to change the perception of boys with her new book, Masterminds and Wing men. To better understand them, Wiseman is working with hundreds of teen students across the country. And recently, she reunited with three of these boys who were instrumental in helping her create this book. If, if you believe this, dispel the notion that like, guys like you can get their hearts broken and it bothers you. I was dating this girl for a few months and then I found out she cheated on me with two people and then, I blame myself. If I had been better, if I hadn't done this. What is so important to me, that I want adults to realize is, is that boys have deep connections with people. They want meaningful relationships, they fall in love. And when betrayals happen, and they do, or when breakups happen. They are in deep amounts of pain. They often don't share that with other people, but it doesn't mean that, that doesn't exist. I broke up with my girlfriend in the middle of football season in, in college jobs. And the worst part is, I couldn't really talk to any of my athlete friends about it. So I, the only friend I could talk to, is someone who wasn't an athlete. Why? My, groups of friends like, we don't talk about girls like [ CROSSTALK ]. You don't talk about your relationships. I wouldn't talk about relationships. Relationships with girls. It's like a five minute discussion, who did you hook up with? You're done, that's it. But if I actually wanna have a meaningful discussion, how I feel, I have to put on, kinda put up a little wall there. I have to kinda go to the friends that, it won't matter if I talk to them about it. The friend who's not an athlete, who's not like the top tier of people at this school, like who could actually, you know, listen. What I'm hearing in these interviews, are boys really breaking so many of the stereotypes that we have about boys. They're so much more complex. They have rich emotional lives. And if we can sit down, and really listen to them, they will tell us. I mean, look back on your high school years. Are there things that you did, or participated in, or you didn't speak out about, that you regret? The seniors, when I was a freshman, were some of the worst seniors that our school has ever had. They told all the freshman that, that in order to leave the locker room, they had to get like whipped. With what? A belt or something. It's just something stupid or like, I don't even know, like a rope or something. And then, like I don't, if you speak up, you're gonna get beat more. But maybe your beating will entail less beating than everybody else. Roseline is someone I looked up to. If I had an issue, I would come to her and be like, oh. I don't know how to deal with this situation, and then she would help me out. You know, it was very, very weird talking to Roseline at first, because I treated her like a parent. I kinda had to filter what I had to say. But then I became comfortable, like she was just like a sister, someone like that. So I was really able to sort of tell her more things that I wouldn't be able to tell any other adult person. Adults don't think, that boys and girls can be friends. Like strong, strong friendships. Yeah, when I, when I broke up with my girlfriend, I went to dinner with one of my really good girlfriends to talk about it. And the first thing my mom says like, well you just broke up with your girlfriend. Like two days ago. I was like are you serious? Like really. You can have a completely platonic relationship with a very attractive girl. It's like in, in, there'd be nothing there. So, it's one of those experiences of examples of boys being pushed into a stereotype of like all they care about is sex? I think for other boys, this is gonna be really interesting because they get to see a new side of things, that they may have not knew existed. Or they could finally relate to something that they didn't know like, wow I was, I'm not the only one feeling this. And but to realize that all these different kids came together. Because they believe that this is an important thing to do. 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