--- title: Advice and Tips: 4 Life Lessons Learned From Someone in Their Deathbed description: We never have as much time as we think canonical: https://time.com/3938587/life-lessons-deathbed/ author: TIME article:opinion: true article:content_tier: free article:published_time: 2015-06-27T16:00:27.000Z article:modified_time: 2026-08-04T07:58:45.650Z article:section: Ideas og:title: 4 Life Lessons a Doctor Has Learned From Patients og:description: We never have as much time as we think og:url: https://time.com/3938587/life-lessons-deathbed/ og:site_name: TIME og:image: https://static.time.com/v3/assets/bltea6093859af6183b/bltde093bcdab65f2d0/6988d9b9bc6cfc69913e2a3c/time-logo.jpg?branch=production og:image:width: 1200 og:image:height: 675 og:image:alt: TIME og:type: article twitter:card: summary_large_image twitter:title: 4 Life Lessons a Doctor Has Learned From Patients twitter:description: We never have as much time as we think twitter:image: https://static.time.com/v3/assets/bltea6093859af6183b/bltde093bcdab65f2d0/6988d9b9bc6cfc69913e2a3c/time-logo.jpg?branch=production --- # 4 Life Lessons a Doctor Has Learned From Patients ## Video: Inside The Operating Room During Awake Surgery [Watch (HLS stream): Inside The Operating Room During Awake Surgery](https://cdn.jwplayer.com/manifests/lyJruvm0.m3u8) (4:57)  _Published 2015-03-02. Brittany Capone is having a benign tumor removed from her brain and because it is so close to her speech center, surgeons will keep her awake and talk to her during the procedure_ by [Quora](https://time.com/author/quora/) ## Quora Jun 27, 2015 4:00 PM UTC by [Quora](https://time.com/author/quora/) ## Quora Jun 27, 2015 4:00 PM UTC [_Answer_](http://www.quora.com/If-youre-a-medical-practitioner-what-revelations-have-you-had-about-health-and-mortality-since-youve-been-working-in-this-field/answer/David-Chan-10)_by_[_David Chan_](http://www.quora.com/David-Chan-10)_on_ [_Quora_](http://www.quora.com/)_._ I’ve taken care of cancer patients for several decades and they’ve taught me something about life. 1\. **A** **job is just a job.** I often get into discussions about life and living with my cancer patients who have a unique outlook because they are face to face with their mortality. Not one single patient has told me that they wished they had worked more. I’ve taken it to heart and have made it a point to be there for important events for family and friends and to take vacation days. 2\. I’m reminded daily to have a **big picture view of life** and to understand what is a real problem. It’s so easy to be caught up in day to day dramas that we lose sight of what is a real problem. A real problem is finding a big lump in your neck, getting a scan, then a biopsy, and being told that it’s cancer. Virtually every other problem then goes away. 3\. True wealth is measured in **family and friends**. I’m not talking about numbers. What I’m talking about is the small group of people that will really be with you when the shit hits the fan. I’ve had very wealthy patients with big families and a large group of friends that all disappeared when things went south. Nothing could be sadder to see. And I’ve had other patients who had 2 or 3 people in their lives that made incredible personal sacrifices of time and effort to help them through. I think of it as proof of a life well lived. 4\. A corollary to #1 is that **we never have as much time** as we think. I’m reminded of a patient who was a young and very successful executive with pancreas cancer. He wasn’t curable and it was poorly treatable given his situation. His life expectancy went from 40 years to 6 months within the week of his diagnosis. He’d never taken a vacation with his family; his wife and 3 school-aged kids. We reviewed the pros and cons of treatment and he decided to forego treatment, rented a sailboat and took his family through the Caribbean Islands for about 3 weeks. Because of his cancer, he didn’t feel physically great but he told me that it was the best 3 weeks of his life. I’m grateful for the lesson he and many other patients have taught me. _This question originally appeared on_ [_Quora: If you’re a medical practitioner, what revelations have you had about health and mortality since you’ve been working in this field?_](http://www.quora.com/If-youre-a-medical-practitioner-what-revelations-have-you-had-about-health-and-mortality-since-youve-been-working-in-this-field) _More from Quora:_ * [What does it feel like to tell someone how long they have left to live?](http://www.quora.com/What-does-it-feel-like-to-tell-someone-how-long-they-have-left-to-live/answer/David-Chan-10) * [What medical facts should laypeople be aware of?](http://www.quora.com/What-medical-facts-should-laypeople-be-aware-of) * [What motivated you to go into medicine?](http://www.quora.com/What-motivated-you-to-go-into-medicine) Advice and Tips: 4 Life Lessons Learned From Someone in Their Deathbed ```json [{"@context":"https://schema.org","@type":"OpinionNewsArticle","@id":"https://time.com/3938587/life-lessons-deathbed/","mainEntityOfPage":{"@type":"WebPage","@id":"https://time.com/3938587/life-lessons-deathbed/"},"headline":"4 Life Lessons a Doctor Has Learned From Patients","datePublished":"2015-06-27T16:00:27.000Z","dateModified":"2026-08-04T07:58:45.650Z","description":"We never have as much time as we think","url":"https://time.com/3938587/life-lessons-deathbed/","keywords":["health","medicine","Life advice"],"thumbnailUrl":"","author":[{"@type":"Person","name":"Quora","jobTitle":null,"url":"https://time.com/author/quora/"}],"articleSection":"Ideas","image":[],"publisher":{"@type":"Organization","name":"Time","url":"https://time.com/","logo":{"@type":"ImageObject","url":"https://time.com/images/logo.png","width":528,"height":156},"foundingDate":"March 3, 1923","sameAs":["https://www.facebook.com/time","https://www.instagram.com/time/?hl=en","https://twitter.com/time","https://www.pinterest.com/timemagazine"]}},{"@context":"https://schema.org","@type":"BreadcrumbList","itemListElement":[{"@type":"ListItem","position":1,"item":{"@id":"/section/ideas/","name":"Ideas"}},{"@type":"ListItem","position":2,"item":{"@id":"/tag/health/","name":"health"}},{"@type":"ListItem","position":3,"item":{"@id":"https://time.com/3938587/life-lessons-deathbed/","name":"4 Life Lessons a Doctor Has Learned From Patients"}}]},{"@context":"https://schema.org","@type":"VideoObject","name":"Inside The Operating Room During Awake Surgery","description":"Brittany Capone is having a benign tumor removed from her brain and because it is so close to her speech center, surgeons will keep her awake and talk to her during the procedure","thumbnailUrl":"https://cdn.jwplayer.com/v2/media/lyJruvm0/poster.jpg?width=720","uploadDate":"2015-03-02T20:52:14.000Z","contentUrl":"https://cdn.jwplayer.com/manifests/lyJruvm0.m3u8","embedUrl":"https://time.com/3938587/life-lessons-deathbed/","duration":"PT4M57S","potentialAction":{"@type":"SeekToAction","target":"https://time.com/3938587/life-lessons-deathbed/?jw_start={seek_to_second_number}","startOffset-input":"required name=seek_to_second_number"}}] ```