--- title: Tinder, OkCupid Online Dates: Bartenders Talk on Video description: For starters, you're "dressed a little bit too well and showered too recently" canonical: https://time.com/3716346/bartenders-judge-tinder-dates/ author: Samantha Grossman article:opinion: false article:content_tier: free article:published_time: 2015-02-20T16:02:51.000Z article:modified_time: 2026-05-11T04:48:00.563Z og:title: Watch Bartenders Explain How They Totally Know You Met Your Date Online og:description: For starters, you're "dressed a little bit too well and showered too recently" og:url: https://time.com/3716346/bartenders-judge-tinder-dates/ og:site_name: TIME og:image: https://static.time.com/v3/assets/bltea6093859af6183b/bltde093bcdab65f2d0/6988d9b9bc6cfc69913e2a3c/time-logo.jpg?branch=production og:image:width: 1200 og:image:height: 675 og:image:alt: TIME og:type: article twitter:card: summary_large_image twitter:title: Watch Bartenders Explain How They Totally Know You Met Your Date Online twitter:description: For starters, you're "dressed a little bit too well and showered too recently" twitter:image: https://static.time.com/v3/assets/bltea6093859af6183b/bltde093bcdab65f2d0/6988d9b9bc6cfc69913e2a3c/time-logo.jpg?branch=production --- # Watch Bartenders Explain How They Totally Know You Met Your Date Online > Sponsored content. 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Every edition is assembled by TIME editors rather than generated automatically. by [Samantha Grossman](https://time.com/author/samantha-grossman/) ## Samantha Grossman Feb 20, 2015 4:02 PM UTC by [Samantha Grossman](https://time.com/author/samantha-grossman/) ## Samantha Grossman Feb 20, 2015 4:02 PM UTC Everyone who’s tried online dating knows it can be a great way to meet awesome people — but it’s inevitably going to be a tad bit awkward. Or sometimes _really_ awkward. But if you think it’s only awkward for you and your date, you’re wrong. So, so wrong. There’s somebody else who’s experiencing it all with you: your bartender. The Daily Share [rounded up](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1-xRt-7Wzrw) some bartenders from around New York City to talk about what it’s like watching Tinder dates unfold — and how they always know it’s an online date. They mostly cringe while watching these dates but also admit they love the free entertainment. The barkeeps also keep tabs on whether or not the date is going well. All too often, they’ll see a guy go in for a kiss and the girl blatantly reject it. “The head turn, it’s a heartbreaker,” one bartender says. “It’s like watching a dog get put down.” If the video makes you feel embarrassed that these bartenders are totally judging you, just remember: they’re probably secretly going on their own Tinder dates that are just as awkward. _Read next:_ [_More Men Use Dating Apps Than Women_](http://time.com/3711902/men-use-dating-apps-more-tinder/?xid=time%5Freadnext) ### See Photos of Love and Courtship in 1950s Japan  A young couple on a date in a cafe in Tokyo. John Dominis—The LIFE Picture Collection/Getty Images  A Shibui dance function in Tokyo where young people would go to meet other young people in hopes of finding a partner. JOHN DOMINIS—THE LIFE PICTURE COLLECTION/GETTY IMAGES  A Shibui dance function in Tokyo where young people would go to meet other young people in hopes of finding a partner. JOHN DOMINIS—THE LIFE PICTURE COLLECTION/GETTY IMAGES  A young couple walking around in the Ginza district of Tokyo. 1959. JOHN DOMINIS—THE LIFE PICTURE COLLECTION/GETTY IMAGES  Akiksuke Tsutsui, left, bids his girlfriend, Chiyoko Inami, farewell as her train departs. March 1959. JOHN DOMINIS—THE LIFE PICTURE COLLECTION/GETTY IMAGES  Akiksuke Tsutsui, left, and his girlfriend Chiyoko Inami, right, walking around in the Ginza district during their lunch hour. March 1959. JOHN DOMINIS—THE LIFE PICTURE COLLECTION/GETTY IMAGES  Nohito Mukai, left, and his girlfriend, Hiroko Inayaki, go roller skating on a date in Tokyo. March 1959. JOHN DOMINIS—THE LIFE PICTURE COLLECTION/GETTY IMAGES  Hiroko Inayaki, left, goes for a drive with her boyfriend, Nohito Mukai. March 1959. JOHN DOMINIS—THE LIFE PICTURE COLLECTION/GETTY IMAGES  Takahide Inayama (Age 20), left, and his girlfriend, Mitusyo Ogama (Age 20), both are university students. Seen here picking out apples on a date near their university. 1959 JOHN DOMINIS—THE LIFE PICTURE COLLECTION/GETTY IMAGES  Chiyoko Inami, left, and her boyfriend, Akiksuke Tsutsui, playing a game on a train headed to Kyoto to meet Tsutsui's family. March, 1959. JOHN DOMINIS—THE LIFE PICTURE COLLECTION/GETTY IMAGES  A young couple out on a date in Tokyo. 1959 JOHN DOMINISÑTHE LIFE PICTURE COLLECTION/GETTY IMAGES  Young couple visiting a bridge near the Imperial Palace. 1959 JOHN DOMINIS—THE LIFE PICTURE COLLECTION/GETTY IMAGES  A young couple takes a "selfie" on a self-timer on their camera. 1959 JOHN DOMINIS—THE LIFE PICTURE COLLECTION/GETTY IMAGES  Chiyoko Inami, left, and her boyfriend, Akiksuke Tsutsui, right, sharing an intimate moment on a date. March, 1959. JOHN DOMINIS—THE LIFE PICTURE COLLECTION/GETTY IMAGES  A young couple making out on a date in a park in Tokyo. 1959. 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