--- description: Long lines for women's restrooms are the result of a history that favors men’s bodies title: I'm Tired of Waiting for 'Potty Parity' image: https://static.time.com/v3/assets/bltea6093859af6183b/blt0db5a242b7d012b3/698778160b72e3bbd36dcede/men-women-bathroom.jpg?branch=production&width=3840&quality=75&auto=webp&crop=16:9 ---  * [Ideas](/section/ideas/) ## Ideas Update your preferences in [Account Settings](/account/preferences/) Close * [women](/tag/women/) ## women Update your preferences in [Account Settings](/account/preferences/) Close # The Everyday Sexism of Women Waiting in Public Toilet Lines by [Soraya Chemaly](/author/soraya-chemaly/) ## Soraya Chemaly Update your preferences in [Account Settings](/account/preferences/) Close Jan 5, 2015 10:06 PM CUT  Close up of bathroom symbol Close up of bathroom symbolAdam Gault—Getty Images by [Soraya Chemaly](/author/soraya-chemaly/) ## Soraya Chemaly Update your preferences in [Account Settings](/account/preferences/) Close Jan 5, 2015 10:06 PM CUT If you’re a woman, chances are you’ve a) spent time fidgeting in a long line waiting to use a public toilet, b) delayed a bodily function because you don’t want to or haven’t the time to waste standing in line to use a public toilet, c) considered sneaking into a men’s room—illegal in some places, or d) cursed loudly because of all of the above. Faced with a long restroom line that spiraled up and around a circular stairwell at a recent museum visit, I opted not to wait. Why do we put up with this? This isn’t a minor pet peeve, but a serious question. Despite years of “potty parity” laws, women are still forced to stand in lines at malls, schools, stadiums, concerts, fair grounds, theme parks, and other crowded public spaces. This is frustrating, uncomfortable, and, in some circumstances, humiliating. It’s also a form of discrimination, as it disproportionately affects women. After counting the women, I tweeted, “Dear @britishmuseum there are FIFTY women and girls standing in line for the loo while the men’s room has zero line [#everydaysexism](http://usa.everydaysexism.com/ "undefined").” Immediately, people responded with the suggestion that women use the men’s room. But even more responses were defensive, along the lines of “How on god’s green earth did you arrive at the conclusion that this was sexist?” Let me count the ways. Women need to use bathrooms more often and for longer periods of time because: we sit to urinate (urinals effectively double the space in men’s rooms), we menstruate, we are responsible for reproducing the species (which makes us pee more), we continue to have greater responsibility for children (who have to use bathrooms with us), and we breastfeed (frequently in grotty bathroom stalls). Additionally, women tend to wear more [binding](http://www.lifesucksinastraplessbra.com/2011/10/12/a-day-in-the-life-of-a-woman-wearing-spanx/ "undefined") and cumbersome clothes, whereas men’s clothing provides significantly speedier access. But in a classic example of the difference between surface “equality” and genuine equity, many public restrooms continue to be facilities that are equal in physical space, while favoring men’s bodies, experiences, and needs. Legislation to address the design and provision of public restrooms in new construction often [requires](http://www.gpo.gov/fdsys/pkg/CHRG-111hhrg63145/html/CHRG-111hhrg63145.htm "undefined") more space for women’s rooms. But that has hardly made a dent in many of our [oldest and most used public spaces](http://blogs.villagevoice.com/runninscared/2014/12/holy%5Fcrap%5Fpenn%5Fstation%5Fhas%5F3%5Fplaces%5Fto%5Fpoop.php "undefined"). This is especially true in powerful institutions, such as schools and government complexes, where old buildings, and their gendered legacies, dominate. In the United States, for example, women in the House of Representatives didn’t get a bathroom near the Speaker’s Lobby [until 2011](http://www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/style/women-in-the-house-get-a-restroom/2011/07/28/gIQAFgdwfI%5Fstory.html "undefined"). Prior to that, the nearest women’s room was so far away that the time it took women to get to the bathroom and back exceeded session break times. The nearby [men’s room](http://www.mcclatchydc.com/2006/12/21/15374/as-house-gets-its-first-female.html "undefined"), meanwhile, had a fireplace, a shoeshine stand, and televised floor proceedings. Additionally, old building codes required more space for men, as women’s roles were restricted almost entirely to the private sphere. That reality has often confused the “is” with the “ought.” As scholar [Judith Plaskow](http://academic.research.microsoft.com/Author/45915683/judith-plaskow "undefined") [noted](http://65.54.113.26/Publication/44186481 "undefined") in a paper on toilets and social justice, “Not only does the absence of women’s bathrooms signify the exclusion of women from certain professions and halls of power, but it also has functioned as an explicit argument against hiring women or admitting them into previously all-male organizations.” She cites examples, including Yale Medical School and Harvard Law School, both of which claimed that a lack of public facilities made it impossible for women to be admitted as students. Schools like the Virginia Military Institute used this excuse as recently as 1996. When [spaces are changed](http://femlegaltheory.blogspot.com/2012/09/the-right-to-pee.html "undefined") so that everyone experiences equal waiting time, backlash has been quick. In 2004, for [example](http://www.highbeam.com/doc/1P2-1547090.html "undefined"), new rules resulted in men waiting in line to use the bathrooms at Soldier Field in Chicago. They complained until five women’s rooms were converted to men’s. The result was that, once again, women’s wait times doubled. No protests have yielded a commensurate response to reduce them. That women are socialized to quietly deal with physical discomfort, [pain](http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/22225969 "undefined"), and a [casual disregard](http://www.nytimes.com/2013/03/17/opinion/sunday/women-and-the-treatment-of-pain.html?pagewanted=all "undefined") for their bodily needs is overlooked in the statements, “No one is making them wait,” or “Why don’t they demand changes?” Last year, when writer Jessica Valenti made the sensible argument that tampons should be free in public bathrooms, the way toilet paper is, it [resulted](http://www.slate.com/blogs/xx%5Ffactor/2014/08/11/jessica%5Fvalenti%5Fsays%5Ftampons%5Fshould%5Fbe%5Ffree%5Fpeople%5Ffreak%5Fout.html "undefined") in a misogynistic hate-fest. In the meantime, the male-centeredness of our restroom standards can also be seen in the constant [stream (no pun intended) of products](https://books.google.com/books?id=TtWE8SjXnZYC&pg=PA217&lpg=PA217&dq=Peeing+Standing+Up+-+the+Last+Bastion+of+Masculinity?&source=bl&ots=z5ucy1pzFy&sig=njEL%5Ft-8jlak%5FvDkk1fG4wpy1zk&hl=en&sa=X&ei=PeamVKLtBsvkggSfuISYDg&ved=0CC8Q6AEwAg#v=onepage&q=Peeing%20Standing%20Up%20-%20the%20Last%20Bastion%20of%20Masculinity%3F&f=false "undefined") cheerily encouraging women to expand their [excreting options](http://www.go-girl.com/ "undefined"), by peeing, for example, “like a man.” On the other hand, attempts to encourage men to emulate women in equal measure, sitting to urinate, are seen as [degrading assaults](http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/worldnews/europe/germany/1469694/German-men-told-they-can-no-longer-stand-and-deliver.html "undefined") on masculinity. This growing trend, a more sanitary and less expensive option in public restrooms (because less cleaning is required), [horrifies](http://www.telegraph.co.uk/men/thinking-man/10555436/Im-taking-a-stand-against-peeing-sitting-down.html "undefined") many people. It matters that 83% of registered [architects](http://www.aia.org/press/AIAS077761 "undefined") and an eerily similar [percentage](http://www.cawp.rutgers.edu/fast%5Ffacts/levels%5Fof%5Foffice/Current%5FNumbers.php "undefined") of legislators in the U.S. are the very people least likely to have to wait in lines. As urban planner Salma Samar Damluji put it during a 2013 [discussion](http://bwaf.org/design-and-urban-planning-direly-needs-womens-input-says-a-cgi-panel/ "undefined") about why women’s input is so important to designing public space, effective urban planning is “not a luxury, it’s a basic need.” In the United States, laws are rapidly [changing](http://www.nbcphiladelphia.com/news/local/LGBT-Gender-Neutral-Restrooms-206932591.html "undefined"), largely due to effective LGTBQ advocacy and a generational sea change in how gender is understood. Organic solutions, particularly at high schools and [colleges](http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/07/18/gender-neutral-bathrooms-colleges%5Fn%5F5597362.html "undefined"), include [combinations](http://www.citylab.com/design/2014/08/public-bathrooms-are-gender-battlegrounds-mostly-due-to-terrible-signage/375621/ "undefined") of male/female facilities alongside gender-neutral ones. Single-stall [designs](http://www.phlush.org/public-restroom-planning/public-restroom-design-principles/ "undefined") that can be used by everyone, such as airplane bathrooms and family/handicapped facilities are the most space and time efficient, and least discriminatory. They are also philosophically palatable to a broad spectrum, as they represent not so much a contested segregations or de-gendering of restroom spaces, as much as a rethinking of privacy and the uses of public space. Women aren’t standing in lines because we bond over toilet paper pattern or because we’re narcissistic and vain. We’re standing in line because our bodies, like those of trans and queer people, have been historically shamed, ignored, and deemed unworthy of care and acknowledgement. We shouldn’t have to wait or postpone having these needs fairly met in public space. _Soraya Chemaly is a media critic and activist whose work focuses on the role of gender in politics, religion and popular culture. 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