--- description: Says she was never physically harmed, but has "felt abused" title: Jennifer Lopez Talks Abuse in New Book True Love image: https://static.time.com/v3/assets/bltea6093859af6183b/blt40a843592ee11e2b/698763572dce0102c39db360/jennifer-lopez2.jpg?branch=production&width=3840&quality=75&auto=webp&crop=16:9 ---  * [Living](/tag/time-section-living/) ## Living Update your preferences in [Account Settings](/account/preferences/) Close # Jennifer Lopez Says She 'Felt Abused' in Past Relationships by [Maya Rhodan](/author/maya-rhodan/) ## Maya Rhodan Update your preferences in [Account Settings](/account/preferences/) Close Oct 30, 2014 12:02 AM CUT  Jennifer Lopez attends the Versace show as part of Paris Fashion Week - Haute Couture Fall/Winter 2014-2015 on July 6, 2014 in Paris. Jennifer Lopez attends the Versace show as part of Paris Fashion Week - Haute Couture Fall/Winter 2014-2015 on July 6, 2014 in Paris.Pascal Le Segretain—Getty Images by [Maya Rhodan](/author/maya-rhodan/) ## Maya Rhodan Update your preferences in [Account Settings](/account/preferences/) Close Oct 30, 2014 12:02 AM CUT Jennifer Lopez [says in a new book](http://www.people.com/article/jennifer-lopez-abused-new-book-true-love "undefined") that she has “felt abused” in past relationships, even if she’s never been physically harmed like other women. “I’ve never gotten a black eye or a busted lip,” the singer writes in her upcoming book _True Love_, which is previewed in _People_ magazine. “But I’ve felt abused in one way or another: mentally, emotionally, verbally.” “I would never go into specifics about my relationships, and I don’t,” Lopez tells _People_ of the book. “But the idea was that I learned something.” The 45-year-old opens up about her past trials in love, including her three marriages and several high-profile courtships. “You have to take control and you have to set up your own boundaries,” Lopez tells _People_ of what she’s learned in relationships. ” You have the power to change it.” [Read more at _People_](http://www.people.com/article/jennifer-lopez-abused-new-book-true-love "undefined") ```json [{"@context":"https://schema.org","@type":"NewsArticle","@id":"https://time.com/3547284/jennifer-lopez-abuse-true-love-book/","mainEntityOfPage":{"@type":"WebPage","@id":"https://time.com/3547284/jennifer-lopez-abuse-true-love-book/"},"headline":"Jennifer Lopez Says She 'Felt Abused' in Past Relationships","datePublished":"2014-10-30T00:02:23.000Z","dateModified":"2026-04-13T08:56:14.290Z","description":"\"I've never gotten a black eye or a busted lip”","url":"https://time.com/3547284/jennifer-lopez-abuse-true-love-book/","keywords":["Living","celebrities","abuse","relationships","domestic violence"],"thumbnailUrl":"https://static.time.com/v3/assets/bltea6093859af6183b/blt40a843592ee11e2b/698763572dce0102c39db360/jennifer-lopez2.jpg?branch=production&width=1200&quality=75&auto=webp&crop=1200:675&height=675","author":[{"@type":"Person","name":"Maya Rhodan","jobTitle":null,"url":"https://time.com/author/maya-rhodan/"}],"articleSection":"","image":[{"@type":"ImageObject","url":"https://static.time.com/v3/assets/bltea6093859af6183b/blt40a843592ee11e2b/698763572dce0102c39db360/jennifer-lopez2.jpg?branch=production&width=1200&quality=75&auto=webp&crop=1200:675&height=675","width":1200,"height":675,"headline":"Jennifer Lopez attends the Versace show as part of Paris Fashion Week - Haute Couture Fall/Winter 2014-2015 on July 6, 2014 in Paris.","caption":"Jennifer Lopez attends the Versace show as part of Paris Fashion Week - Haute Couture Fall/Winter 2014-2015 on July 6, 2014 in Paris.","creditText":"Pascal Le Segretain—Getty Images","representativeOfPage":true}],"publisher":{"@type":"Organization","name":"Time","url":"https://time.com/","logo":{"@type":"ImageObject","url":"https://time.com/images/logo.png","width":528,"height":156},"foundingDate":"March 3, 1923","sameAs":["https://www.facebook.com/time","https://www.instagram.com/time/?hl=en","https://twitter.com/time","https://www.pinterest.com/timemagazine"]}},{"@context":"https://schema.org","@type":"BreadcrumbList","itemListElement":[{"@type":"ListItem","position":1,"item":{"@id":"/tag/time-section-living/","name":"Living"}},{"@type":"ListItem","position":2,"item":{"@id":"https://time.com/3547284/jennifer-lopez-abuse-true-love-book/","name":"Jennifer Lopez Says She 'Felt Abused' in Past Relationships"}}]}] ```