Jennifer Garner, who stars in a new movie about the perils of the Internet called Men, Women & Children, has nothing particularly against porn. She just doesn’t want her three kids to see it online before she’s had a chance to talk to them about sex. “I really hope my kids don’t run across stuff online that could appear violent to them,” she said in a recent interview with TIME.
Garner — who admitted to taking a pretty disciplined approach to bringing up Violet, 9, Seraphina, 5 and Sam, 2 — said she’s done a lot of thinking about how to teach her kids, especially her daughters, about sex. Even after attending talks, reading books and talking to experts, she’s still not quite sure about the right approach. Her own mother and father, whom she called “the best parents in the world,” have still never talked to her about it. “I’m waiting for The Talk, mom, dad,” she joked in the interview, which TIME subscribers can read here.