--- title: Living With a College Roommate: Apps Make it Less Fun description: A host of new apps are making roommate selection less random than ever. 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It is a free newsletter available at time.com/newsletters. ### Sources * TIME Newsletters: [time.com/newsletters](/c/time-nl-worth-2026q3/newsletters?i=7e0c978b-0781-4f54-937b-da2beaec7ef5&cr=time-nl-worth-2026q3-v1)  by [Jessica Bennett](https://time.com/author/jessica-bennett/)  ## Jessica Bennett Sep 2, 2014 5:28 PM UTC  Roommates eating takeout on move in day Roommates eating takeout on move in day Getty Images  by [Jessica Bennett](https://time.com/author/jessica-bennett/)  ## Jessica Bennett Sep 2, 2014 5:28 PM UTC I met my best friends in the world on Craigslist. I also lived with a bulimic, a woman who taped “Bush/Cheney 2000” posters all over our dorm room, and one who communicated only through passive aggressive Post-It notes on the house refrigerator. There was the roommate whose bedroom didn’t have a door — only a curtain — and whose boyfriend I saw naked more times than my own. Then there were the two best friends who happily welcomed me in, sweet as pie, only for me to discover I’d signed a yearlong lease to become the buffer in their roommate feud. Roommate A had taken all of the kitchen supplies — pots, pans, silverware, dishes — and locked them, with a padlock, inside her bedroom. (Maybe that’s why I still don’t cook.) For decades, the [random college roommate](http://well.blogs.nytimes.com/2014/02/24/how-a-college-roommate-can-affect-your-child/?%5Fphp=true&%5Ftype=blogs&%5Fr=0) has been a right of passage. Every year around this time, hoards of students show up to dorm rooms across the country, racing — with parents in tow — to claim the side of the room with the window. But in the age of social media, the randomness of that experience has been all but erased. As [Rolling Stone reported](http://www.rollingstone.com/culture/features/the-new-science-of-pairing-college-roommates-20140819) last month, today’s college students are using apps to find harmonious bunk matches. [RoomSync](http://www.roomsync.com/), a Facebook app reportedly used at more than 60 campuses, crunches data based on questionnaire responses to suggest a roster of choices. The unthinkable has finally happened: college students are suddenly able to avoid the awkwardness of getting thrown together with the last person they’d ever choose as a companion. And yet, as Stephanie Wu, the author of a new collection of essays called [The Roommates](http://www.amazon.com/The-Roommates-Friendship-Disturbingly-Quarters/dp/1250051452) puts it, “There’s something to be said about being squeezed into very small quarters for a long period of time.” There are lessons learned — about love, rivalry and friendship. You learn to negotiate. You learn to move your own boundaries. And for every horror story, there is a tale of best friends and overcoming odds. I asked my senior year college roommates — still some of my best friends — to help me come up with a list of things we all learned from the old way of doing things. Here are our top 10: **1\. How to Stage An Intervention** Going through a bottle of mustard in a single day just isn’t OK, OK? Even if you really love the taste. **2\. Clothes Exist for a Reason** No, really. Can you tell your boyfriend to put some on? **3.** **Sharing Closets Only Works When Both of You Have Equally Great Wardrobes** Borrowing each other’s clothes is best left to _Sweet Valley High_. **4\. Teamwork Is Necessary** Specifically, when you must remove a screaming mouse trapped inside the coils of your oven with your bare hands. **5\. The Bathroom and Its Mysteries** There will always be hair in the tub and yet it will belong to no one. The layers of soap scum will eventually come to resemble the faces of roommates past. Your most important heart-to-hearts will end up taking place across the six inches between the toilet and the shower. **6\. Patience Is a Virtue** You know the roommate who always swears she’ll be ready in “just 15 minutes”? Get ready to uncork some Yellow Tail and wait. **7\. Binge-Watching Should be Offered for Credit** There’s nothing like a pleather a pleather couch, a box of Wheat Thins and animated feminist discourse over Carrie’s relationship with Mr. Big. **8\. It’s Possible to Know More About Your Roommates’ Intimate Parts Than What’s Going on in the World** Periods, sex partners, STD results: the dorm room as OB-GYN office. **9\. Your Friends Will Always Be There to Listen (Because they Have to Be)** An unwritten rule of room-sharing is that I get to crawl into your bed after an epically disastrous night and have you help me relive the gory details. **10\. It Can Always Be Worse** Even when your patience is strained beyond what you thought possible, just be thankful you’re not living with that roommate down the hall. Need a reminder? Just take a flip through Wu’s “The Roommates.” From mental disorders to harassment to cleaning up sewage, there’s always a roommate story worse than your own. _Bennett is a contributing columnist at_ TIME.com _covering the intersection of gender, sexuality, business and pop culture. A former_Newsweek _senior writer and executive editor of Tumblr, she is a contributing editor for Sheryl Sandberg’s women’s foundation, Lean In_ _. 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