--- title: How to Read Body Language Like an Expert description: How important is body language? 55% of what you convey when you speak comes from body language. 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The Nantucket Project: How Storytelling is Getting in The Way of Your Success_ by [Eric Barker](https://time.com/author/eric-barker/) ## Eric Barker Aug 18, 2014 4:01 AM UTC by [Eric Barker](https://time.com/author/eric-barker/) ## Eric Barker Aug 18, 2014 4:01 AM UTC ## How important is body language? [55%](http://www.bakadesuyo.com/whats-more-important-body-language-tone-of-vo) of what you convey when you speak comes from body language. In fact, when you’re speaking about something emotional [only about 7% of what the other person hears has to do with the words you use](http://www.bakadesuyo.com/whats-more-important-what-you-say-or-how-you). More often than not you can tell what a politician thinks about an issue [just by watching their hands](http://www.bakadesuyo.com/can-you-tell-what-a-politician-thinks-about-a). Psychopaths can tell who would be a good victim [just by watching them walk](http://www.bakadesuyo.com/can-psychopaths-assess-vulnerability-just-by). In five minutes you can often evaluate people with [approximately 70% accuracy](http://www.bakadesuyo.com/is-five-minutes-all-it-takes-to-size-someone)… but obviously we’re wrong often, and that 30% can be very costly. **_What can the research teach us about better reading people’s body language?_** ## **What You’re Doing Wrong** In [The Silent Language of Leaders: How Body Language Can Help–or Hurt–How You Lead](http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0470876360/ref=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=0470876360&linkCode=as2&tag=spacforrent-20) the author points out a number of common errors people make. Here’s how I interpreted the findings: * **Ignoring context**: Crossed arms don’t mean as much if the room is cold or the chair they’re sitting in doesn’t have armrests. Everything has to pass the common sense test given the environment. * **Not looking for clusters**: One of the biggest errors people make is looking for one single tell. That’s great in movies about poker players but in real life it’s a consistent grouping of actions (sweating, touching the face, and stuttering _together_) that is really going to tell you something. * **Not getting a baseline**: If someone is always jumpy, jumpiness doesn’t tell you anything. If someone is always jumpy and they suddenly stop moving — HELLO. * **Not being conscious of biases**: If you already like or dislike the person it’s going to affect your judgment. And if people [compliment](http://www.bakadesuyo.com/what-two-things-can-help-you-win-over-someone) you, are[similar](http://www.bakadesuyo.com/whats-the-key-to-being-liked-and-being-more-i) to you, are [attractive](http://www.bakadesuyo.com/whats-more-likely-to-land-you-a-job-a-referra)… these can all sway you, unconsciously. I know, you don’t fall for those tricks. Well, the biggest bias of all is thinking you’re [unbiased](http://www.bakadesuyo.com/which-people-are-most-likely-to-give-in-when). ### 5 Horrible Habits You Need to Stop Right Now  Do Not Email First Thing in the Morning or Last Thing at Night “The former scrambles your priorities and all your plans for the day and the latter just gives you insomnia,” says Ferriss, who insists “email can wait until 10am” or after you check off at least one substantive to-do list item. Chris Pecoraro—Getty Images  Do Not Agree to Meetings or Calls With No Clear Agenda or End Time “If the desired outcome is defined clearly… and there’s an agenda listing topics–questions to cover–no meeting or call should last more than 30 minutes,” claims Ferriss, so “request them in advance so you can ‘best prepare and make good use of our time together.'” Sam Edwards—Getty Images/Caiaimage  Do Not Check Email Constantly Batch it and check it only periodically at set times (Ferriss goes for twice a day). Your inbox is analogous to a cocaine pellet dispenser, says Ferriss. Don’t be an addict. Tools like strategic use of the auto responder and Boomerang can help. Jetta Productions—Getty Images  Do Not Carry a Digital Leash 24/7 At least one day a week leave you smartphone somewhere where you can’t get easy access to it. If you’re gasping, you’re probably the type of person that most needs to do kick this particular habit. by nacoki ( MEDIA ARC )—Getty Images/Flickr RF  Do Not Let People Ramble Sounds harsh, but it’s necessary, Ferriss believes. “Small talk takes up big time,” he says, so when people start to tell you about their weekends, cut them off politely with something like “I’m in the middle of something, but what’s up?” But be aware, not everyone agrees with this one (and certainly not in every situation), and you may want to pay particularly close attention to norms around chit chat when traveling internationally. Reza Estakhrian—Getty Images ## **What To Focus On** What signals can and should you trust when trying to get a “read” on someone? They need to be **unconscious behaviors that are not easily controlled and convey a clear message.** In [Honest Signals: How They Shape Our World](http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0262515121/ref=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=0262515121&linkCode=as2&tag=spacforrent-20&l=as2&o=1&a=0262515121), the authors point out three to keep your eye on: * **Speech mimicry and** **behavioral** **mimicry:** Are they using the same words you use? Speaking at a similar speed and tone? Are they sitting the way you sit? Is a subtle, unconscious game of follow-the-leader going on? This is a sign the other person feels emotionally in sync with you. It _can_ be faked but that’s rare and difficult to pull off consistently across a conversation. * **Activity level:** As a general rule, activity levels indicate interest and excitement. (Often when a woman is bouncing her foot during a date [it means she’s interested in the man she’s with.](http://www.bakadesuyo.com/can-you-tell-whether-a-woman-is-interested-in)**)** * **Consistency of emphasis and timing:** This is a sign of focus and control. Someone who is less consistent is less sure of themselves and more open to influence. ## **Specifics To Look For** Contextually vetted, baseline adjusted clusters are your best bet… but research has shown some specifics are often decent indicators. Crossed legs are a very bad sign during negotiations. Via [The Silent Language of Leaders: How Body Language Can Help–or Hurt–How You Lead](http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0470876360/ref=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=0470876360&linkCode=as2&tag=spacforrent-20): **Crossed legs can have a devastating effect on a negotiation.** In [How to Read a Person Like a Book](http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0757003141/ref=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=0757003141&linkCode=as2&tag=spacforrent-20), authors Gerard I. Nierenberg and Henry H. Calero reported that the number of times settlements were reached increased greatly when both negotiators had uncrossed their legs. In fact, they found that **out of two thousand videotaped transactions, not one resulted in a settlement when even one of the negotiators had his or her legs crossed.** There’s a consistent cluster that has been seen among people who are trying to cheat you. Via [Wray Herbert](http://www.psychologicalscience.org/index.php/news/were-only-human/how-to-spot-a-scoundrel-fidgeting-and-trust.html), author of [On Second Thought: Outsmarting Your Mind’s Hard-Wired Habits](http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0307461645/ref=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl?ie=UTF8&tag=spacforrent-20&linkCode=as2&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=0307461645): **Again and again, it was a cluster of four cues: hand touching, face touching, crossing arms, and leaning away. None of these cues foretold deceit by itself, but together they transformed into a highly accurate signal. And the more often the participants used this particular cluster of gestures, the less trustworthy they were in the subsequent financial exchange.** Who should you trust? Look for people who are [consistently emotionally expressive](http://www.bakadesuyo.com/how-can-you-know-who-to-trust) in their body language: **These results suggest that cooperators may be more emotionally expressive than non-cooperators. We speculate that emotional expressivity can be a more reliable signal of cooperativeness than the display of positive emotion alone.** And look at people’s hands. Palm down gestures indicate power. Palm up shows submission. The New York Times cites Adam Kendon, author of [Gesture: Visible Action as Utterance](http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0521542936/ref=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl?ie=UTF8&tag=spacforrent-20&linkCode=as2&camp=217145&creative=399373&creativeASIN=0521542936), on the deeper meaning of hand positions: **Gestures of the Open Hand Prone or “palm down” family are used in contexts where something is being denied, negated, interrupted or stopped, whether explicitly or by implication. Open hand Supine (or “palm up”) family gestures, on the other hand, are used in contexts where the speaker is offering, giving or showing something or requesting the reception of something…** Keep in mind that men and women differ in body language. For instance, they flirt differently: Via [Fascinate: Your 7 Triggers to Persuasion and Captivation](http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0061714704/ref=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=0061714704&linkCode=as2&tag=spacforrent-20): **A female begins fascinating a male by smiling at him, raising her brows to make her eyes appear wider and more childlike, quickly lowering her lids while tucking her chin slightly down, in an effort to bring him closer. After averting her gaze to the side, she will, within moments and almost without exception, put her hands on or near her mouth and giggle, lick her lips, or thrust out her chest while gazing at the object of her intended affection. And it’s consistent, regardless of language, socioeconomic status, or religious upbringing. For men, says Rodgers, the fascination ritual is less submissive but no less standardized. He’ll puff out his chest, jut his chin, arch his back, gesture with his hands and arms, and swagger in dominant motions to draw attention to his power…** ## **How To Get Better At Reading Body Language** First, **pay attention.** Sounds obvious but you’re probably not doing it consistently throughout the conversation. Dynamics change, especially when you’re dealing with someone who is actively trying to deceive you. Unless they’re _very_ good, inconsistencies will arise (“leakage”) and you can get insight into how they really feel. You’ll improve dramatically by addressing the four weaknesses pointed out in [The Silent Language of Leaders:](http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0470876360/ref=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=0470876360&linkCode=as2&tag=spacforrent-20) * **Consider context**: _Should someone in this situation be acting like this?_ * **Look for clusters of actions, not isolated ones**: _All three of those behaviors are associated with…?_ * **Get a baseline**: _How do they normally act?_ * **Be aware of your biases**: _Are you tempted to cut them slack and they haven’t started speaking yet?_ Your abilities will make a quantum leap if you realize that body language is part of a bigger context and a bigger cluster and you start monitoring the other facets of behavioral interaction: voice, appearance, clothing, etc. These can help you evaluate the whole package: * What does [clothing](http://www.bakadesuyo.com/do-clothes-make-the-man-can-you-really-dress) tell you? How about [shoes](http://www.bakadesuyo.com/can-you-tell-a-lot-about-someone-just-from-lo)? * What does someone’s [voice](http://www.bakadesuyo.com/what-is-your-voice-telling-others-about-you) tell [you](http://www.bakadesuyo.com/5-things-you-didnt-know-about-your-voice)? * What does a [face tell you](http://www.bakadesuyo.com/5-things-you-can-tell-about-someone-just-by-l)? How about a [quick glance](http://www.bakadesuyo.com/5-things-you-can-tell-about-someone-after-jus)? * What are 10 instances when you should [trust your gut](http://www.bakadesuyo.com/what-are-ten-instances-when-you-should-defini)? Related posts: * [**_How To Be Resilient: 8 Steps To Success When Life Gets Hard_**](http://www.bakadesuyo.com/2014/07/how-to-be-resilient/) * [**_What 10 things should you do every day to improve your life?_**](http://www.bakadesuyo.com/2012/05/what-10-things-should-you-do-every-day-to-imp/) * [**_How To Make Your Life Better By Sending Five Simple Emails_**](http://www.bakadesuyo.com/2013/07/make-your-life-better/) **Join over 90,000 readers and get a free weekly update via email** [**here**](http://eepurl.com/o6uAD)**.** _This piece originally appeared on_ [_Barking_](http://www.bakadesuyo.com/)[ _Up the Wrong Tree_](http://www.bakadesuyo.com/)_._ _Read next:_ [_6 Body Language Mistakes You Don’t Know You’re Making_](http://time.com/3686789/body-language-mistakes/?xid=time%5Freadnext) ```json [{"@context":"https://schema.org","@type":"OpinionNewsArticle","@id":"https://time.com/3117238/4-secrets-to-reading-body-language-like-an-expert/","mainEntityOfPage":{"@type":"WebPage","@id":"https://time.com/3117238/4-secrets-to-reading-body-language-like-an-expert/"},"headline":"4 Secrets to Reading Body Language Like an Expert","datePublished":"2014-08-18T04:01:14.000Z","dateModified":"2026-08-04T07:44:24.247Z","description":"How important is body language? 55% of what you convey when you speak comes from body language. 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