--- title: Science of Sexy: 5 Things That Can Make You Irresistible description: Humor Is Sexy Humor is attractive to men and women — but not in the same way. 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Dr. Ruth and others share their stories_ by [Eric Barker](https://time.com/author/eric-barker/) ## Eric Barker Jun 12, 2014 4:01 AM UTC  Party Party Izabela Habur—Getty Images/Vetta by [Eric Barker](https://time.com/author/eric-barker/) ## Eric Barker Jun 12, 2014 4:01 AM UTC ## Humor Is Sexy [Humor](http://www.bakadesuyo.com/2012/10/whydowelaugh/) is attractive to men and women — but not in the same way. The research shows **women like men who make them laugh, and men like women who laugh at their jokes.** Via [Mating Intelligence Unleashed: The Role of the Mind in Sex, Dating, and Love](http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0195396855/ref=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=0195396855&linkCode=as2&tag=spacforrent-20): --- > “” --- Why is humor sexy? [**Funny people**](http://www.bakadesuyo.com/2011/03/why-do-women-find-funny-men-attractive/) **are smart, and smart is sexy.** Via [Mating Intelligence Unleashed: The Role of the Mind in Sex, Dating, and Love](http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0195396855/ref=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=0195396855&linkCode=as2&tag=spacforrent-20): --- > “” --- **So ladies can boost their attractiveness by chuckling a bit more.** **And guys, you can garner more attention by learning how to make women laugh.** Via [Mating Intelligence Unleashed: The Role of the Mind in Sex, Dating, and Love](http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0195396855/ref=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=0195396855&linkCode=as2&tag=spacforrent-20): --- > “” --- ## Being Liked Is Sexy **Want to increase someone’s interest in you? Might be worthwhile to make sure they find out you’re interested in them.** Via [How to Make Someone Fall in Love With You in 90 Minutes or Less](http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0761151621/ref=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=0761151621&linkCode=as2&tag=spacforrent-20): --- > “” --- This idea is affirmed by studying the effectiveness of **“**[**playing hard to get**](http://www.bakadesuyo.com/2012/02/whats-the-best-way-to-play-hard-to-get/)**.” What’s the best way to play that game?** **Establish that you’re hard to get in general — but very enthusiastic about the person you’re with.** Via Richard Wiseman’s excellent book [59 Seconds: Change Your Life in Under a Minute](http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0307474860/ref=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl?ie=UTF8&tag=spacforrent-20&linkCode=as2&camp=217153&creative=399349&creativeASIN=0307474860): --- > “” --- ## What You Talk About Is Sexy Random conversation with someone you’re interested in can be a bad idea. Why? [What you talk about can matter — a lot](http://www.bakadesuyo.com/2013/08/first-date-conversation/). **Emotional, personal information exchange promotes powerful feelings of connection.** Via [Snoop: What Your Stuff Says About You](http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0465013821/ref=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl?ie=UTF8&tag=spacforrent-20&linkCode=as2&camp=217145&creative=399369&creativeASIN=0465013821): --- > “” --- How effective is it? **In under an hour it can create a connection stronger than a lifelong friendship.** Via [Click: The Magic of Instant Connections](http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0385529066/ref=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=0385529066&linkCode=as2&tag=spacforrent-20): --- > “” --- (You can read the most effective things to discuss [here](http://www.bakadesuyo.com/is-there-a-shortcut-to-bonding-with-a-romanti).) That said, don’t get so nervous about your words that you can’t speak… **When a woman is very attracted to a man, whether his pickup line is good or not doesn’t matter at all.** Via [Mating Intelligence Unleashed: The Role of the Mind in Sex, Dating, and Love](http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0195396855/ref=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=0195396855&linkCode=as2&tag=spacforrent-20): --- > “” --- ## Personality Is Sexy [Conscientiousness](http://www.bakadesuyo.com/2012/11/personality-trait-determine-future/) is predictive of a number of very important positive elements in life. **Agreeable, conscientious people make better spouses and parents — but disagreeable, non-conscientious people have more sex partners.** The former invest in quality, and it seems like the latter make up the difference in, well, _volume_. **Looking to settle down? Check if that person has their ducks in a row, is organized and easy to get along with. That’s marriage material.** Via [Mating Intelligence Unleashed: The Role of the Mind in Sex, Dating, and Love](http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0195396855/ref=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=0195396855&linkCode=as2&tag=spacforrent-20): --- > “” --- ## How They Make You Feel Is Sexy Research shows **we don’t really fall in love with a person — we fall in love with how we feel when we’re with them.** This is best demonstrated by the concept of [emotional contagion](http://www.bakadesuyo.com/2011/07/whats-the-key-to-a-fantastic-first-date/): we’re bad at telling what made us feel a certain way, but good about making associations. **Feeling excited, stimulated and aroused is often associated with the people around us, even if they’re not the cause.** This can be taken to extremes: [having someone try to kill you](http://www.bakadesuyo.com/2012/04/would-you-be-attracted-to-someone-trying-to-k/) can actually make you more attracted to them. Via [The Heart of Social Psychology: A Backstage View of a Passionate Science](http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0669211443/ref=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl?ie=UTF8&tag=spacforrent-20&linkCode=as2&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=0669211443): --- > “” --- Some might find the notion that we’re just “feeling junkies” un-romantic, but[this idea can save relationships and prevent divorce](http://www.bakadesuyo.com/2012/03/what-simple-thing-kills-many-relationships/). **By** [**doing things that rekindle those exciting feelings, love can be restored**](http://www.bakadesuyo.com/2010/04/how-to-quickly-and-easily-improve-your-marria/)**:** --- > “” --- ## Love At First Sight Is Sexy There’s still a lot about love and sex that can’t be easily quantified. Studies show “love at first sight” is real. Via [How to Make Someone Fall in Love With You in 90 Minutes or Less](http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0761151621/ref=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=0761151621&linkCode=as2&tag=spacforrent-20): --- > “” --- **How can you increase the chance love at first sight happens to you? By believing in it.** ## What’s Next? Other posts you should read on love, sex, and romance: * [How To Be A Good Kisser – 10 Tips From Scientific Research](http://www.bakadesuyo.com/2013/08/how-to-be-a-good-kisser/) * [How To Flirt — Backed By Scientific Research](http://www.bakadesuyo.com/2013/10/how-to-flirt-scientifically/) * [How To Make Someone Fall In Love With You](http://www.bakadesuyo.com/2013/07/make-someone-fall-in-love-with-you/) * [Recipe For A Happy Marriage: The 7 Scientific Secrets](http://www.bakadesuyo.com/2013/10/recipe-for-a-happy-marriage-2/) **Join 45K+ readers. Get a free weekly update via email** [**here**](http://eepurl.com/o6uAD)**.** **_This piece originally appeared on_** [**_Barking Up the Wrong Tree_**](http://www.bakadesuyo.com/)**_._** _Read next:_ [_5 Things Your Clothes Are Saying About You_](http://time.com/3600204/clothes-say-about-you/?iid=time%5Freadnext) [_Download TIME’s mobile app for iOS to have your world explained wherever you go_](https://itunes.apple.com/us/app/time-mobile/id328218429) ```json [{"@context":"https://schema.org","@type":"OpinionNewsArticle","@id":"https://time.com/2859728/science-of-sexy-5-things-that-can-make-you-irresistible/","mainEntityOfPage":{"@type":"WebPage","@id":"https://time.com/2859728/science-of-sexy-5-things-that-can-make-you-irresistible/"},"headline":"Science of Sexy: 5 Things That Can Make You Irresistible","datePublished":"2014-06-12T04:01:34.000Z","dateModified":"2026-08-04T07:45:35.223Z","description":"Humor Is Sexy Humor is attractive to men and women — but not in the same way. 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