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By Eric Barker
June 12, 2014

Humor Is Sexy

Humor is attractive to men and women — but not in the same way.

The research shows women like men who make them laugh, and men like women who laugh at their jokes.

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Why is humor sexy? Funny people are smart, and smart is sexy.

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So ladies can boost their attractiveness by chuckling a bit more.

And guys, you can garner more attention by learning how to make women laugh.

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Being Liked Is Sexy

Want to increase someone’s interest in you? Might be worthwhile to make sure they find out you’re interested in them.

Via How to Make Someone Fall in Love With You in 90 Minutes or Less:

This idea is affirmed by studying the effectiveness of playing hard to get.” What’s the best way to play that game?

Establish that you’re hard to get in general — but very enthusiastic about the person you’re with.

Via Richard Wiseman’s excellent book 59 Seconds: Change Your Life in Under a Minute:

What You Talk About Is Sexy

Random conversation with someone you’re interested in can be a bad idea. Why? What you talk about can matter — a lot.

Emotional, personal information exchange promotes powerful feelings of connection.

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How effective is it? In under an hour it can create a connection stronger than a lifelong friendship.

Via Click: The Magic of Instant Connections:

(You can read the most effective things to discuss here.)

That said, don’t get so nervous about your words that you can’t speak…

When a woman is very attracted to a man, whether his pickup line is good or not doesn’t matter at all.

Via Mating Intelligence Unleashed: The Role of the Mind in Sex, Dating, and Love:

 

Personality Is Sexy

Conscientiousness is predictive of a number of very important positive elements in life.

Agreeable, conscientious people make better spouses and parents — but disagreeable, non-conscientious people have more sex partners.

The former invest in quality, and it seems like the latter make up the difference in, well, volume.

Looking to settle down? Check if that person has their ducks in a row, is organized and easy to get along with. That’s marriage material.

Via Mating Intelligence Unleashed: The Role of the Mind in Sex, Dating, and Love:

 

How They Make You Feel Is Sexy

Research shows we don’t really fall in love with a person — we fall in love with how we feel when we’re with them.

This is best demonstrated by the concept of emotional contagion: we’re bad at telling what made us feel a certain way, but good about making associations.

Feeling excited, stimulated and aroused is often associated with the people around us, even if they’re not the cause.

This can be taken to extremes: having someone try to kill you can actually make you more attracted to them.

Via The Heart of Social Psychology: A Backstage View of a Passionate Science:

Some might find the notion that we’re just “feeling junkies” un-romantic, butthis idea can save relationships and prevent divorce.

By doing things that rekindle those exciting feelings, love can be restored:

 

Love At First Sight Is Sexy

There’s still a lot about love and sex that can’t be easily quantified. Studies show “love at first sight” is real.

Via How to Make Someone Fall in Love With You in 90 Minutes or Less:

How can you increase the chance love at first sight happens to you? By believing in it.

 

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